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Hi James!! I discovered edging off of your blog a few months ago and it drives me crazy BUT I legit have no self control. I usually edge for about 30 minutes to an hour and then I just can’t stop myself from cumming. Of course once it happens it’s never as good as I expected but I was wondering if you had any tips on having more self control? I love the idea of constantly being on edge and not cumming but I always end up finishing :( help a girl out?

Set a timer, do it for just 20 minutes, and stop, stop as soon as […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

hi james, lucy again. thanks for your advice. i really appreciate it! i didn’t touch at all yesterday because of my mood, but i did end up spinning the punishment wheel today. i got pegs on my nipples + clit for 20 min. i must be a bit of a pain slut… i got wet almost immediately. i ended up teasing my clit w/ a light finger while the pegs were still on. gonna try and find little ways to keep my arousal up w/o overdoing it like last time. the pegs were a great start. ❤️ -lucy

Hi Lucy, I’m glad it was helpful. My experience is we’re all something of a […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

With the comment about balm I wanted to share one of my favourites. You need a small jar (like an empty spice jar) and fill it with lube up to three quarters full. Put in a couple of drops of tobasco sauce- literally only a couple!- the stuff which is just chillis and vinegar. Shake it up and test it- two drops is pretty mild. Then add more as you need to. I have about twenty drops in a tiny jar of lube and I love it, and you choose how strong to make it! (I might add more now actually…)

Oh that really is a homebrew!  Some will find chilli more likely to react to […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

Hi! I just tried the lovehoney bliss balm and I’ll be honest, I was a little disappointed. After hearing all the gals on your blog talking about tiger balm and toothpaste, I thought “that sounds fun, but maybe I should ease my way in”. Well the bliss balm just didn’t do much for me. Is there anything you could suggest that would be a step between an orgasm balm and something like tiger balm? Thanks!

It’s a nice product but yes, it’s very mild. A better option for you would […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

hi james. i had been denying myself since dec 26th with the intention of going for a few weeks. last night, i was edging to porn and ended up finding a vid that aroused me too much that i lost control and ended up cumming. since then, i’ve felt pretty depressed and disappointed with myself. ? do you have any tips for overcoming this feeling? thanks. -lucy

Feeling like this is natural when we fail at anything. and with the heightened emotions […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

while edging tonight, i ended up discovering an effective way of torturing myself. i teased my clit for about an hr. then once i was dripping wet, i fucked myself for 15 min without clit stimulation. i can’t cum from penetration alone and my clit was throbbing, aching to be touched. it was such a mindfuck and i wanted to cum so bad. after the 15 min was up, i removed the dildo and put myself on no touch until tomorrow. currently squirming in bed, contemplating humping until i fall asleep. ?

This is beautiful, good girl! Now do the same tomorrow, and Saturday, and maybe I’ll […]