Hmm, couldn’t tell you but let’s see if someone can! Over to you, tumblrites… Oh […]
Hey James! So I have a really weird question. I’m really into the idea of denial and usually edge myself, but I want to try it with my boyfriend. The problem is I can’t orgasm. I can do it myself, but I’ve never been able to during activities with someone else. I’ve been faking it forever. So, my question is, is it even denial if I don’t/can’t orgasm anyway? Because, I feel like I could never have the full experience :/
Hi anon, You’ve got a few options here. If you can cum by yourself but […]
hi James, quick question. do you think aiming for a month is too much for my first time edging? should i cut it down to a week? also, im edging myself, any tips on how to get myself to stop just on the edge? I’ve tried edging a few times but always mess up and allow mysterious an orgasm. thanks!
Yeah, it’s a bit overambitious. The trouble is you’re setting yourself up for failure whereas […]
do you have any tips to help with self-control? i usually can’t edge more than 3 or 4 times before i accidentally push myself over and it ruins the whole experience because i just feel disappointed in myself
Stop at three. Seriously. Three edges and you’re done. No more touching for at least […]
I was meant to have a full orgasm but my mind made me have only a ruined one. I’m so desperate and now I have to go to school.
You are your mind, sweetie. Just own it. ‘Ruined orgasms are all I’m allowed, and […]
Hi James, I was wondering if you accept anon photo submissions either here or on your BDSMLR acct? (Is that possible?) As part of my denial, I’ve been exploring clothing as a way of getting into the submissive mindset. I dress pretty modestly in public, but the thought of wearing something really revealing and having my body on display is a huge turn on for me. I took a pic the other night while wearing some of my newest outfit purchases and would love to share with you and your followers. -?
Absolutely. As long as I’m convinced it’s genuine and from you, always happy to indulge […]
Hi James, Idk if you can answer this question but lately when I’m edging the only way for me to stop myself going over is to squirt a little bit (or sometimes a lot). It’s like I have to release the pressure somehow. I’m mostly fine with it but I am a little concerned that I have so little control over it. Do you or your followers have any tips on how to not squirt if you don’t want to? Thanks and have a great day!
That’s a new one on me but I can see the logic of it. There […]
Hi James, over a year ago I remember reading an ask from a girl who wanted to be more “dirty” (or something like that) while being single. Amongst your suggestions was that while she’s in the shower she should use thick white body washes to replicate cum. A year later, I’m still doing this and I still feel dirty. So this is just an appreciation message ;)
OMG this is so great. I’d totally forgotten that advice! Thank you! I mean, if […]
thanks to your blog I’ve discovered putting toothpate on my clit it’s got that nice tingly burn to it, not enough to put me in agony but enough to make me squirm, after the main tingle wares off you’re left with gradual tingles almost like throbbing, I’ve honestly never been this wet before
also to add to my previous ask with the toothpate, ever since I did it […]
i follow you both here and on bdsmble but fot that website is so hard to use. search option is full of things spam tagged that arent actually what your looking for, so your still the only good denial blog ive been able to follow there! hows a horny denial slut supposed to get daily tasks and be told how their allowed to touch when everythings just spam porn there and blocked here! hah! love ya as always, -sav
Hi Sav, Yes, I know. BDSMLR is getting better but it’s slow and tagging’s not […]