do you think its a good idea for denial sluts to keep their pussies stuffed with a small dildo when they arent able to actively edge or do you think that just makes them more likely to accidentally go over? asking for a friend

Tell your friend it’s hot sometimes but don’t over do it. Don’t just go out for a day with a…

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I can’t really touch for the next two days, I’m in a hostel tonight and tomorrow night and basically every moment I’m either gonna be out or in a room full of people, and I am not an exhibitionist. Just wondering if there’s anything I can do to make it more fun no touch than sad no touch?

So do you always masturbate naked on top of the bed? Unless the answer is yes, you’re good to go.…

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Hi James, I am a 22yr old virgin who came across your account by mistake. After following and reading through it, i realised that every “orgasm” I’ve had whilst masturbating was actually a ruin. Wtf. I feel like my life is a lie. What do I do now? Where do I go from here? What would you have me do? On a side note, where in the UK are you from? Just so I can imagine your accent whilst reading the posts.

Well, the good news is at least you know now! I had a 60 year old woman write to me…

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Hi James, I just recently got brave enough to share with my partner that I’m into orgasm denial. I’m currently on day 5 of a 10-day denial period we agreed on, and I’ve been edging all day, but I just had an accidental ruin. What do I do? Does this mean I need to start over?

Nah, relax! Just tell them, and maybe suggest it might need a ‘funishment’, I’d suggest a bit of a spanking mixed…

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how would you safe word if you were tied up and gagged? my bf and i have a physical “”safe word”” (pinching each other) for if were gagged and not tied up and an actual safe word for just being tied up but as we get more kinky were just wary to do it without having a safe word :/

Let’s let my favourite psycho scientist answer for me: Really though, that tends to be best, jazz hands or ‘flashing’ your…

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hello and happy friday! a quick question for you, my bf and i are going to try orgasm control and denial for the first time this weekend. he has some concerns (since he is new to kink) about how he should respond during sexy times when i ask for permission to cum. do you have any suggestions or key phrases that you use?

‘No’ Yeah that about sums it up 🙂 Okay but really, this is where safewords come in really handy. Discuss…

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