I am so glad you found your asks. I thought mine was lost in cyber space. Based on your description I’m certain I’m getting a hard edge and not a ruin. I was concerned because I have given my Dom control of my orgasms (gladly) and while I knew it wasn’t a full orgasm, I couldn’t properly describe what I was feeling. Since we are LDR he couldn’t really help me figure it out. I have been very good at keeping a soft edge, but now I know the difference I can try for hard edges again!

Thank you. It wasn’t that I didn’t get the messages it’s just it didn’t show up as me having any new ones so I’d go and cry and curse Tumblr rather than actually, you know, check to see if it was wrong. Anyway, I won’t make that mistake again.

I guessed that was the reason for your question. My advice in that kind of scenario is it’s not a bad thing if you ruin occasionally too. Personally, I take that as a good sign that you’re really edging hard and well and pushing yourself. So I’d have a chat with him and ask how you accidentally ruining because you’re edging so hard would make him feel. There’s a big difference between an accidental ruin like that, and one where you’ve made the ‘disobedient’ choice to have a ruined orgasm without permission.

It doesn’t mean you don’t get punished for going over though. Because that’s hot, isn’t it. I love a good excuse to dole out a punishment.

Let us know how you get on!

James