I found a natural Dom in the flesh! He’s a conservative Christian coworker of mine. I’m not sure he knows it, and I also can’t help being attracted to him and his Dom-y ways. Any advice for someone needing control on their feelings in this?

dwpreturns:

All I have are warnings:

1.) Dating at work can be problematic. Consider what might happen if the relationship goes sour. Are you willing to leave that job if it gets uncomfortable? Make a plan before you apprach.

2.) Re: Conservative Christian, beware fundamentalism. It’s one thing to be in a relationship with a man who will dominate you because you consent; it’s quite another when that same man feels justified in subjugating you because his god said so in a book. 

Firstly if you don’t know @dwpreturns then let me recommend the blog. Good advice and a great example of fiercely monogamous kink = goals for my new gentlemandom.com blog.

But having said that, I’m going to come with a counter point to his second answer above from my own experience. 

I come from a conservative(ish) Christian background and firstly it doesn’t have to equal fundamentalism (I know, he said ‘beware’). I think this is particularly true outside of the USA, where like everything, it’s gone to extremes. 

But especially for those in the UK/Europe (can’t speak to the rest of the world), I’d actually suggest the opposite, that a church can be a GREAT place to find mature, single guys with respectful attitude towards women a natural inclination to d/s if they are pointed in the right direction.  

Don’t get me wrong, they have their arseholes in abundance too, but if you’re looking for a good guy, with dom potential and you want the odds to be in your favour:

Plus doesn’t the thought of finding some nice religious boy (I suspect the same is true for other faiths) and turning him into your very own kinky little fucker get you going? Oh yeah, that’s scratched some of you just where it itches.

From a denial perspective there’s so much fun to be had too. Whether it’s a guy or girl, there’s an in-built concept of self-restraint that you can use to very easily introduce denial, for both or either of you.

‘How about we touch, and rub, and kiss but don’t cum? That’ll be okay, won’t it?’ you whisper. 

I have an engaged Christian couple I’m tutoring in this right now (amusingly they don’t read this blog as it’s too ‘porny’). They’ve promised not to cum until their wedding night. It’s been four months so far, and they are already losing it. 

It’s amazing what you can get a horny couple to do… as long as it’s not fucking, or cumming, it’s okay, right? They might just end up the two most sexually experienced (and frustrated) virgins in the world by the time they get married (in August, lol). 

They better pray I let his cock out of the cage it’ll be in by then…

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