Hi Andi,
So a ruin is simply where you take yourself over ‘the edge’ so your orgasm begins, but as soon as you’ve passed that point of no return, you stop all stimulation. You don’t touch when you want to most, and instead your lovely orgasm turns into a world of frustration. Your body doesn’t know what to do with itself, it knows how good it should feel, but it doesn’t. All the hormones that got released as you came just keep swirling around your body and don’t seem to get ‘used up’ in the way they do.
It’s very intense and the main benefit is many women find that once you recover after ten or so minutes, you’re left just as horny, or even hornier, than you were before.
Read all about it on lots of posts on the blog:
https://female-orgasm-denial.tumblr.com/tagged/ruined%20orgasms/chrono