You really don’t need to be in a relationship to enjoy orgasm denial, that’s one of the joys of it. Sure there’s a wonderful aspect to it when you share it with someone else and give yourself over to them.
But actually, as this quote implies, you learn the most from the discipline of denial when you do it to yourself. You do it because you want to learn what you are capable of, see what your body can feel, of how far you can push yourself.
Besides it being sexy as hell, there’s even deeper things to discover. So, work on becoming master of yourself, then you can think about finding someone else to take the role