Hi James! I was wondering, is it normal to get cramps while trying out long term denial? They’re not like excruciatingly painful cramps or even painful now that I think about it. But I just want to make sure that’s normal.

If you mean an ache in  your ovaries, then yes, quite rare but normal – blue bean – is what it’s often called, girls equivalent of blue balls.

It might be related to your period and you discover edging at certain times of the month is making it worse. Some find that, while others find it makes it better. Go figure.

If it gets really bad and it’s due to edging, a ruin can fix it (after you feel like shit for 20 minutes).

However, I’m not a doctor,and cramps can be from other things too, period pains, gas, or a hundred other things, so just keep an eye on it and do try a ruined orgasm to see if that fixes it, then  you’ll know. Bodies are wonderful, and weird. Trust your instinct and see a doctor if you’re worried, that’s what they are for.