Archive for : September, 2018

My sir wants me to wear no panties with a shirt skirt for a day but I’m on my period:( would it be a turn off if I was wearing a tampon?

Not to me but people are weird about something 30% of the world’s population are undergoing monthly so you may want to ask him.

I’d just suggest you snip the string short so you don’t get a dangle.

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Found on a Northern Rail train

Love it!

It’s a good place to do it actually, with a coat over your lap, the rhythm of the train pulsing through you…

Ohhh but we have something better…


A town called Ruining. We Dutchies use -en instead of -ing in a lot of adopted English words.

Ruining in the passenger seat… hmmm ^^

We could hold an annual convention!

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I recognize several stolen gifts and content in your humping instruction post. Before I contact the models themselves, I urge you to take down the gifs of cammodels. They work hard, have token goals for their pillow hump shows, and I promise you that despite the edgy cool beautiful gifs they make, it is still theft. The most used gifs in your humping thread are of nataliagrey and I also saw fuuka. Both are models I know personally.

Hi @mistresscrymson, thanks for that.

There is actually an important debate going on about whether it does constitute theft. As far as I understand it there is no definitive ruling on whether gifs fall under the copyright doctrine of ‘fair use’ or not. It’s partly why the whole new

Directive on Copyright in the Digital Single Market from the EU is a potential internet breaker. (And you thought things got dumb with the US net neutrality bullshit…)

The core of the debate is does a gif infringe copyright, because it is only a small part of the original material and if it’s being used in a ‘limited and transformative’ manner, as I’d argue I do, then it is covered by the fair use rules. In simple terms, no one is not going to buy tokens for the camgirl because they saw the gif instead.

In fact, I’d argue that it’s MORE likely to increase her income as it will point people to her. Which is why it’s so good if you can get names or sites of where they are from, which you’ve supplied me with and I’ll absolutely add to the post if they would like that (or you can pass on their details). That undoubtedly is a downside of Tumblr, so much unattributed work out there, so it’s always great if you see something and can point readers back to the source in notes if the OP hasn’t. 

I have no doubt you’ll want to argue with that, so do let me know your thoughts, and any followers chip in. I’m happy to be corrected but this is how I understand it and one of the reasons I’m very ‘gif happy’. I’d really like to hear from your friends too, if they want to message me. Do they think it’s a dick move? I want to know. A lot of Tumblr works in a big grey area of the interweb, and I’m very open to hearing what they’d prefer, not to be featured at all, or if the classic ‘any publicity is good publicity’ angle works for them.



I’ve never had an orgasm from soley penetration, but it feels like I get very, very close… Any tips? :(

Well, of course given this is an orgasm denial blog, I could just say, this is perfect, keep it just as it is. Having a way to just edge yourself crazy without the risk of going over is super hot and useful.

Women I teach to orgasm from penetration (and yes I do that, we love orgasms here, we just love not having them even more) they regularly later express they wish they hadn’t learnt!

For g-spot/vaginal orgasms a lot is about technique and the right tools. So make sure you’re using a good dildo with a curve on it, like the one I recommend on my toys page. Or a vibrator that really hits the spot – there are many designed to get to your g-spot.

The stats are generally about 30% of women can orgasm from penetration alone. Now I’m firmly of the belief that’s because most women are just expecting it to happen by magic, letting Mr Wondercock do it all. Like anything, some training and practise can make a huge difference.

In my own experience 70-80% of women can cum from penetration alone if they work at it.

The orgasm fundamentals apply, that is, the two rules of ‘pressure’ – that you want to create sexual pressure in your body, through tensing and breathing technique, while you let go of pressure with your mind, don’t over think, focus on what turns you on.

Have a look at my posts or edging technique and basically do the opposite!

Add to that good fucking technique, getting in a good position, using a toy that can actually get to your g-spot (or deeper if you’re very aroused by deep penetration, many are).

And finally, for many the thing that holds them back is when you get it right you feel a need to pee. This is NOT you wanting to pee. This is you building up ejaculate. Read more here

So, right toys, right technique, and some practise and you’ll get there.

The question is do you really want to?


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Those with children that are into spanking, how do you do it on the regular? I’d be down for alot more but between living with the in-laws and our 2.5 month old, it doesn’t happen very often.



D/s folks with kids, how do you manage this?

  • No bondage, in case we need to react quickly.
  • Plastic coat hangers
  • A thick wooden rod from Home Depot for a thuddy cane-like feel. I should have painted or stained it but if it comes to that, it’s cheap to replace. While you’re there, get two eye-screws and remember the diameter, then drill that size of a hole on either end of the rod, and then when you are able to have reliable privacy, you’ve got a spreader bar. Mine is pretty long so it’s unwieldy to use for caning (it’s more like hitting with a staff!) but the extra mass means more impact for the same speed.
  • Pinching. Rhythmic pinching. 🙂
  • Breath play… It doesn’t need to be heavy, panic inducing, or otherwise sadistic. A hand over the nose and mouth, counting down from ten, release and praise, then repeat, never too long, never tricking or mindfucking, always encouraging, does wonders. I know it’s not spanking or impact play, but sometimes it’s more about submitting to trust, connection, so this might be more satisfying than you’d think.
  • biting/scratching
  • Pussy spanking with a closed first is thuddy and not too loud.

Rule #1 for kinky parents


Add to that some music and you’re good for a lot of it. But seriously, get a lock and 90% of the issues are gone. It means you can never get interrupted without warning.

If you’re at someone else’s home or similar bring a portable lock with you:

(They’re also great for security when travelling) You can get them on Amazon for $20 or so.

If you’re a cheap bastard like me you can even make one from a fork:

But the best bit, for the one you have at home (and sliding bolts are best for this) is you go into the bedroom, reach up to it, make eye contact with her and slide that fucker home and she knows it’s ‘game on’!


PS – @femsubdenial Get some under the bed restraints for bondage, not rope, you can get out of them in 5 seconds, although I personally enjoy the, ‘Mummy’s a bit tied up at the moment sweetheart, what can I do to help?’ conversations.

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ive edged since the start of school (3 weeks) and let slip to one of my friends i trust, but i didnt know they were kinky (theyre very kinky i found out) and they keep teasing me during school and during lunch and theyll rub my clothed clit discreetly when were in public and they spanked me in public (nothing too harsh just a really good smack or two) and im dripping so much like thursday there was no room so they let me in their lap and ground up into me and they held me in place im soaked-dani

Oh Dani, what a lucky girl you are! And well done for stepping out and taking that risk, I’m so glad it’s paying off.

I find in almost all cases when you take a bit of a risk with friends you trust, and just let it slip that you’re a bit kinky, they open up that they are too. At the very least they are positive about it, because they like you, and so they like learning about what you’re into.

Time and again I hear of friends finally sharing only to discover they’ve BOTH missed out on years of sharing that part of their lives with each other, whether it’s as just friends who can talk about anything, or something with more benefits, as you so delightfully describe.

Just be aware, adding ‘benefits’ to any friendship does complicate things, and as much as you might enjoy just going with the flow for now, at some point soon you do want to have a sit down and just discuss what’s happening, what your expectations are, how you define boundaries, etc. As we don’t want the fun to mess up all the good things you already have with them, we want it to be an extra dimension.

Wanna let it slip?

If you’re looking to ‘let it slip’ on purpose, then edging is actually a really interesting way to segue into it. It’s because it sits right on the boundaries of classic BDSM that so many have wrong impressions about, and come to with prejudged ‘whips and gags and gimps, oh my!’ kind of mindset (if they aren’t into it).

Edging however, well it’s more about masturbation, and everyone does that right… But then the idea that you’d NOT cum on purpose, is truly intriguing.

The way I’d suggest works?

‘God I’m so horny’

That’s it, simple as that. If they are open to talking about sex, they’ll ask why or suggest something, if not, they’ll just laugh about it. If they don’t follow up, that’s fine too. Maybe they will later, maybe they won’t.

And assuming they do ask why, or suggest something ‘Oh I’m edging, not allowed to cum’ Simple as that. You have them hooked. Again, they give consent to get into this by asking more. And they almost always want to know more at that point.

That opens you up to talking about sex, masturbation, edging, give your own story, what you like about it, how it makes you feel. If they’re interested, it can branch off into other kinky things. And if they are the slightest bit kinky themselves, you being open will get them to admit they are too. And you’ll actually get to talk about it, and you’ll suddenly realise it wasn’t such a big deal.

And then, who knows what can happen. Maybe they’ll turn out to be dom/me or at least a denial bitch and you can experience what the OP has, or perhaps denial buddies is a path to explore, or most likely, you just discover you have friends you can share this kind of stuff with and let it deepen your friendship even further.

Some stats for you

I monitor visits to this blog from the web (i.e. not tumblr) and 1.25 million people have visited it since I set it up. That does NOT include you lot visiting it from within Tumblr, on the dashboard or app. That’s hundreds of thousands more regular visitors on top of these numbers.

50% of people who search for ‘female orgasm denial’ visit this blog. So that means 2.5 million people have searched for it in the last three years. It’s starting to get to the level of popularity where I’m getting reports of followers opening up to their friends, only to find their friends follow me too.

What’s the chances yours do? Maybe it’s time to find out, and if they don’t already, get them started. You know how great it is, why wouldn’t you want them to know too?

Become an Edging Evangelist today.

Thanks OP for the great report, let us know how you get on!

So, I’ve done denial before but like my issue is that I’ll just be like ‘one more edge’ and then I go too far and I’m just like oh well. But I wanna give it a serious try this time. Would mind terribly maybe giving me a set number of edges and a set number of days to maintain it pretty please?

Let’s try something a bit different.

At least five edges a day, BUT as soon as you get to the edge, you stop, that’s it. You have to wait at least an hour until your next one.

One has to be done first thing before you get up, another last thing at night. But the rule is the same for all of them.

Let us know how you get on with that.