James, I’m a trans guy and I absolutely loved the paragraph you wrote. It made me so happy to realize that there are lots of FUN options for tackling dysphoria! It doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom all the time. Also, I don’t think you were fetishizing at all. It made me feel good to be represented in a sexual way because a lot of people don’t acknowledge trans folk as potential sexual partners. I thought you handled everything beautifully, and props to you for asking a friend. – Roz