you’re totally right about the nutjob thing. I’m lesbian and can’t get off when not being a sub, which sucks cause you also have to be in a relationship with these people. so many abusive relationships just cause I’ve been cursed with kinkiness.

Okay so it’s not just me… Yeah, that really sucks. I don’t know what it is but some of the most disturbing experiences I’ve ever had have been with lesbian dommes. 

I’m not saying male doms don’t harbour their fair share of nutters, I’ve spent way too much time on those so called BDSM dating sites just utterly fascinated, and scared, by what I find there. But you need to treat those sites like a zoo, it’s fun to visit and pull faces at the monkeys but you really don’t want to be a resident.

Anyway OP, here’s hoping you find your needle in the haystack!