when i ruin my orgasms, i don’t feel horny afterwards, if anything i feel more horny after regular orgasms. also, whenever i try to hard edge, even when i back off as soon as i start to feel an orgasm build it just feels like a ruin and i’m too sensitive to continue edging afterwards. should i just stick to soft edges because it doesn’t seem to be doing anything for me at all

Hi Anon, 

Ruined orgasms really do vary from person to person, so this is okay, just a bit annoying. Firstly, try then occasionally as that can change, depending on time of the month or just for no apparent reason at all. 

But initially I’d recommend you don’t give up hard edges yet (although just soft edges is a real mind fuck and well worth trying sometime) – just try to make them not AS hard. You don’t have to absolutely push yourself to the limits of nearly cumming. Just make it feel REALLY good but never get to a point where just a few rubs could take you over. That sounds like it might be the optimum edging point for you, at least for now.

Let us know how you get on!

James