No, virginity isn’t a physical thing, it’s a concept – you technically only lose it when a penis enters your vagina. Nothing else does it, Not a finger, not a hairbrush handle, not a tampon, not panties, not a dildo, not even if you stuck a hand in there (although what’s lesbian etiquette, does a strap on count, someone tell me).
The physical part of virginity is related to the hymen, a thin membrane that most but not all women have a little way into their vagina, but this is more of a frill than a covering, a common misconception. If you don’t know about the hymen you NEED TO WATCH THIS VIDEO.
Read this too and feel free to come back with any more questions – I love sex ed!
Send me your sex-ed queries, no such thing as a stupid question.