Hi there, thanks for sharing that, I think it’s so great that you did.
Any time you start playing around with gender identity you’re going to get some thinking it’s controversial. I guess because of all the recent openness and movement that’s happening across the world towards accepting it, there are natural fears that ‘you can’t admit that, it’ll ruin all the progress!’.
But that’s not how kinks work, it turns you on, and there’s not a lot you can do about that, and so I think your attitude is great – it doesn’t hurt anyone, in fact most don’t even realise they’ve indulged your kink. How perfect.
Don’t spend too much time worrying about your kinks. But also, don’t spend too much time focusing on them. There are so many wonderful things to experience sexually, emotionally, intellectually – for me the crime is when you just narrow yourself down to the experiences you know work for you, and never try anything new. So mix it up, but don’t be ashamed of what you enjoy.
If you haven’t read it yet, check out my conversations with another trans guy – Jordan. I got some shit for the fantasies I offered him in that thread, but ultimately he wrote back and said how much he loved them. And that’s what mattered.