‘Stop sooner’ was a joke, but yes, never a bad thing to explore a different perspective. However it’s a very different mentality to be dominant or enjoy denying someone else. What’s really required is self-control, and that’s developed through practise, perseverance and pain. Actually I just added the pain bit as it started with ‘p’ but I’m sure it’s useful. Try adding a clothes peg to your body each time you fail and see how fast you develop more self control…