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Ever since owning a vibrator, I’ve always used one to edge. I decided to try things manually today instead. It took me a lot longer to reach an edge with just my fingers, but the arousal has stuck around SO much longer. It’s been hours since I edged and I feel like my clit sensitivity is somehow higher? I got a shower after my last edge and I swore I could feel every trail of water against my clit. This discovery is going to make 2019 very interesting…

What a great discovery, it’s one of the reasons I suggest a morning edge should be done fingers only, and vibes if allowed at all should be saved for your nighttime edge.

I suggest you try a ‘Wet January’ – no vibes this month, just fingers. At least twice a day, and as few orgasms as you can manage…

Good girl.

Hi James, I am a 22yr old virgin who came across your account by mistake. After following and reading through it, i realised that every “orgasm” I’ve had whilst masturbating was actually a ruin. Wtf. I feel like my life is a lie. What do I do now? Where do I go from here? What would you have me do? On a side note, where in the UK are you from? Just so I can imagine your accent whilst reading the posts.

Well, the good news is at least you know now! I had a 60 year old woman write to me with the same revelation once, imagine that…

In terms of what to do, you need to…

Oh wait a minute, accent right… I’m a well spoken English chap, grew up in Surrey mostly. I’ve been told I have a ‘voice for radio’, (I’m pretty sure it was voice, not face). I’m a singer too,  bass baritone, so quite a melodic voice, and you can imagine me whispering all these dirty things in your ear knowing that when I say ‘please’ it’s never because I’m asking.

Good enough?

So what you need to do, is cum. Cum a lot. For now. Get over the ‘living a lie’ thing and reframe it as ‘I appear to be a natural denial slut’.

I suggest fingers first time, if you can, then a vibe. It’ll take you some time to get used to keeping rubbing as you climax, but you will. If you’re little virgin pussy can handle it I suggest you get the dildo I recommend on my toys page and learn to cum from being fucked too. It’s ever so handy.

Just don’t get used to it.

A girl who’s ruined all her orgasms is destined to be a denial slut, don’t you think?

So be a good girl, get your hand between your legs, and start rubbing. Please.


PS Then again, some really fucked up little virgin sluts would find the thought of never having had a full orgasm a huge turn on, and would hope I’d actually tease them about it, tell them how good a full orgasm is, promise them to teach them, and then deny them anyway. Call them my little virgin ‘brand new in box’ denial slut and decide that’s how they should be kept. THAT kind of girl, well she needs to be brave and message me directly…

I’ve recently come out of a relationship where he always used to make me edge for him, and now i can’t seem to do it myself. I managed one edge this morning but the second time i accidentally went over and ruined. I started crying i was so ashamed of myself. Can you give me a routine to follow to get me back into doing it properly?

Hey there,

Yes, I could but I’m going to suggest something different. I’d like you to masturbate, and cum, as much as you can, all week. No feeling bad about it, no guilt, no shame.

Orgasms are good. Get that back into your head. Cum your brains out for me.

Then, once that’s all out of your system, we’ll get you denied and edging. Because orgasms are good, but edging is even better.

Good girl.

James

A Very Special Treat – time limited

female-orgasm-denial:

So, I have something special for you all for the next 23ish hours.

I recently challenged a denial obsessed friend of mine to write down those fantasies that she’d never dared talk or write about before, in order to earn a ruined orgasm.

She completed the task so magnificently that she earned a possible upgrade, to a full orgasm, if she’d be prepared to share her most intimate fantasies with all of you too.

She agreed.

(Given her biggest kink besides denial is degradation and humiliation, that wasn’t a huge surprise.)

It’s an anonymous, private tumblr blog, which means it’s accessible using just a password. So you can’t reblog, or even like them.

So if you would like to add comments, and make her squirm, and tell her just how hot, or disgusting, or both, her dark fantasies are, then I encourage you to use the comments on this post for that. Maybe say which are your favourites, or be shocked at how a ‘good girl’ could even get off thinking about things like that.

She’s now at work, knowing you lot are about to delve into her darkest fantasies – wearing an inflatable dildo to stop her drenching her trousers.

She’ll be cumming when she gets home, reading your comments.

This is the blog:

secretsandkink.tumblr.com (it’s a smart link that’ll count how many people visit it, just to make her squirm even more – if that doesn’t work for some reason here’s the direct link)

The password is also: secretsandkink

Obviously this is NSFW so you have to be logged in and over 18 to view. Some are struggling to access via the phone app so you may need to log in via your browser – this worked for me.

12noon UK time tomorrow it’ll be changed, and you won’t be able to read them any more.

Trigger warnings: There’s plenty of non-consent, some infibulation, and watersports in there, so if that isn’t your thing, move on.

About fantasies

As I’ve said before, thinking these kind of things is actually quite normal. if you’re a horny little whatsit then having fantasies like these means just one thing – you have a beautifully creative mind. They are just fantasies. It doesn’t mean you want them in real life. For example, non-consent fantasies, especially rape, are consistently one of the most common among all women. You should not feel guilty about them It’s okay. It is just a fantasy.

Similarly though, you shouldn’t let yourself get obsessed with them. I had a message this week from someone telling me they were obsessed with a very, very dark topic, so dark I’m not even replying to it directly, asking me if that was okay. And my answer is don’t feel guilty about it but it’s not good for you, and she knew that, or she wouldn’t be asking. 

It’s okay to go paddling in the sea of dark fantasies, that’s your mind being creative and letting off steam, but don’t go swimming out in those dark waters, or you might just drown in them. 

Mix it up, you know what’s good for you. Trust your instincts before they get too blunted. 

If you’ve got a fantasy you’d like to share, message me with it or send it in an ask – maybe I’ll turn it into a caption and you’ll see it come to life on the blog.

In the meantime, enjoy these, they are GREAT, and maybe they’ll spark some new ones for you!

James

Just a signal boost.
Thanks for all the great notes so far!

A Very Special Treat – time limited

So, I have something special for you all for the next 23ish hours.

I recently challenged a denial obsessed friend of mine to write down those fantasies that she’d never dared talk or write about before, in order to earn a ruined orgasm.

She completed the task so magnificently that she earned a possible upgrade, to a full orgasm, if she’d be prepared to share her most intimate fantasies with all of you too.

She agreed.

(Given her biggest kink besides denial is degradation and humiliation, that wasn’t a huge surprise.)

It’s an anonymous, private tumblr blog, which means it’s accessible using just a password. So you can’t reblog, or even like them.

So if you would like to add comments, and make her squirm, and tell her just how hot, or disgusting, or both, her dark fantasies are, then I encourage you to use the comments on this post for that. Maybe say which are your favourites, or be shocked at how a ‘good girl’ could even get off thinking about things like that.

She’s now at work, knowing you lot are about to delve into her darkest fantasies – wearing an inflatable dildo to stop her drenching her trousers.

She’ll be cumming when she gets home, reading your comments.

This is the blog:

secretsandkink.tumblr.com (it’s a smart link that’ll count how many people visit it, just to make her squirm even more – if that doesn’t work for some reason here’s the direct link)

The password is also: secretsandkink

Obviously this is NSFW so you have to be logged in and over 18 to view. Some are struggling to access via the phone app so you may need to log in via your browser – this worked for me.

12noon UK time tomorrow it’ll be changed, and you won’t be able to read them any more.

Trigger warnings: There’s plenty of non-consent, some infibulation, and watersports in there, so if that isn’t your thing, move on.

About fantasies

As I’ve said before, thinking these kind of things is actually quite normal. if you’re a horny little whatsit then having fantasies like these means just one thing – you have a beautifully creative mind. They are just fantasies. It doesn’t mean you want them in real life. For example, non-consent fantasies, especially rape, are consistently one of the most common among all women. You should not feel guilty about them It’s okay. It is just a fantasy.

Similarly though, you shouldn’t let yourself get obsessed with them. I had a message this week from someone telling me they were obsessed with a very, very dark topic, so dark I’m not even replying to it directly, asking me if that was okay. And my answer is don’t feel guilty about it but it’s not good for you, and she knew that, or she wouldn’t be asking. 

It’s okay to go paddling in the sea of dark fantasies, that’s your mind being creative and letting off steam, but don’t go swimming out in those dark waters, or you might just drown in them. 

Mix it up, you know what’s good for you. Trust your instincts before they get too blunted. 

If you’ve got a fantasy you’d like to share, message me with it or send it in an ask – maybe I’ll turn it into a caption and you’ll see it come to life on the blog.

In the meantime, enjoy these, they are GREAT, and maybe they’ll spark some new ones for you!

James

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No Bra Club Inductee!

I think it’s late enough in the evening I can give you my experiences. I don’t know why I even wear a bra in the first place…I’m small and firm enough (even in my 40s) to go without. In the winter, it is a nice extra layer of warmth? Well, I didn’t put one on today, not even a lace camisole as an underlayer and threw on a sweatshirt. (Somewhat cheating as it’s thick, but it’s coooold!).
The fabric rubbed and I could feel every bounced. Then I was tasked to put Bobbi Pins on my nipples for a time today. I did and they were low profile enough to not be seen through the sweatshirt. Had to then go downstairs and my tits ached so bad! The pins were making every step down an effort. Usually when I wear pins I have my bra on so there’s no moving…
But, I used the small Bobbi Pins, they have a lower profile but pinch harder. I can only take about 10 minutes. Taking them off and going about my day, my nipples have been at such high attention I can see them through my sweatshirt!!!!Thank you for this challenge!

Wonderful, great job! And wearing a thick jumper over the top is entirely valid! The idea of the No Bra Club is not shoving your nips in everyone’s face, it’s just the feeling of freedom it gives you. 

Although, when it is warmer, it’s also about not being ashamed of the fact you have nipples! God forbid we show the slightest bit of sexuality, huh… 

OH that’s right, it’s only lady’s nipples that we should be ashamed about, silly me…

#freethenipple

Thank goodness for St Jennifer

The OG for #freethenipple

And as we pursue the ‘No Bra Club’ concept, can I just give a more serious message that nobody should be wearing bras in bed, seriously:

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/body/health/news/a49678/what-happens-body-sleep-with-bra-on/

I’m going to go further and say, if you haven’t, try sleeping naked, it’s awesome (periods and privacy aside).

So there’s a denial task for today if you don’t already, strip for your last edge, and stay that way until morning, and tell us all about it!

Hi James, it’s me Molly. Thank you so much for answering me and I’m so excited to have started my week/five days of denial! I realized that you probably get I don’t know how many notes a day, so I figured I would just shoot you another ask to let you know I have in fact created a blog to document my experience on in case you or any of your followers are interested in that! Thanks again and I hope you have a good day! :)

Hi Molly!

Hot damn, that’s a fine denial journal you have going there. I love it, good girl!

Here you go, have lots of attention:

https://dearmolly.tumblr.com/

No pressure though, just because thousands of people will be reading about  how you’re being a good little denial slut, rubbing and masturbating and edging for us, make sure you still focus on having fun 😉

Oh and nice work on the anal exploration, very interesting impact!

We can’t wait to see how you get on!

A very pleased,

James

Hey James! I’ve always wanted to try edging but I kept failing. Last week I managed to do it and lasted for 4 days. Unfortunately last night when I was edging myself I slipped over even though I tried to hold it in, but I ruined my orgasm. 4 days is the longer time I’ve spent in denial and I’m quite satisfied so I would like to be praised but I also feel bad bc I slipped over and I want you to punish me. I usually hump smth or rub my clit, I’ve never fingered myself. Also, I love your blog!!

I love my blog too! And really Anon, let’s look on the bright side, 4 days is brilliant for a first proper go, I’m very proud of you!

I’m not sure quite how bad you actually feel vs just being a little punishment slut so let’s find out. You want to get punished, I want 7 days edging without cumming, then I’ll come up with a nice juicy punishment for you!

Oh and the moment you read this you’re not allowed to cum, just in case you tried slipping another cheeky one in before you tried for the full week.

Have fun!

James x

Am I your biggest fan? I really love the captions on your tumblr. Especially the really messed up/ unfair ones. They’re so bad, but get me so wet.

Oh Kendra, I’m sorry, you’re not my biggest fan.

You’re to edge yourself stupid while chatting to a friend and then accidentally post the link to a messed up caption to them (one that they can cope with but will seriously embarrass you). Alternatively post it to your cute little blog. You can cum if you get ten likes…

Good girl!

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