Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

Hi James, I’ve been exploring orgasm control with my s/o for a couple weeks now and I love it. But there are times when I need to put my mental health first and have to use my safeword and take a break. How can I stop feeling so guilty when I use my safeword? It’s not because I’m afraid of disappointing my partner. I know that he understands and I talk to him about how I feel. It’s more that I’m disappointed in myself and that only makes me feel worse. Do you have any advice for me?

Hi anon, great question. The first thing is to talk about it, more. I know […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

hi james i’m stephanie and i’ve been denied for 3 months now and i’ve been on strict edging every day with an exceptionally no touch for a week every month along with sleeping with a dildo in every other night, and my master is allowing me to cum but only if i get permission from you. please may i cum? i’ve been such a good girl! master even said if i am allowed to cum he’ll have fun with post orgasm torture with me so pleaaassseeee may i cum please?

Hi Stephanie, Sounds like you have totally earned an orgasm. That tends to make me […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

How is it possible to ‘hold an edge’ with continuous stimulation? I see many blog posts (and a few videos) where girls are made to hold the edge while maybe, having a vibrator pressed against them or something along that line. I can’t seem to quite understand how that works though (or at least I can’t hold an edge like how it seems to be described, I just tip over immediately).

Some seem to find it much easier than others. For many though, with some practise, […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

Hi James! I recently introduced my husband to orgasm denial and he’s been really receptive and it’s been great so far. He’s been denying me for a few weeks and said that I’d get to cum soon. The problem is that I love being denied and I don’t think I want to cum. Should I just be thankful that he’s denied me this far, or should I ask him to keep going with it? Any advice?

Lovely to hear from a couple as always. This is genuinely a tricky one, as […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

So, I was inspired by your game for the girl who has gone 272 days without an orgasm (quite impressive of her) and have decided to do something similar to my sub. She gets extremely turned on by orgasm denial (her last being her birthday 2 months ago) and I was going to let her cum on Valentine’s day, but after (both of us) seeing the post and game, she wants to try and go longer, with more edges per day. She always was the competitive one. That post is definitely a favorite!

So, I always like to try and confound a sub’s expectations just to keep them […]