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Hi James, I’ve been exploring orgasm control with my s/o for a couple weeks now and I love it. But there are times when I need to put my mental health first and have to use my safeword and take a break. How can I stop feeling so guilty when I use my safeword? It’s not because I’m afraid of disappointing my partner. I know that he understands and I talk to him about how I feel. It’s more that I’m disappointed in myself and that only makes me feel worse. Do you have any advice for me?

Hi anon, great question. The first thing is to talk about it, more. I know […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

How is it possible to ‘hold an edge’ with continuous stimulation? I see many blog posts (and a few videos) where girls are made to hold the edge while maybe, having a vibrator pressed against them or something along that line. I can’t seem to quite understand how that works though (or at least I can’t hold an edge like how it seems to be described, I just tip over immediately).

Some seem to find it much easier than others. For many though, with some practise, […]

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What would you recommend for a very special occasion for my girl? Dirty talk, teasing, hard fucking to the edge, and then stopping and edging her with my mouth in the most gentle way possible? Or working her up very slowly, over 1hr, starting with a full body erotic message and long, slow, building oral followed by lots of edging? Both will result in plenty of orgasms eventually, even to the point of forcing them until she’s properly fucked out and glassy-eyed. But which lead up would be better?

Well, everyone’s different so you’ll know better than me I’d expect but I’d go for […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

Hi James! I recently introduced my husband to orgasm denial and he’s been really receptive and it’s been great so far. He’s been denying me for a few weeks and said that I’d get to cum soon. The problem is that I love being denied and I don’t think I want to cum. Should I just be thankful that he’s denied me this far, or should I ask him to keep going with it? Any advice?

Lovely to hear from a couple as always. This is genuinely a tricky one, as […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

So, I was inspired by your game for the girl who has gone 272 days without an orgasm (quite impressive of her) and have decided to do something similar to my sub. She gets extremely turned on by orgasm denial (her last being her birthday 2 months ago) and I was going to let her cum on Valentine’s day, but after (both of us) seeing the post and game, she wants to try and go longer, with more edges per day. She always was the competitive one. That post is definitely a favorite!

So, I always like to try and confound a sub’s expectations just to keep them […]

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I was begging my boyfriend for an orgasm for a month before he finally gave in to me… but he was very cruel. He got me to the edge then ruined it, but put the wand vibe straight back on my clit at it’s most sensitive, and carried this in for two hours, and oh god I got no satisfaction and it hurt so much. He now threatens to make me cum when I’m acting up, but I don’t want to cause it hurt so much last time

Welcome to the mindfuck of Post Orgasm Torture. He probably got inspired by this post: […]

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James, thank you so much for the time you put on this blog. Not only it is hot, but it’s also nice to have porn and fantasies without a bunch of misinformation and unrealistic expectations, I’m sure I’m not the only one who appreciates your advice about kink in general, Anyway, I’m not very experienced , so I hope it’s ok that I came to you with my question. Are “forced orgasms” possible in real life or is it just a porn thing? Can you really cum to the point of pain and still keep cumming? How?

They absolutely are! For guys and girls! There’s a bit of a cross over between […]