Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

Hey James! So I have a really weird question. I’m really into the idea of denial and usually edge myself, but I want to try it with my boyfriend. The problem is I can’t orgasm. I can do it myself, but I’ve never been able to during activities with someone else. I’ve been faking it forever. So, my question is, is it even denial if I don’t/can’t orgasm anyway? Because, I feel like I could never have the full experience :/

Hi anon, You’ve got a few options here. If you can cum by yourself but […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

Hey there, I have never been able to have an orgasm during sex before, but rather feel satisfied with the act itself. Ironically, all I would care about when I would play with myself was getting a bunch of orgasms in. Now, having tried denial(although I haven’t been able to edge recently really[I keep accidentally cumming]), it is awesome and makes me playtime more fun and difficult. Even talked to my boy about it and we may be adding it to our play. Love your blog!

Thank you! It’s definitely worth adding in, and can I suggest if he’s up for […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

Hi James, I thought I’d ask your advice on the fact that even though I love edging, sometimes I do it so much that when it comes to ruining or actually cumming I can’t go over? It’s not a mental thing, I can feel it comig and then it just kind of fizzles and isn’t the same as a real orgasm. Should I take a break or is there something I can do to make sure I feel it properly?

This isn’t uncommon. I put it down to your body just getting used to edges […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

hi james – long-time fan of your blog, looking for some advice. most of the time when i edge, it’s with my clit. however, my clit has never been all that sensitive. it takes a lot of vibrator power or hours of teasing by hand to even get to an edge. even as i edge more, the sensitivity just isn’t there. do you have any suggestions on boosting sensitivity? i was thinking about trying a clit pump before i edge, but i was curious if you had any other ideas. thank you! // -josie

Hi Josie, So clit pumps definitely can help with sensitivity, but they’re a bit annoying […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

James, this Monday, 6/18, I’m going to come after 15 days of denial. This is a crazy long time for me. I was wondering if you had any devious ways to make the first orgasm after a while even better. Like, should I edge like crazy first, ruin, do no touch? I just want to maximize the pleasure. If you have any input on this it would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks for everything! -B

Hi B, really good question, quick answer as I’m just off to make dinner! Don’t […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

I have been thinking about orgasms lately and how I have never had someone else make me cum and it made me start to really think about when l “cum”. I put that it quotes because I am starting to think I am not really cumming. I tend to stop when it feels overwhelmingly good and then I am left wet and squirmy. I always assumed that overwhelmingly good was cumming but as I read it seems I might just be edging or ruining them. How do I know? — Squirming Sage.

Hello Sage, Do your ‘orgasms’ leave you aching for more? Could you rub your clit hard […]