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Part 1/3 Hi James. I was sexting this guy I know last night and he wanted me to finger myself. I’ve done this before with one finger, and tried it with two, but the latter still hurts. Anyway, I really wanted to but I’m on my period so I told him it was a no-go. He was totally understanding, but then made a comment about how if he was here in person that wouldn’t faze him or stop him from playing with me in the slightest. 😳

I’ve grown up in a brown household where not only is sex taboo to talk about, but periods are even considered so gross that women are sometimes shunned from dinner tables for having them. So I was both shocked and flattered to know it didn’t bother him at all. But since I grew up that way, it’s hard for me to think of anyone going near that area, that time of moth, without it feeling a little uncomfortable and weird.

My question is: Where do you stand on this, and what are some ways I could embrace this? It’s actually a huge turn on for me that someone wouldn’t see that as a barrier of any sort. And now I’m wondering what would happen if I did manage to find a real life partner with the same open-minded attitude. Thanks!

What a great, and important question. 

Periods are a pain in the arse. And that’s coming from someone whose full extent of impact is that I’ll get a blow job or fuck my wife in the arse when she’s on hers. I know, male fucking entitlement right.

So, as to your question, there are a few things I can suggest. Firstly is the shower is your best friend here. Practically, if we do have period sex that’s almost always where we have it. Because it’s perfect. You get those cute pink trails down her legs as I fuck her and finally it mixes with cum. Yummy, almost artistic. 

So that’s where I’d start, edging and finger fucking yourself in the shower. Personally, I’d also try the bath, I have no qualms about sitting in hot, soapy bloody water but I’m sure others will.

Another twist lots of denial sluts enjoy is actually using it as a time you can’t touch. Or even only being allowed anal play during your period is an idea that many I’ve suggested it to find to be arousing. That last day of it, where you have to do a wipe test and if there’s the slightest hint of pink you’ve got another day’s no touch. Oh what erotic torture it is.

Really though, just kicking the stupid idea that it’s some kind of curse out of your headspace and being completely matter of fact about it will be an amazing breakthrough. Some find edging helps with their periods, others find emotionally and physically it makes it harder. Figure out what’s the case for you. Whichever is okay.

It is also my solemn duty to tell you about Moon Cups and their ilk because EVERY SINGLE TIME I post about periods I get lots of messages telling me I forgot. My wife has used them for years and for many they’re quite a gamechanger, so check them out.

I hope that helps,

James 

PS Don’t wait for some sexting dude to tell you to finger yourself. Get horny, get some lube and get exploring. It’s your body, Have fun figuring out what it likes.

My sir wants me to wear no panties with a shirt skirt for a day but I’m on my period:( would it be a turn off if I was wearing a tampon?

Not to me but people are weird about something 30% of the world’s population are undergoing monthly so you may want to ask him.

I’d just suggest you snip the string short so you don’t get a dangle.

im very very horny but unfortunately i am on my period… are there any creative ways i can get off while bleeding?? please? im desperate.

Firstly, credit for using ‘while I’m bleeding’ – so good to just be straight about periods. They’re natural, annoying and nothing to be ashamed or coy about.

As for ideas, LOTS here:

https://female-orgasm-denial.tumblr.com/tagged/periods/chrono

Hi James I have a question about edging whilst on my period, is there a way to do it where it’s not messy? Sorry if this has been asked before but I didn’t find anything on it in your tags. Thanks 🙏🏽

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female-orgasm-denial:

Great question!

A tampon is really your best friend for edging during your period, especially the first few days. I know there are reasons some of you don’t want to use them but I do encourage you to read this excellent gif loaded article on why you might want to reconsider:

https://www.bustle.com/articles/121477-are-tampons-better-than-pads-we-measured-the-pros-cons

If you’ve never tried them, then let me really, really strongly encourage you to try. Give them a few days to get used to, educate yourself on them first, but do give it a go. Whenever I’ve had a sub who was using pads and got them to do this they ultimately have ALL said ‘why the hell didn’t I do this before now?’.

If you don’t like them, then that’s fine, but at least you’re making an educated choice. Plus if it helps you’re free to try it and think about the fact you’re walking around in public with your pussy stuffed on a dom’s orders… you’re welcome!

Besides that, well another plan is to do it in the shower, or bath. Yep, bath is good too, especially after the first couple of heavy days are over. It’s only blood, people. If I’d eat you out during the latter days of your period (and I would) then you really can’t make too much of the fact there’s a bit of blood in a tub full of water.

Another fun ploy for those with a bit of a twisted imagination (I love doing this) is to make yourself ‘anal only’ during your period. You’re only allowed to play with your nipples and asshole the whole time you’re bleeding. 

It’s fucked up and totally unfair, and therefore going to be as hot as hell for some of you.

Finally as a very simple option, especially after the first couple of days, just learn to stop caring about it and have a towel and some wipes to hand. Your menstrual blood is not some awful defilement, but part of you, and a sign of your femininity and womanliness (is that even a word?). Lie on a dark coloured towel to do it, have some baby wipes to clean up (there’s really very little blood most of the time) and just have fun. 

While it seems to vary hugely, some do report that edging really helps with cramps during your period (others say it makes it worse) so try that out and see!

I’d love to see if any of you who actually have a vagina and so are much more qualified than me to answer, have any more tips, please add them as notes or send them in.

https://female-orgasm-denial.tumblr.com/tagged/periods

Thank you to those who reminded me (I always forget this) – there menstrual cups often known as  ‘moon cups’ or ‘blossom cups’ which are a very clever alternative to tampons.

I even found a review site: https://menstrualcupreviews.net/ but I’d look on Amazon for reviews too myself if, you know, I actually had periods (I swear us guys get it so fucking easy – about the best thing David Cameron actually did was FINALLY agree to stop tampons being taxed as ‘luxury items’ last year. It is still yet to be implemented though, I mean, are you shitting me?).

Hi James I have a question about edging whilst on my period, is there a way to do it where it’s not messy? Sorry if this has been asked before but I didn’t find anything on it in your tags. Thanks 🙏🏽

Great question!

A tampon is really your best friend for edging during your period, especially the first few days. I know there are reasons some of you don’t want to use them but I do encourage you to read this excellent gif loaded article on why you might want to reconsider:

https://www.bustle.com/articles/121477-are-tampons-better-than-pads-we-measured-the-pros-cons

If you’ve never tried them, then let me really, really strongly encourage you to try. Give them a few days to get used to, educate yourself on them first, but do give it a go. Whenever I’ve had a sub who was using pads and got them to do this they ultimately have ALL said ‘why the hell didn’t I do this before now?’.

If you don’t like them, then that’s fine, but at least you’re making an educated choice. Plus if it helps you’re free to try it and think about the fact you’re walking around in public with your pussy stuffed on a dom’s orders… you’re welcome!

Besides that, well another plan is to do it in the shower, or bath. Yep, bath is good too, especially after the first couple of heavy days are over. It’s only blood, people. If I’d eat you out during the latter days of your period (and I would) then you really can’t make too much of the fact there’s a bit of blood in a tub full of water.

Another fun ploy for those with a bit of a twisted imagination (I love doing this) is to make yourself ‘anal only’ during your period. You’re only allowed to play with your nipples and asshole the whole time you’re bleeding. 

It’s fucked up and totally unfair, and therefore going to be as hot as hell for some of you.

Finally as a very simple option, especially after the first couple of days, just learn to stop caring about it and have a towel and some wipes to hand. Your menstrual blood is not some awful defilement, but part of you, and a sign of your femininity and womanliness (is that even a word?). Lie on a dark coloured towel to do it, have some baby wipes to clean up (there’s really very little blood most of the time) and just have fun. 

While it seems to vary hugely, some do report that edging really helps with cramps during your period (others say it makes it worse) so try that out and see!

I’d love to see if any of you who actually have a vagina and so are much more qualified than me to answer, have any more tips, please add them as notes or send them in.

https://female-orgasm-denial.tumblr.com/tagged/periods

I’ve heard that orgasming helps relieve period cramps but does edging in turn worsen them ?

It’s different for everyone as far as my experience goes. Some find edging helps with cramps, some find orgasms make it better. But others find one, or both make them worse.

Similarly some women find themselves getting stupidly horny around their period, for others it kills their libido.

You’ll just have to try it out and see what works for you I’m afraid.

I don’t know if this is weird to ask but what happens when a Denial Acdemy student is on her period? Does it affect her daily edges and other stuff?

I love that you guys ask stuff like this, it’s brilliant. A good proportion of all adult women are having their period at any one time, the fact that most porn and fantasy ignores this is a bit silly really.

So firstly most students at the Denial Academy are on birth control, which tends to help make their periods shorter and more regular. They’re on birth control because, of course, for most students they will be regularly used by teachers as part of lessons and training, and also when they take their turns at the local Bang Barn.

The exception to birth control are the ‘Designated Virgins’ or ‘White Collars’ as they are mostly known due to the way they are marked out:

However given that school fees for Designated Virgins double (and don’t even include anal virginity which quadruples the fees) it’s pretty rare, and of course no bursary students can participate.

Anyway, back to periods.

A big part of the training at the academy is to help the students learn to love and appreciate their bodies. So periods are openly discussed and treated as perfectly normal, and all the nonsense about it being some kind of curse is quickly dealt with. Instead it’s held up as a sign of femininity.

Edging can affect periods in very different ways. For some it makes them easier, lessens cramps and other effects. However for others it does exactly the opposite! So students are monitored for their first few times and their edging regime adjusted appropriately. For those whom it makes it worse they are often put onto anal only during their period, not allowed to touch their clit or pussy the entire time they are bleeding. This drives them crazy, which is exactly the point, but the other girls make it much worse, teasing them, edging next to them telling them how good it feels while they can only play with their ass and breasts for days.

Similarly in class, a period is no hindrance. Should a student be called upon for a practical either her ass will be used instead or in many cases her pussy will be used anyway to show there’s nothing wrong with a little blood as long as it’s cleaned up.

Of course for many the days of a period are a time of increased sensitivity and often arousal so it’s a shame to waste those just from some misinformed sense of decency. Many girls are found to edge even more during their periods once they have learnt it’s something not to be ashamed, but proud of!

Sir, I can’t touch myself because of that little girl problem that happens once a month. However I’m so fucking horny and the only available thing I have right now is a body pillow. How can I edge?

I think it’s a big girl problem, but that aside…

Your period doesn’t have to stop you exploring denial. If you suffer badly from cramps when Aunt Flo comes to visit it may totally put you off anything down there, but actually a fair proportion of denial sluts have told me edging helps ease their suffering during Shark Week (however others yell and tell me it makes it worse so try at your own risk).

Using a tampon is usually much better than a pad if you do want to edge while surfing the crimson wave. That would let you hump your pillow to your heart’s content. Whichever you use, just be prepared for it to fill up faster if you’re diddling yourself while the painters are in. 

Then again, maybe you should take the opportunity to go anal only for the week.

I’ll leave this here:

I haven’t been on denial for long and I was wondering if there were any other way to edge when I’m on my period that doesn’t require much clean up (besides the shower)? Not that I’m averse to cleaning, just that I react badly to the detergents needed to wash off the blood from towels. I wouldn’t want my mother to wonder why there’s blood in a specific place with a specific pattern on the towel O/ / / /O

I love down to earth, practical questions like this, thank you!

Now, while I don’t have a vagina I do look after several, and those pesky periods can really put a dampener on your edging activity. Obviously as you say, the shower is an easy option, don’t neglect the bath too though. Yeah there’s blood in the water but unless you keep sharks that’ll be fine. Lots of bubbles and a pink scented bubble bath can help.

Tampons are a great help too. While they do get full faster if you’re edging, they make a divide between your cervix and your vulva so you can get wetter and play more without the blood making even more of a mess. I understand some women are hesitant about using tampons and it’s fine if you’ve tried them and haven’t liked it (although there are several different types that it really is worth exploring before you write them off). But if you’re not trying them out of some concern such as it’ll take your virginity (it won’t), it’ll break your hymen (it stretches), you can get toxic shock syndrome (super rare and needs you to forget it’s in there) then PLEASE read up on them and give it a try.

If you do use a towel then where you get blood on it run it under cold water (not hot or warm) for a minute, it’ll stop it fixing and spreads it so you don’t get a little ‘slut pattern’ left behind.

Oh and Diva say’s, ‘Go anal only, it’s the best way’

She thinks she was joking.

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