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Guided masturbation – female orgasm denial – Part 3

Finally following on from my last post on ‘guided masturbation’ http://goo.gl/SpmhYC This time we’re going to add a few little twists to the experience, and as mentioned in the first part http://goo.gl/3tSCQZ we’re going to get some toys involved, if you have them.

So, after the last guide you should have taken yourself to the edge at least once, your fingers working eagerly between your legs, one on your clit, the other in your pussy.

Getting sensual

We’re going to involve some more of the senses first. Some you might not like this, and if so, skip it. If you don’t KNOW that’s the case, I urge you to try it.

Keep rubbing your clit in nice slow circles with one hand and bring the fingers that have been inside you up to your face. Look at them first, look at how they shine, glistening with your arousal. Rub your fingers together, feel how slippery it makes them, nature’s very own way of showing you’re made to be fucked, to be filled, and you’re designed so that it feels, amazing.

Now, smell yourself, do you like it? Others certainly will. If you’re feeling naughty, apply it like perfume to your neck. Imagine going out like this, those around you unconsciously breathing in your scent, the guys not understanding why they are getting hard (yes, this really can work).

Slip your fingers back down, ideally your middle one or two, back inside you, and listen. Listen to the sounds it makes when you fuck your aching cunt, hear how wet you are, and add to that sound, if you’re not already, some little moans of your own. It can be amazingly liberating (as long as you’ve got privacy) to make some noise, so try that, slide your fingers in and out and let out little moans of pleasure with each stroke. Maybe even pretend someone is listening and you’re doing it to turn them on, put on a little show as you fuck and rub and see if it turns you on even more too. Imagine that person, watching you even, and without embarrassment you just keep going, seeing the arousal in their eyes.

A little trip to your nipples can be good, sliding your wet finger tips over them, making them glisten as you pull them and watch your pinching fingers slip off them again and again.

Then back down inside you for another good fucking and rubbing to the edge, at which point I want you to bring your wet fingers to your mouth and suck them clean. Taste yourself, for some this is just super kinky, sucking your own pussy juices off your fingers as you masturbate. If you find you love it, make it a regular part of your play, guys adore it.

Time for toys

I mentioned in Part 1 that some toys would come into play. This is that time.

It’s really good NOT to use vibes sometimes, you can get over reliant on them and get to the point, especially with a partner, where you can’t orgasm without using one. But they are AMAZING too. You don’t need some huge hitachi wand, just a nice, powerful, discreet little bullet vibe is perfect to start with. My friend highly recommends the Rocks Off range and especially the 80mm USB chargeable one.

Electric toothbrushes are the closest you can get if you can’t buy a toy, but they’re noisy…

So, if your vibe has various levels, put it on low. If it doesn’t and it’s too powerful, you can put your folded up panties in between it and you for a bit until you get used to it.

Either way, run the tip of the vibe around, but not quite on, your clit, make slow circles and gradually work inwards so you’re running it up under your clit hood and caressing each side of your clit, then move it onto the tip and press it on. Hold it there as you feel yourself getting closer, and then ease off, repeat that a few times, seeing how much you can bear, varying the strength by turning it up, pressing it harder and removing layers blocking it.

When you can’t take much more of that, move to using it in the entrance of your pussy, running it around it, gently fucking it in and out, and if the design is appropriate, push it deeper to find your gspot.

If you can reach your gspot with it, (about a finger length inside your vagina on the tummy side, often a softier, spongier spot) then play there with it. A very common sign you’ve found it is the sudden urge to pee. This is not actually needing to pee, it’s another way your body can be aroused, but we’ll discuss that another time. For now, push past that peeing feeling, and enjoy how good it feels.

A lessor known trick if you have a vibe inside at that spot is with your other hand on the outside, push down just above your pelvic bone – gently push down and under it a little. It presses your -gspot, or near enough, down against the toy inside. Sometimes that can make it feel crazy good.

No cumming! Naughty!

So if you can manage more, use the vibe on your clit, but we’re going to add a final toy, a dildo of some kind. If you don’t own one then the hairbrush handle has been a substitute used for millennia by women in the know. (Just look at the designs of some of the handles in the stores and tell me the manufacturers aren’t wise to this…)

The tease with the dildo is just to fuck the tip, and no more, for a while. Keep the vibe going or stop it if you want to focus on the dildo alone, which can be good.

Now, with the dildo, I want you to do nine more short, shallow strokes, followed by one deep one.

That’s it, nice and deep, fucking right inside you. But just one!

Now, 8 more shallow strokes, and TWO deep ones.

Yes, you get it, 7 short, 3 deep…

6 short, 4 deep (it always adds to ten)…

Keep going until you get to enjoy ten deep strokes.

Get the vibe back on your clit or rub it, as you keep on fucking your desperate denied pussy with deep strokes all the time now, and give yourself one final excruciating edge.

Now stop.

You’re done.

Good girl.

Guided masturbation – female orgasm denial – Part 2

Last time, dear denial lover, we had only just got to playing with your breasts (Part 1 http://goo.gl/3tSCQZ), so let’s keep moving…

As you play with your breasts, feel the craving to reach down to touch yourself grow and then slowly remove your pants (or just lift your skirt), even that can be enjoyed sensually, until you’re left with just your underwear keeping you from where you want your fingers.

Going down…

And then, begin to slide one hand down, tease yourself, feel the need grow ever stronger the closer it gets. Perhaps imagine it’s someone else’s hand if you like that idea. Either way, it moves down and cups your whole mound THROUGH your clothes (I do like the old fashioned ‘mons’ from Mons Venus – Latin for the mound of Venus, goddess of love, beauty, sex, fertility, prosperity and desire)

Begin to grind the base of the palm of your hand down over your mons. Starting just above your clit and kneading downwards. It’s about as blunt a pressure as you can apply and is a great initial tease.

Feel the fabric of your panties teasing you. Still in the way from what you really want. Then lay the tip of your middle finger into the furrow they make between your lips, and stroke it up and down, not quite to your clit yet, soon though.

First move it down to above your pussy, press the tip of your finger against your panties, feel the soft, giving flesh beneath as you are prevented from pushing deeper. Perhaps you can feel your wetness seep into the fabric. Just enjoy stroking the entrance to your pussy through your panties as your other hand continues to tease your nipples.

Now, finally, slowly drag your finger up between your lips and come to rest on your clit. Don’t rub it quite yet, pause a moment and just push. Push down against it with a steady firm pressure, and then release. Repeat that a couple of times and then, every so slowly, begin to make small, gently circles on your clit through your underwear.

Slowly make those circles faster as the pleasure begins to build and then slide your finger back down to your pussy and rub that through your panties again. Repeat this cycle a few times and then, if the cut of them alllows, bunch the front of your panties up in your fist (the part that covers your mound) and pull them, up in between your labia, dragging them against you, into you.

Then in that state bring both hands back up to your breasts and play with them as you grind your hips and enjoy the new torment of your ‘panties crotch rope’.

When you’ve had enough of that, it’s finally time to slip your underwear down, but only around your thighs at this point, see if you like the restriction that gives you, still unable to spread your legs open.

And slip that middle finger down, right onto your clit, at last, skin on skin, 20 lovely circles on it and then slide it to your pussy, and gently fuck yourself with the tip of your finger ten little fucks, then back up to your clit for another 20 circles.

Each time you go back to your pussy, your finger can go a little deeper, until you’re fucking it as deep as you would like to. But still only ten strokes before you move back to your clit.

Then, you can at last leave your breasts alone for a while as your other hand comes down,and whichever way around you’re comfortable, slowly, sensually, rub your clit as you stroke your other hand in and out of you. You can stay with one finger or move to using your two middle fingers.

Use that to take yourself right to the edge of an orgasm if you can, no hurry, just rubbing and fucking, rubbing and fucking…

And that’s how I’m going to leave you until part three. Remember, no cumming!

Find part 3 here http://goo.gl/jWbKC6

Guided masturbation – an orgasm denial task

Hello everyone, and especially all my new followers (which is basically all of you!).

On a recent post I mentioned  the idea of Guided Masturbation. Why would you need that? I hear some of you ask, you know how to masturbate you’ve been doing it since (fill in age here).

Look, this isn’t to say you’re doing it wrong, per se, just as with many things, you may well have got stuck in a rut (pun not intended).

Letting someone else tell you how to do it can not only inspire new ideas, but it’s also pretty hot to imagine someone else controlling you. This has turned out to be quite long so I’ll post it in parts.

Imagine your fingers are someone else’s or that you’re being controlled somehow, your fingers, agents of another’s will, teasing you, enjoying you, masturbating you.

Easy as it would be to rush through this, try and take your time if you have it, if I were whispering these words in your ear (one of my favourite pasttimes) I’d make you take about an hour to do the following task.

You can, or course, orgasm at the end of this if you so wish, but given this is a blog about female orgasm denial, that isn’t the happy ending you’ll be getting in this particular story. You love it.

A note on vibrators
This is going to assume you have some kind of vibe, if you don’t, you really should invest in one, just a cheap little bullet vibe or egg. Lovehoney is best if you can shop online, otherwise find an Ann Summers if you’re UK like me.  If you can’t risk that then electric toothbrushes are your friend or there’s even smartphone apps (I offer no warranty for water damage) … and otherwise, just use your fingers, it’s why God made arms the length they are!

Let’s begin

Get yourself somewhere comfortable, a bed, or sofa, somewhere you feel relaxed and comfortable. Start clothed – this is all about the tease and anything you wear can help us with that. You don’t really need a bra for this, if you have one on, lose it at an appropriate moment.  You should have a couple of layers covering your mound, so panties plus trousers (pants) or a skirt (preferable to a dress as you’ll see, but just adapt).

So first, the rules…

  1. No cumming without permission
  2. No touching anywhere you’re not told to

Centring yourself

So to start with I want you to take a moment to really become much more aware of your body. Lie there, with your hands on your tummy, and read through this part as you try it.

I want you think about your toes, become very concious of them, how they feel, wiggle them, let your thoughts move up your feet, your ankles, calves to your knees, bend them just a little, open your legs a bit, let your thoughts move up your thighs, to your mons, your pussy lips, become very aware of them, the fabric covering you, how it feels from your waist down, under, through your legs, to your back. As you part your legs a little more feel your lips touching each other, perhaps you can feel them open just a little.

Then move your thoughts up, the weight of your hands on your tummy, those fingers that soon will be doing just what they are instructed, but not yet…

And then your breasts, I don’t care what you think of them, your breasts are amazing; no matter what they are like, there are thousands, perhaps millions of men who would do anything just to see them, let alone touch them, and you get to play with them as much as you want. Lucky girl.

Become aware of them now, again the fabric cupping them, your nipples, moving every so slightly against it as you breath. Take a deep breath, feel it move more. A few more deep breaths, feel your whole body relax as you breathe out each time. 

Now you’ve done it with your eyes open, do it with your eyes shut.

Now we’re going to do it one more time, but this time your fingers are going to trace where your mind is thinking – to start bring your knees up and spread them a little, feet flat on the surface you’re lying on. Start with your knees, then trace down your thighs, when you get to your mound, lightly stroke it, and your breasts, cup and squeeze them gently. 

Good, you should feel relaxed and very aware of your body now.

If you’re wearing a bra now’s a good time to take it off, ideally you want one layer of clothes covering your breasts.

Breast play

Even if it’s quick, I’ll often start a woman masturbating by playing with her breasts. Not only does it act for many like a starter engine for your pussy, but it reminds you that masturbation and denial are not just about that little area between your thighs, but your whole body. 

You are sex. It’s why you exist; evolution, God, whatever you believe, there’s no denying you are made for sex. It’s where your life started. Fucking gave you life. Your whole body is designed to give, and receive pleasure, that beautiful, moistening pussy between your legs is designed to give and receive pleasure, so let’s practice now.

Slide your hands down to cup your breasts, through your top. Gently squeeze them and begin to run your fingers over them, spiral your fingers closer to your nipples and focus playing there until they are starting to get hard. Run your finger tips gently back and forth over them like you were filing your nails.

Go back to cupping them through your top and catch them between your finger and thumb, squeeze them gently for the first time, roll them between your fingers, feel them respond. But more importantly, feel the response between your legs. Your nipples are connnected there, every time you pull on them, squeeze them, rub them it’s making you want to touch your clit, finger your pussy, even more. 

But you can’t, not yet.

Focus on your nipples, is it frustrating to not touch them directly? Good. Pinch them through your top again and this time, start tugging on them. Pinch them harder now, as hard as feels good. And then pull, pull until your fingers slip off your nipples, ‘milking’ them through your top. Feel the fabric dragged over them, the desire to touch your skin and not have your top in the way… and the ache between your legs grow. 

Now bunch up your top at its base, and drag it up, right to your nipples, and pull that hem up and down over your breasts, over your nipples. Up and down, only the fabric pulling at them. Did you ever want to touch your breasts so much?

You can now. Slide your hands onto your bare skin for the first time and feel them, appreciate them, play with them. Run your fingertips lightly over your breasts, again, start to work towards your nipples, savour the fact you can touch them directly now, how good that feels. Begin to rub them, pinch them, pull them. Do it for as long as you can until the ache, the need between your legs grows too great.

Coming in part 2 – going down… http://goo.gl/SpmhYC