Tag : long-term-denial

Kinda a confession I guess: I’m not into long-term denial myself, but some days I just use your Wheel of Denial a lot! It makes super wet, craving a nice, big cock and some dirty talk, which is funny, because in general I’m quite an innocent girl :) Plus, is there a better way to spend my Saturday? ^^ – Butterfly

I sure can’t think of one. Except maybe getting that hot friend of yours over and sharing the experience? You know the one.

But it’s totally okay to not be into long term denial. It really is. This is important. You can be a fully paid up member of the denial slut club just loving edging for a while and then cumming each time. This isn’t a competition.

I only extol the virtues of a bit longer term because if you manage to hold off for a day or two many find they get this ongoing ‘denial high’ that just makes it all even better! If you’ve never gone that long it’s totally worth trying it just to make sure you’re not missing out. But whether you like to deny yourself for 20 minutes, 20 hours, 20 days or 20 fucking months, we love you here!

Hi James I wanted to know if you could help me out I’m trying to do Denial from now till my birthday Jan 6. I’ll get to spend a whole weekend with my Daddy and I want to be as needy as possible but I want it to be a suprise. Any ideas of how I could do this? I’d appreciate the help 😊💖 you’re the best BTW love your blog and everything you do to help with this

Thanks anon! Lovely to hear that.

If you’re new to denial that’s a bloody long time to be aiming for as a first go. So if that’s the case you’re probably setting yourself up for disappointment. I’d suggest you try building up in stages. Try a day, then three, then five. See what you learn from that, and then go for lasting through to the 6th, it’d still be an 8 day stretch before your birthday.

Also, surprises are cute, but it’s SO much hotter if you tell him, especially for those last 8 days. It builds anticipation for you both. He gets a week to tease you about it, turn you on, and enforce it! That’s a MUCH hotter option than just announcing ‘hey I haven’t cum in a week’ in my opinion.

Dig out some of the posts from my favourites tag to help him understand if you need to: http://tumblr.edging.space/favourites

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Hi James, I’ve been in denial for a nearly 3 years and recently my dom said he would allow me to cum if i asked you and you agreed. Please may I???

Crickey, three years! That’s, a very long time.

Oh wait, only ‘nearly’ three years… seems a waste not to round it off, don’t you agree?

So no.

Also, politely, I’d suggest that’s a decision best made by the bloke who knows you and is actually denying you rather than some stranger online but different strokes etc.

James

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I’ve been doing orgasm denial for about a year. I still get to cum every once in a while but it’s not as often as it was. (I used to wank twice daily now i cum once a fortnight.) I’ve noticed a bit of a horrid side effect from it & I wondered if you’ve got any experience with it. After about 2 weeks I get cranky & emotional to the point where if anything comes between me & sex I go nuts & get so weepy & angry. Do you have any experience with it &/or have any suggestions for combating it?

For some reason I couldn’t reblog with the reply from the OP @anaphoksa

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Hi Anon,

Well it might be a couple of things. If you’re constantly doing the two week cycle then it might just happen to be hitting a certain point in your menstrual cycle that’s causing the denial to do ‘interesting’ things with normal PMT symptoms. If that’s the case try a one week break, to just get out of the repeated cycle, and see if the same thing happens.

More likely however, is that two weeks is just your peak denial time, or in fact, it’s more likely a bit less than that. 

Given we want to minimise DRH (denial related homicide), very simply, stop doing it for so long.

I know we get lots of amazing asks and reports from those doing it for weeks and months, but what’s best for someone else isn’t best for you, and it’s important that everyone exploring denial and edging works out what makes them feel the best and keeps them horniest and happiest. 

That might be one edge, and then cumming later that day.

it might be not cumming for a whole year or more.

But mostly it’s somewhere in between, and mostly it’s three days to a few weeks.

So mix it up a bit anon, work out what’s best for avoiding the psycho sexual killer rages, and everyone will be better off.

Sooooo this was my ask, I got to cum maybe two days later after lots of tears & some major childish meltdowns (over things like slightly over cooking pizza, my make up not being done by the time daddy got home, & daddy inviting friends over for a drink when I thought we were going to play). 

 I’ve managed to not kill anyone *yet* but I’ve kept up with the denial. I think you’re right with the pmt matching up with my crazy denial too so I’m going to do an experiment, cum this month right before 

my pmt is due (I have a clever tracker) and next month I won’t. Then we can quantify my drh with pmt and see what happens!

I’m pretty sure Daddy won’t mind. Thank you so much for your advice James!

I know I can go longer than 2 weeks though because I had my first orgasm (from someone else)after over a month of denial

Hey, I’ve something you might like to hear. So I’ve been in denial for over 2 months, which is the longest I’ve ever been, with the help of my two Daddy’s. So my next orgasm was for one of my Daddy’s birthday. This date landed on tomorrow. Tomorrow I got to keep going, to fucking finally tip over the edge. But Apparently my body has other plans, and today, three days ahead of schedule (which never happens) my period started. And Daddy said that I have to wait another week but only if I’m good.

Hey Angel,

Well two months, that really is very impressive, although i guess with two of them sharing shifts it helps keep you in order. 

I do so like hearing about these modern arrangements – I mean, just 10 years ago it’d be most unusual to hear about someone having two daddy’s (sorry couldn’t resist).

What a pesky period, it’s almost like your body wants to make sure it stays denied, but that can’t be it, can it?

Just be very careful not to mention the fact that your period is the perfect time to put you on ‘anal only’ and whatever you do don’t let them read this:

https://female-orgasm-denial.tumblr.com/tagged/anal-only/chrono

Or you might all you get for the next birthday is permission to touch..

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I’ve been doing orgasm denial for about a year. I still get to cum every once in a while but it’s not as often as it was. (I used to wank twice daily now i cum once a fortnight.) I’ve noticed a bit of a horrid side effect from it & I wondered if you’ve got any experience with it. After about 2 weeks I get cranky & emotional to the point where if anything comes between me & sex I go nuts & get so weepy & angry. Do you have any experience with it &/or have any suggestions for combating it?

Hi Anon,

Well it might be a couple of things. If you’re constantly doing the two week cycle then it might just happen to be hitting a certain point in your menstrual cycle that’s causing the denial to do ‘interesting’ things with normal PMT symptoms. If that’s the case try a one week break, to just get out of the repeated cycle, and see if the same thing happens.

More likely however, is that two weeks is just your peak denial time, or in fact, it’s more likely a bit less than that. 

Given we want to minimise DRH (denial related homicide), very simply, stop doing it for so long.

I know we get lots of amazing asks and reports from those doing it for weeks and months, but what’s best for someone else isn’t best for you, and it’s important that everyone exploring denial and edging works out what makes them feel the best and keeps them horniest and happiest. 

That might be one edge, and then cumming later that day.

it might be not cumming for a whole year or more.

But mostly it’s somewhere in between, and mostly it’s three days to a few weeks.

So mix it up a bit anon, work out what’s best for avoiding the psycho sexual killer rages, and everyone will be better off.

Hi James! I’ve been edging for eight months, eight times a day. What I’m asking is, please may I cum? Need it so bad. -Caitlin xx

Well that’s truly remarkable, Caitlin.

8 times a day, for 8 months, that’s 1920 edges or thereabouts, wow.

It’s a bit of a shame, I’d have let you cum at 1,500 edges, but you’ve gone past that now.

The next milestone is 5,000 I’m afraid. But don’t worry, that’s only 12 and a half months away at your current rate. So by next Christmas I’ll almost definitely let you cum.

And I tell you what, you can have a ruin every 500 edges.

Don’t say I don’t spoil you.

Good girl.

Hey James! It’s the girl who asked about short term denial, who’d talked about being accused of not being a “real denial slut”. I just wanna say thank you for your support and response, it really made me feel a lot better about my edging and the kink in general. I’m here to inform you that I’m going to be hopping on the trend of not cumming the entire month of June. I’m really excited to see how wet this makes me and how fun it’ll be! -Estrella

Hi Estrella, you’re so welcome! (I love it when you lot follow up on advice)

The reality is that for most, orgasm denial is a short term thing, and that’s totally cool! 

I like to run but I have no desire to ever do a marathon. It’s just the same. I do however, like to watch the London Marathon on TV because it’s exceptional and thus interesting, and for the same reason lots of the discussion on the blog will focus on long term denial. But for most of us, doing it for hours or days is what we like best and that’s awesome.

However, just as you’re doing (GOOD GIRL!) it’s brilliant to try to challenge ourselves sometimes, not because it’s necessary to do a long time, but because it’s fun to try something new and not get stuck in a rut. 

I’m working on the plans right now, but we’re going to keep it fun and pretty simple. If it goes well maybe we can use another month to do a more detailed option like Locktober for male denial.

Hey James. I was wondering how you feel about girls who edge for a while then cum? Personally that’s what works and feels best for me, although if I’m up for a challenge I’ll deny myself a few days. I’ve been told that I’m not a “real denial slut” since I only edge for a few hours before cumming. Thoughts? -Estrella

Hi Estrella,

I think you’re awesome! As has been said a few times recently, the blog tends to focus, especially captions and stories, on longer term denial, because it makes for a hotter fantasy. But ANY denial where you’re enjoying edging so you get hornier and hornier is fabulous.

You totally are a real denial slut, just not a long term denial slut!

The only point I always add is that if someone hasn’t tried it, it’s really worth trying to do it for two or three days; at the very least give it a go overnight sometime. Not because it makes you some kind of better denial slut, but because for many there genuinely is a ‘denial high’ experience that comes after a more extended period of a day or two where you not only feel horny but experience an ongoing sensation of euphoria. It’s really great. And as you say, there’s the fun of challenging yourself, which builds self discipline and greater sexual self awareness. (And makes you want to stay denied, it’s a trap!)

But if you don’t want to, that’s cool too!

Honestly for those doing it to themselves, which is a lot of you, I just want to say how proud I am of anything you manage, whether that’s to edge just once or keeping your pussy leaking for months without satisfaction. You are all amazing, sexy, beautiful women and I love you all.

James

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