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I can’t tell who’s more frustrated. Me from not cumming for a month or you from how fucked Tumblr is acting.

Well I can double up on that. So there!

I stupidly (it’s actually been super hot), offered my wife that she could lock up my cock for as long as she likes as a gift (I know I’m so romantic but it was cheaper than flowers). But really, she loves how horny it gets me and I get super dom and mean (when I’m not crying myself to sleep).

So anyway, there I was thinking ‘ahh she’ll pick like a week, maybe a bit more if she’s really feeling switchy.’

‘How about until our anniversary?’ she suggests after a few days thinking about it.

Our anniversary is FUCKING AUGUST.

So yeah, that happened. And honestly, it was so hot she stepped out of her comfort zone that much, and well I like a challenge. 

I get out regularly for edging and sucking and fucking and actually a few ruins because who knew balls could ache THAT much. But damn fuck it, I am not going to lose this battle! 

So I was right in the trenches with you…

So yeah, I did JuNo too, therefore…

But I’m not listening to these guys again.

female-orgasm-denial:

doll-in-the-shadows:

*I wrote this a few days ago, but I’m shy, so…

I’m trying to find the words to describe how I felt when I logged on to tumblr today. It’s so much more than porn to me.

My first tumblr was erotic art. I still follow my favorite blog from that very first tumblr. She talked to me once, and I remember thinking about how that was so cool, I could actually talk to the person who was creating this art.

I started to “like” other things, things I thought I might like to try, things I thought could communicate to my partner what it was I needed. I’ve never been very good at finding porn, so it was amazing to have this tool for communication. I’m the type that will DO the really nasty, dirty thing, but I will never, ever say it out loud. (I’m working on it.)

I started to search for things, anything really. I figured if I found every single type of porn it would somehow give me an idea of whatever this “stuff” was that I was into. Until then I’d been sexually adventurous, with a high sexual drive, but I didn’t really know anything except vanilla sex. I searched everything. One thing led to another and another and I went on this crazy ride of self discovery. I have never fallen more deeply in love with anything in my life, and it changed the course of my dreams.

Sexuality has always fascinated me, but I never realized how much, or how deeply until I started that search. This time it shifted everything for me. My dream has always been to go back to school to become a therapist, but I realized I wanted my focus to be on sexuality. I started learning how to become a sex therapist.

There’s only so much you can actually learn about sexuality here, so I took my research elsewhere. But for MY personal research, for MY sexuality, I stayed here.

I stumbled on this little bubble of tumblrs that all seemed connected somehow, that all posted the kinky type of things I had learned that I was into. (Before tumblr I was terrified to ask my partner to slap me in the face. Terrified.) What I had stumbled into was the BDSM community on tumblr.

I read everything. Absolutely fucking everything. How the hell did these girls know exactly how I felt inside? Maybe they’re just really good writers, maybe I’m just identifying with these emotions because I’m being empathetic maybe, maybe…

I denied being submissive for a while. For as long as I could. Until I just couldn’t anymore. I’m not “just kinky” as much as I wanted to be.

I got a few more tumblrs. I dove a little deeper with each one. Once I even reached out to another member of the community and told her all about my vanilla relationship. She told me I could start over and that it was ok to have these needs. I bought a couple of her books because she was so much like me.

I always thought about writing here. But what was I going to say? I’m a submissive stuck in a vanilla relationship and I can’t leave? There were other submissives who had vanilla partners, but they were with their partners because they loved them. I was just stuck. And it hurt so bad to see everyone have the thing I needed so badly.

Eventually I wrote. I decided to keep a JUNO journal this year. I decided to leave my vanilla relationship. I met my Dom on tumblr. I’m starting my life completely over.

I wouldn’t have known any of this if it weren’t for tumblr.

Obviously there’s more to my story, and this is just a glance at all of the things I’ve gone through in the past 3 years here. But it just has to be said because it’s ending.

Maybe this is good for me. Maybe I need to branch out a little bit instead of staying in this little comfort zone. God knows I spend hours upon hours on this site. But tumblr ending is like a little piece of my life ending. I regret not writing more, not reaching out to the tumblrs, especially the women, who changed my life. So I guess that’s kind of what I’m doing now.

@darkmekare @amysubmits @cherished-property @dwpreturns @instructor144 @fireflyflashes @littlemisssubshine @pleasurewhore (even though those two are gone now) @cynicaldom @female-orgasm-denial @i-could-be-the-walrus @sadisticgames

You all literally helped change my life. Reading your posts made me realize I am submissive, and now I get to live it.

And of course @ombratoire for being the best Dom ever 😘

Thank you @doll-in-the-shadows this is just what I’m most sad about when it comes to Tumblr’s changes, the loss of this safe, private space to explore what’s out there, and through that, yourself. 

This is where I think Tumblr are just hugely disconnected from the reality of what has been created here. When they say things like

There are no shortage of sites on the internet that feature adult content.  

That’s true but NONE of them are like Tumblr. Most of them are hardcore, in your face porn videos with little to no community aspect to them, or if they are a community, it’s more of a shark pool than somewhere safe to explore.

With Tumblr the fact it’s got lots of other SFW content means that those who want to take the first steps, and beyond, in exploring their sexuality, gender, preferences, kinkiness, desires etc can do that here.

I think they will be amazed at how many people who would appear to just have vanilla blogs are actually here because they can access the NSFW that’s about to get canned. 

I bet they haven’t taken that into consideration in this decision. They’ll have done some stats looking at how many vanilla blogs follow NFSW ones, but what they don’t realise is a huge number of those are here reading the NSFW content, they just don’t even want to put their head up above the parapet enough by even following a blog like mine. Instead they will search the terms and tags they want to get off to.

That’s why this is going to spell the ultimate demise of Tumblr long term. This was their unique selling proposition – come for the art and memes, stay for the porn. It’s been a wonderful gateway into important, vital areas of life as described so eloquently above. 

What a shame that doorway is about to be slammed shut.

Reblogging because there are some amazing notes on this

doll-in-the-shadows:

*I wrote this a few days ago, but I’m shy, so…

I’m trying to find the words to describe how I felt when I logged on to tumblr today. It’s so much more than porn to me.

My first tumblr was erotic art. I still follow my favorite blog from that very first tumblr. She talked to me once, and I remember thinking about how that was so cool, I could actually talk to the person who was creating this art.

I started to “like” other things, things I thought I might like to try, things I thought could communicate to my partner what it was I needed. I’ve never been very good at finding porn, so it was amazing to have this tool for communication. I’m the type that will DO the really nasty, dirty thing, but I will never, ever say it out loud. (I’m working on it.)

I started to search for things, anything really. I figured if I found every single type of porn it would somehow give me an idea of whatever this “stuff” was that I was into. Until then I’d been sexually adventurous, with a high sexual drive, but I didn’t really know anything except vanilla sex. I searched everything. One thing led to another and another and I went on this crazy ride of self discovery. I have never fallen more deeply in love with anything in my life, and it changed the course of my dreams.

Sexuality has always fascinated me, but I never realized how much, or how deeply until I started that search. This time it shifted everything for me. My dream has always been to go back to school to become a therapist, but I realized I wanted my focus to be on sexuality. I started learning how to become a sex therapist.

There’s only so much you can actually learn about sexuality here, so I took my research elsewhere. But for MY personal research, for MY sexuality, I stayed here.

I stumbled on this little bubble of tumblrs that all seemed connected somehow, that all posted the kinky type of things I had learned that I was into. (Before tumblr I was terrified to ask my partner to slap me in the face. Terrified.) What I had stumbled into was the BDSM community on tumblr.

I read everything. Absolutely fucking everything. How the hell did these girls know exactly how I felt inside? Maybe they’re just really good writers, maybe I’m just identifying with these emotions because I’m being empathetic maybe, maybe…

I denied being submissive for a while. For as long as I could. Until I just couldn’t anymore. I’m not “just kinky” as much as I wanted to be.

I got a few more tumblrs. I dove a little deeper with each one. Once I even reached out to another member of the community and told her all about my vanilla relationship. She told me I could start over and that it was ok to have these needs. I bought a couple of her books because she was so much like me.

I always thought about writing here. But what was I going to say? I’m a submissive stuck in a vanilla relationship and I can’t leave? There were other submissives who had vanilla partners, but they were with their partners because they loved them. I was just stuck. And it hurt so bad to see everyone have the thing I needed so badly.

Eventually I wrote. I decided to keep a JUNO journal this year. I decided to leave my vanilla relationship. I met my Dom on tumblr. I’m starting my life completely over.

I wouldn’t have known any of this if it weren’t for tumblr.

Obviously there’s more to my story, and this is just a glance at all of the things I’ve gone through in the past 3 years here. But it just has to be said because it’s ending.

Maybe this is good for me. Maybe I need to branch out a little bit instead of staying in this little comfort zone. God knows I spend hours upon hours on this site. But tumblr ending is like a little piece of my life ending. I regret not writing more, not reaching out to the tumblrs, especially the women, who changed my life. So I guess that’s kind of what I’m doing now.

@darkmekare @amysubmits @cherished-property @dwpreturns @instructor144 @fireflyflashes @littlemisssubshine @pleasurewhore (even though those two are gone now) @cynicaldom @female-orgasm-denial @i-could-be-the-walrus @sadisticgames

You all literally helped change my life. Reading your posts made me realize I am submissive, and now I get to live it.

And of course @ombratoire for being the best Dom ever 😘

Thank you @doll-in-the-shadows this is just what I’m most sad about when it comes to Tumblr’s changes, the loss of this safe, private space to explore what’s out there, and through that, yourself. 

This is where I think Tumblr are just hugely disconnected from the reality of what has been created here. When they say things like

There are no shortage of sites on the internet that feature adult content.  

That’s true but NONE of them are like Tumblr. Most of them are hardcore, in your face porn videos with little to no community aspect to them, or if they are a community, it’s more of a shark pool than somewhere safe to explore.

With Tumblr the fact it’s got lots of other SFW content means that those who want to take the first steps, and beyond, in exploring their sexuality, gender, preferences, kinkiness, desires etc can do that here.

I think they will be amazed at how many people who would appear to just have vanilla blogs are actually here because they can access the NSFW that’s about to get canned. 

I bet they haven’t taken that into consideration in this decision. They’ll have done some stats looking at how many vanilla blogs follow NFSW ones, but what they don’t realise is a huge number of those are here reading the NSFW content, they just don’t even want to put their head up above the parapet enough by even following a blog like mine. Instead they will search the terms and tags they want to get off to.

That’s why this is going to spell the ultimate demise of Tumblr long term. This was their unique selling proposition – come for the art and memes, stay for the porn. It’s been a wonderful gateway into important, vital areas of life as described so eloquently above. 

What a shame that doorway is about to be slammed shut.

Day 14 – my inner slut comes out

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My day started boring. My morning edge becomes routin and gets me really wet almost instantly. For me, it’s a good way to start the day, but I maybe need to spice things up… 

Anyways I did in total skyped 6 hours for uni projects – FML. It better get’s an straight A.

After the first skype session my mind (or my pussy) wanted to doll me up. So, I did makeup (usually don’t), wearing heels, a skirt and a tight top to go grocery shopping. Actually, I was showing off myself. I bend off a few times, so you could see my (wet) panty … I even smiled to some men. That’s so not me! Later back home I realized what I have done … I was flirting with strangers. I want attention, badly. I’m getting needy, cock-hungryy (or maybe only orgasm-hungry). Am I getting slutty?! I don’t know. I just can say that if someone would have talked to me, I would blow him off … at least I think that. Lucky it hasn’t happen. 

Later on I had the other skype call and at the end I had to apply toothpaste on my clit during the call aand I wasn’t allowed to touch. That was a hard one. The burn got intense … 

Gonna edge again later on – but I’m not sure how yet. I’m tired and kinda only wanna sleep. Right now, it doesn’t feel like I need to edge … the semester will end soon and I think that’s pure stress. Normally, I don’t do anything at time which has to do with sex. No masturbating, no sex. Nothing. Luckily it’s just a period. So, yeah that’s for today. I know it’s not fancy at all… Will be better next week, I promise! 

I love the impact it’s having on you, well done for trying all that, it’s fabulous!

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Research JuNo

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As mentioned before I want to collect Data from this month (at least of mine) to get some information about what denial does to me. Right now my table looks like this:

I will track the days and the edges. Also how hard it was for me to stop and my wanting to cum. I will try to get this into a number from 0 to 3. Where 0 is the lowest and 3 the highest. But maybe I have to adjust the range…  Further I want to collect where and which toy Im using.

I’m loving the scientific approach!

JuNo Day 1- 4

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Day 1 01.06

So on the official first day I had a 3 hour presentation at the University so I started at the late afternoon. I just wanted to make sure, that everything goes well…

My first edge was pretty intense. It was clearly very hard to stop and not to cum. But I was able to get it done and it was incredibly frustating. I was still horny as fuck and wanted to cum badly. So I repeated the magical words:

I promise not to cum. I am a denial slut

I started to count to ten and started again. It felt good and my need of an orgasm was getting stronger and stronger… but I managed to get the fingers of me before I got one. It was quite a though one for me. So I was super horny and frustrated but the must go on. It was also quite hard to get clear thoughts I strongly needed for my upcoming research.

So, I had two edges on the first day.

Day 2 02.06

At the morning I scrolled through tumblr and found some blogs whichs follows the JuNo Challenge and started to read – well and get horny. Here I just want to thank all of you which are sharing this kind of experience and getting me into new ideas for the upcoming edges.

And so I started touching myself and I quickly came up with a dildo and started to fucking myself. But no more rubbing for me. I was still scrolling tumblr and found some pics which turned me extremly on and I had just to stop, because I felt like I couldnt stop.

The second edge was a new experience for me. I was in a mall and wanted to buy a new dress for me and I was alone in the changing room and started touching myself slowly and carefully.

The last edge of the day I had at the bed and I was of course scrolling tumblr… Also I agreed for myself to say atleast once a day that, I promised not to cum – I just think that will help me for the next days.

Day 3 03.06

The morning edge I had around 10 under the shower after sports.
The second and last one of the day in the evening scrolling through tumblr.

No special things happened. It’s just getting harder and also easier to stop before the orgasm. I dont know if that makes any sense?! 😀 I get kinda used to stop it but well of course I want to orgasm badly.

Day 4 04.06

On the morning I was in a chatroom and flirting with strangers and found someone for some sexting….

For the second and last one, I will get in the bed again, scrolling tumblr and gonna try a vibrator. Im curios if I can stop before.

other things

So, I know this is kinda short. I hope I can do better in the next days. .. If you want to know things please ask 🙂 I would like to talk with some of you.

Also I’m like collecting data from this JuNo Challenge (of me). I want to do a little bit of science and maybe get some informations like the rising of “wanting an orgasm” and frustration or something like this. Im not sure about it now, but I like studies 😀

Great to have people joining in. Remember, we’re exploring this all month. You don’t have to start on the 1st June, just give it a go, and if you want to, journal about it too!

I just came across your tumblr today as I am new to orgasm denial. I edged 3 times so far today and omg I am hooked! I am dripping wet and even hornier than before!!! Any advice to make this experience over the top for me?

I want you to try to go like this for three days, three whole days without cumming. At least three edges each day.

And on the night of the last edge, you take a coin, and just before you’re about to cum, you flip it.

Heads you cum, tails, you stop.

You can flip it again tomorrow night, after three more edges, see if fate wants you denied even longer… And day, after day, until you get your ‘heads’

Good girl

Hi James, I’m not new to edging and I absolutely Love it. Recently I edged non-stop for 5hrs. I was so desperate and my clit was so sore after but I loved the feeling of being right on the edge and forcing myself to stay on it. I also edged the next day and I was still so achy. I like playing with my clit until it’s swollen and throbbing then doing it again the next day even rougher to make the ache stay. I love edging and hurting my little clitty more and more. What do you think, too much?

Honestly that’s really fucking hot, but unlike your vagina which is literally designed to take a pounding, your poor little clit is a sensitive little soul. So do be a little careful you don’t over do it. Definitely if you’ve done it for a few days as you describe, force yourself onto ‘no touch’ for day perhaps, which could be just as much of a mind fuck, so that it has time to recover.

For a quick route to the pain side of things, you could try some ‘snaps’ Getting a rubber band, stretching it between your finger and thumb on one hand then pulling it back and letting it hit your clit with the other. Though that’ll hurt more, it’s a sharp, and instant pain, and probably less damaging than just rubbing or grinding away on it for hours.

Remember with all this stuff though, we want it to be a positive force for you. Edging is really addictive, especially at first. As we see in lots of the JuNO journals. However, after a while you do get used to it and it becomes far more manageable (it really does, I promise). 

But, as with anything, if it’s having a negative impact on your life, work, relationships, take a break, have a ruin or an orgasm, clear your head, get a bit of perspective and then if you’re feeling good about it, get back into it in a more measured way

Hello, James. I’m sorry I’m just too shy so I asked anonymously. I’m quite new to denial and my longest record is a week(usually 3 days). But I want to explore it, so I decide to try Juno. I began on 5/30 and became extremely aroused on 6/2. I was dripping constantly and could always feel a combination of sour, ache, and itch. But after 6/2, my arousal level seemed to drop. Although I keep edging three times a day, I don’t feel aroused any more. No desire to cum, edge or touch. -Emma

Hey Emma,

So, that happens sometimes. Our bodies are remarkable, complex things, and it doesn’t always do what we expect – which is a great lesson to learn.

There are a few things that can trigger that response. Occasionally you can get too close, but not ruin an orgasm, and it kind of triggers a strange hormonal release that kills your libido but doesn’t do anything else. It’s pretty rare, and more common in guys than women in my experience, but it definitely happens, and that may be what it was.

Secondly, some women find that certain points in their menstrual cycle just kill any libido, just as others heighten it.

Finally, sometimes it means you’re getting poorly with a bug or something. One of the body’s first reactions is to kill all sexual response so it can focus on keeping you well and fighting it off.

If it’s the latter, get well soon! (I bet many know that feeling of being ill then knowing they are on the way to recovery when their libido explodes again!). For the other two, just give it a day, have a break, don’t stress about having to edge, and I suspect you’ll find it all gets a little reset and back to enjoying it like before.

I hope that helps,

It’s day 2 and I’m already at the point where I have to tell myself not to touch otherwise I’ll edge too much, which just makes me hornier! It’s so true how frustrating yet almost addictive it is

Oh, definitely addictive and well done! You could try scheduling your edges, only do them at set times you’ve decided in advance, that’ll give you a little more control over the in between times ‘No, not till 3pm, greedy pussy!’ kinda thing.

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