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Hey, this is kinda embarrassing but I’m going to have sex with my girlfriend but I want to make it special and fun. Can you give me some advice/positions? Anything could help. Thank you


I do love specific asks. This isn’t one of them…

I don’t know if you’re a guy, or a girl. I have no idea if this is your first time or not. ‘Can you give me some advice/positions’ is so vague it hurts.

Despite all that (OMG people please be specific with questions, it helps so much) here’s a few little pointers

Start with your MOUTH. Nope, I don’t mean oral sex, I mean, WORDS. Tell her how beautiful you think she is, how you feel about her, how excited she makes you. Get her wet on words alone.

Then use your HANDS. Touch her, caress her, tease her. Take your time, there’s no rush. Treat her like you’re unwrapping a present. Make her ache for you to go to the next step before you do it. Kiss, a lot, as your hands explore her. Use your fingers to caress her nipples then slowly work down to her clit and masturbate her as you make out. Keep talking, and listening. See how she responds, what she likes most. Make her crazy for more.

Then your MOUTH again, kissing down her neck, focusing on her breasts as your fingers stimulate her clit even more. Then, going down, down down until it’s your mouth on her, making her grab your hair as you lick and kiss and gently suck on her clit, your fingers starting to explore inside her, getting her ready for more.

And then, when you’ve got her to the edge, you come back up to kiss her and your fingers keep her right on the edge and you look into her eyes and tell her to cum for you and kiss her hard and deep as you make her orgasm.

Because yes, SHE CUMS FIRST.

And then (I’m assuming you have a cock because girls tend to ask better questions than this), and ONLY then do you start to tease her with your cock. (I’m also going to assume you are being smart and safe and using condoms). If this is a first/early time, no matter how wet she is, you should also use a little lube, it will make it much more pleasurable.

Encourage her to use her hands and mouth on you too, see if you can make her cum again while she does. 

But then, lay her back, because old school missionary is best for this scenario, and you press your lubed cock between her pussy lips, not in her, on her, and you rub it up and down so it grinds on her clit and the tip slips down to where she wants it so much, but you don’t give it to her yet, you look into her eyes and you keep talking and kissing and you tease the tip until she begs you to put it in her.

And then you do, but… just the tip. Self control is everything, as you watch her mouth open and then her eyes beg you for more, but you don’t give her more, not yet, You just fuck the head of your cock in and out, ten, twenty times, make her want it more than anything she’s ever wanted. And then, slowly, but with strength, you push it all the way inside her. And you hold it there, the two of you, joined. 

And then, back, back to the tip, five more half thrusts, and then deep again, keep doing that, keep teasing her, drive her crazy, make her lose it as you start to fuck harder, deeper, making her yours, claiming her inside and out. Wrap an arm around her back and pull her to you as you build in intensity and speed. Kiss, bite, bury your face in her hair as you focus on how good it feels, then lean back, let her see you as you cum, let her see how amazing it is to share this with her, and don’t hold back, fuck her, fuck her hard, and be vocal, she doesn’t want you quiet now, let her hear your pleasure as you jet your cum out.

And then, when you’re done. Don’t pull out, not straight away. Stay there, together. Kiss, look at her, tell her how amazing she is, how great that was. 

Then carefully pull out, both of you do a little clean up (sex is messy), and then, cuddle the fuck out of her. You never know, she might have a little bit of cumming left to do, so cup her mound with your hand and see if she’s up for more. And maybe after a little recovery, you will be too.

Special enough for you?

Found this reblogged, forgot I wrote it. It’s good shit. Enjoy.

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My boyfriend has (accidentally) been edging me for the last two months, which isn’t a bad thing for me.. I just want/need to learn how to edge on my own. But I have no self control!! Any advice?




Oh this is just wonderful. Your boyfriend’s sexual ineptitude has led to you being edged instead of cumming. That’s, that so beautiful and so awful.

I’m torn, you’re giving me such a dilemma. As a man the idea of a guy being so clueless hurts me and I want to fix that, but my evil dom side wants to make it worse.

Hmm, guess which wins…

So, first what I want you to do is encourage his poor loving skills. Tell him how good he is, when he fingers you like Marty doing his guitar solo tell him it feels so good.

When he fucks you fake it like a good little denial bitch. When you’re dripping with frustration and need, embrace his inept fumblings and weep secretly inside while you make him think he’s a champion lover.

And when he’s thinking he’s making you cum tell him you are, oh god, yes that’s it, I’m (not) cummmmiiiinnnnng!

And if, god forbid, he stumbles his way to taking you over the edge, you’re to immediately push him away and say you’re too sensitive, right as you ruin it.

And that’s it, for now. No, I’m not letting you do it yourself. Consider yourself on no touch apart from when he’s doing it. Learn some self control through that and maybe I’ll let you edge yourself if you do well.

In the meantime make sure you put your frustration into sucking his cock a lot. You’re allowed to touch yourself only while his cock is in your mouth. That’s all. Obviously no cumming, although if you manage to swallow every load or take it on your face, then every tenth time he cums you can ruin yourself while you suck him off.

Two weeks of trying that and let’s see how your self control has improved, then I might let you touch if you’ve impressed me.

Then again we might just pretend you can cum from anal:

Good girl.

This is brilliant.

Not only is this a master class in responding to people on your blog, it’s a master class in using gifs. I’ve seen people use gifs as answers and generally wondered why. But this is perfect.

Adding some of my old favourites to the blog. Would love you to submit any you think should be in here!

JuNO 30 Days of Denial Challenge

The Female Orgasm Denial Experience!

Well with a lots of likes and messages it appears you lot want to try a bit of extended denial. I’d normally like to plan something like this much better but let’s give it a go!

Firstly thanks to Hyacinth3704 for the idea! Sorry I didn’t let you cum on your birthday but I’m a bastard and you had it coming.

So, I want this to be a fun and very positive exercise. We’re not going to have any punishments if you fail, although there will be ‘funishments’ along the way. The whole point of it is to give you girls the chance to try out a bit of a longer period of denial, and know that there are lots of other denial sluts on the journey with you.

You are free to amend any of the basic rules to suit your situation, but try to decide what you’re going to do, and stick with it!

I very much want this to be a communal thing so I want you to be sending me regular updates on how you’re doing and I’ll post as many of them here as I can. Please give yourself a name or nickname so we can track how you’re doing!

You don’t have to opt in, but feel free to like and reblog this note as an indicator you are, maybe if you dare, add a bit of personal detail – which country you’re from, how old you are, what’s the longest you’ve ever been denied, how you feel about it – that would be truly fascinating.

Also totally encourage others to join in! The more the merrier.

I’m not going to promise to add daily tasks for this but we’ll regularly have extra ‘twists’ you can introduce and know others are trying it too.

If you blog about it on your own tumblr please use the tag #juNO30days so others can find it. 

If you really want to get into this think about setting up a secondary blog on Tumblr (they are anonymous) and posting daily updates and more on there. I will feature those heavily!

JuNO – The Basic Rules

  1. The aim is to not orgasm for 30 days in a row, while you deliberately make yourself as horny as possible by daily ‘edging’
  2. You are to edge yourself a minimum of three times a day, once before you get up, once last thing in bed, and once during the day – but more edges is great, decide what works for you, but AT LEAST 3 unless otherwise instructed
  3. You are to have fun. If you’re not having fun you’re not doing it right
  4. If you accidentally go over the edge into an orgasm, you must immediately stop all stimulation and so ‘ruin’ the orgasm. If you ruin the orgasm like this you have not failed and are still on course – but you are NOT allowed to ruin again that day and you must try your hardest not to at all (ruins will be given as separate, extra tasks).
  5. If you do have a proper orgasm during the 30 days then you have failed to complete JuNO, but you are still welcome to keep on participating!
  6. JuNo is only for women (and their partners) and those who identify themselves as such. Sorry boys, I know you love this stuff but you already have Locktober, NOvember and more. This is a ‘girls together’ kinda thing but feel free to try it, just please don’t be messaging me about it, thank you xxx
  7. If you’re late to the party you can start when you want, just follow the tag below to get all the relevant notes and instructions.


And here for any others www.tumblr.com/tagged/juno30days


To clarify what an edge is within the context of denial – it is ANY masturbation effort during your denial. It does not matter if you get to THE edge of an orgasm (although it’s great if you can and definitely a goal), as long as it feels good and makes you hornier, it’s an edge.

This also means you can’t do all your edges in one go, just getting to the edge of an orgasm and ‘bouncing there’ a dozen times does not mean you’ve done 12 edges. It’s one, sorry! My game, my rules. You need at least a ten minute gap between reaching the edge of an orgasm and getting yourself back there for it to count again towards your total (Just in case some of you want to go crazy and do lots of edges).

But the main point of JuNo is to just keep horny, have fun, and experience, I hope, the feeling of euphoria associated with longer term denial (the denial high). It’s also to help you gain greater self-confidence, sexual positivity and to discover, I hope, that you do actually have some self-control!

This is not a competition – it’s a collaborative experience. So please, post updates on your blogs, send me submissions and asks with updates. Anything that I think is of interest will get posted, if it’s positive or negative, share your experience.

However, it is a strict rule, and it’s strict to help you persevere. There’s no cumming for 30 days, no exceptions. You cum just once and it’s over and you have to start again. But you aren’t going to cum, are you? Because you’re a good girl, and good girls don’t cum without permission. 

So are you ready, my little denial slut? Are you ready to make your pussy drip, your clit ache and show me just what you’re capable of?



IT IS! Let’s do this!

Put your hand in your panties, right now. Rub that clit and say out loud, ‘I promise not to cum for 30 days. I am a denial slut’.

Good girl, no going back now. Give me a good edge and get ready for more…

Welcome to JuNO, it’s going to be one hell of a ride!



The Greatest Valentine’s Gift?

So, you’re in a relationship, but you’re scared to tell them you’re into denial, that you want them to take control of your orgasms, and stop you cumming. To tease and deny you, to make your fantasies come true.

Well tonight is the night my little denial sluts. Time to be brave and tell them. 

Worst case scenario they’re going to think it’s a bit weird, but I hope the letter I’ve written below will explain just what’s in it for them. Best case scenario your fantasies are going to become reality. I think it’s worth the risk.

But you have to take the first step.

So tonight, or when you’re next together, this is what you say.

‘So, I had this thing I wanted to ask you, you might think it’s a bit weird or kinky but I hope you’ll like it. It’s a big thing for me, okay?

You totally have their attention at this point

I have this fantasy, where you don’t let me orgasm. Not just once but, a lot. You keep me all horny and desperate, and basically enjoy keeping me like that. It’s actually quite a common kink, they call it orgasm denial.

I really, really, really want you to do that to me. Do you think you’d try for me?

Hoping you’ve got a positive response, or at least curiosity, you can now, if you want, hand them this post – copy it, edit it, print it whatever. And let them read.

Why you should be denying your girlfriend/wife her orgasms – some advice for you

So, you’ve probably just been handed this by your girlfriend/partner/wife with her saying, ‘you should read this, I’ve been trying to say this but he puts it better’ or something like that.

First let me emphasise that you, whoever you are, are very lucky. She is into one of the best kinks around which is going to have the effect of giving you more hot sex than you have ever dreamed of. Really, of all the things she could be into, this is one of the best.

Even though they won’t know why, you’re going to be the envy of your friends who know anything about your sex life. And most of all you are going to have a lot of fun and get even closer to her by making her fantasies come true.

Sound good? Then let’s read on.

Your girlfriend (I’ll just use that term whatever your relationship is) is into orgasm denial. You may know this already from what she’s said to you, or this may be a complete surprise.

Orgasm denial is the fact she loves to be taken close to cumming, but not allowed to go over the edge. That’s right, she wants to be left feeling horny, wet, desperate. And we’re not just talking a few times during sex when you make her cum at the end, although that’s a great way to start exploring this.

No, if she’s shown you this, she probably wants more than that. She wants you to not let her cum at all during sex. To leave her like that, during the day, overnight. Sometimes days, even weeks or a month or more.

Crazy huh?! Yes, I know it sounds that way but it really isn’t because while she’s giving up the short term pleasure and release of an orgasm, she’s learnt that she feels even BETTER if she’s just left horny. Guys tend to get ‘blue balls’ if this was done to us (although lots of guys are into it to) but women are different, they often get an almost ongoing natural ‘high’ from being left horny and denied.

She’ll almost definitely have tried it for herself, ask her now if she has. How long she’s gone for (she may have struggled to have the self control to just do it herself or she may amaze you). Get her to tell you how whatever she has tried so far has made her feel. She’s pretty nervous how you’re going to react to this whole thing so reassure her. Also, you reading this, it’s making her really horny. You even reading this is a dream come true.

What’s in it for you?

Enough about benefits for her, let’s focus on the benefits for you of trying this out.

You are going to get a sex-crazed, constantly horny girlfriend who is absolutely obsessed with doing anything she can to please you, sexually or otherwise.

This is the stuff that dreams are made of.

Let me paint just a few scenarios:

More oral sex than you can imagine – If you leave her denied, horny, thinking about sex, she HAS to put that energy into something. Most of all, that’ll be you. Maybe she’s good at going down on you already, maybe she needs to improve. You can tell her. Either way, she will get much better and do it much more.

What do I mean when I say much more? Basically on demand. After a few days of denial she will want to suck your cock (or your clit if you’re a girl) pretty much whenever you want it.

Fancy a movie, or some Xbox? Would it be better with her on her knees between your legs, sucking on you? Yeah, probably. Usually, but not always, let her play with herself. It’ll only make her hornier.

Give her a bit longer denied and she’ll probably happily god down on you as you watch porn. Let this sink in…if you don’t let her cum she will be turned on by pleasuring you, while you watch porn.

You never need to masturbate again.

If she’s got room to improve her technique this is perfect. As you can tell her to go and ‘edge’ (read more of the blog to understand that better) while she watches oral sex training videos. Oh, you didnt think she was into watching stuff? Just wait till you read the rest of this blog SHE JUST GAVE YOU.

Those things she won’t do in bed, she’ll start doing for you

Anal, deep throating, cum swallowing, and did I mention anal… as time goes on and you leave her horny she will start to be prepared to do more and more of what you fantasise about.

Now I’m trusting you to be responsible with this. You’re effectively making her into a little orgasm denial addict, constantly horny, it massively lowers her resistance to trying things. Don’t abuse it… too much. Don’t just dive in and expect her to be able to do these things. Just make it clear you want them, that you’ll explore them together, and drop in the fact her orgasms are going to be very related to how well she performs.

Think that’s exploitative? Just ask her now. Ask her how much this turns her on, being denied and turned into your perfect little fuck toy.

In fact, why don’t you get her to go down on you right now as you read the rest of this. She knows what to do, that you might ask. She’s read this so many times before she gave it to you she probably knows the rest by heart.

You’ll see the difference

Please don’t think I’m being misogynistic here. It’s just something I see again and again when a couple explore denial. Maybe she loves to dress up and look good for you already but most relationships get comfy very fast. When she’s denied she will get back into putting lots more effort looking good for you. Whether that’s keeping her naked more (seriously, if she’s comfortable with her body she’ll probably crave this) to wearing lingerie, to dressing up just to show what a hot girlfriend you have so you’ll be the envy of your friends.

What you shouldn’t let her wear too much is panties. It seems a common desire to be kept ‘commando’ when on denial. Ask her about it, but no panties under skirts, or even in jeans so she rubs on the seam, are things she fantasises about but is rarely brave enough to try. She needs you to tell her.

Yes if you’re doing it right she’ll get so horny that sometimes she’ll literally drip down her thighs, but part of her loves that too.

At the risk of sounding like an asshole, denial can be great for getting her to develop good habits and discipline too. Maybe that’s keeping fit, keeping tidy, studying, eating healthily, etc. This is just a wonderful new motivator…‘Did you get that revision done; did you drink enough water; how many times did you get to the gym this week baby? Didn’t we say four if you even wanted a chance to cum?’ Etcetera.

Some key facts for you to understand about denying her

It takes more than just not letting her cum during sex to deny her

She needs a bit of a routine. I make the girls I’m training (yep, they beg me to do that, it’s a hard life) ‘edge’ themselves first thing each morning, last thing at night, and a couple of extra times during the day at a minimum.

You don’t have to do all that! Buy her a nice little vibe (see my recommendations page) and she can do most of them. Personally when I’m denying my wife she wakes up first, edges herself quickly with her hands, then wakes me with a blow job. She will do another at work, a third when she gets home and showers, and then I’ll take the lead in the evening.

She wants to be able to beg to be allowed to cum and hear you say ‘no’

I know, counter intuitive, but she will love asking, and WANTS to hear you say no. They just find that super hot. Trust me. If you ask her now if that’s true she probably just dripped down her thighs at you even mentioning it.

While I think of it, maybe you might want to tell her to finger fuck herself as she pleasures you. It’s cute, she’ll do it in time as though you were fucking her from both ends.

If you fancy it, make her show you the mess she makes on her fingers. If she’s horny enough she’ll even lick it off while you watch. See what I mean about this being the best kink?!

This is probably part of a bigger desire to be submissive to you

Orgasm denial is often part of a bigger kink of you being more in control of her. That can mean a whole world of things, so I won’t make any assumptions, but there’s LOTS of those ideas in this blog and others on tumblr, so at some point, get her to start a ‘secondary blog’ on tumblr which you both can share, and she can post things into it that turn her on. Or just read through this blog together and she’ll point things out (denying her makes her SO much relaxed about sharing her fantasies and desires with you, just watch).

Some objections

‘Yeah but I really like making her cum’

Okay, I totally understand that. There’s a desire in most of us to prove how good we are in bed, to ‘win’ the game by making her cum. But if she’s given you this to read it means that when you decide to ‘win’ like that every time, she feels like she’s losing. So all she’s asking is will you give this a go, for her? It’s got to be worth a try?

‘I don’t want her to turn into some super slut’

Here’s the big difference, she doesn’t want to be A slut, she wants to be YOUR slut. It can be absolutely secret. All my friends know is my wife and I have an amazing sex life, they don’t know why. And honestly that makes it all the more fun. She will try absolutely anything, and if she doesn’t like it, that’s cool! But yeah, we’re nearing 40 and we have sex virtually every day, and that’s not even including the daily blowjobs and all the other kinky shit. Again, if your woman is into this you are a fucking lucky bastard. Don’t squander it!

‘What if I don’t like it, I don’t want to disappoint her’

That’s very sweet of you but what’s not to like. You simply stop short of letting her cum, at least sometimes, and in return you get a girl who wants to please you and do all kind of crazy things with you.

Worst case scenario it might just be something you do to her occasionally as part of your sex life. Best case scenario you both love it and it unlocks a whole new level of pleasure and excitement for you both.

So what now?

Still not sure if this is for you? Let her show you how much she wants it. If she’s not down between your legs already, ask her to go there now. Remember, she has read all this, 100 time already, before she got up the nerve to show you. She’s read it, and knows this is going to happen, and has given it to you anyway.

Now, tell her to strip if you’d like that. Don’t ask, just tell her, ‘Strip for me baby’

Just enjoy this, she’s wanted this for so long, look at that wonderful mix of excitement and nervousness. If you’ve got this far and are actually doing this, it’s her dream coming true.

Now tell her to play with herself as you ask her the following questions. If you want her hand stroking your cock as she answers just tell her. Now ask her things like:

1. How long have you wanted this, tell me how you got into it?

It’s useful for you to get some context

2. How serious are you about this?

Her answers might range from ‘it just seemed like a hot fun thing for us to try’ to ‘I have never wanted anything more’. Again, good for you to know.

3. What have you actually tried so far? How does it make you feel?

It may be it’s just a fantasy so far (in which case she’s pretty damn brave giving you this!) or she’s secretly been doing it for years, and wants you to be part of it. Find out how long she’s actually denied herself for, and how she uses denial play already.

4. How long do you imagine me denying you?

Whatever she says, remember the answer is up to you. She might say ‘a few days’ which is easy. Potentially she might say she fantasises about never being allowed to cum again! Normally it’s between a few days to a month.

Whatever it is, with this kink you are very much in charge. You make her cum, when you want it. But as you discover the benefits of not letting her you may find that’s less often than you thought!

Make it happen

I’ve just given you a LOT of information, and it’s really just the tip of the iceberg for how you can enjoy this kink together. Your next step could be to read through this blog together, and get her to tell you the things she find hottest. That’ll be a great start. And then, just try a few of them out.

Just be aware of how much of a risk she’s taken giving you this. It might be one of the bravest things she’s ever done. Even if you’re not quite sure how much you like the sound of it, I really encourage you to be positive and say you’ll try it out and see how you get on.

However, if you’re getting as excited about trying this as she obviously is, it’s pretty hot to do something to mark you both deciding to explore this together.

She should have been playing as she answered your questions. If she has a vibe you may want her to get it. Either way, you could try something like this.

Tell her you want her to get near the ‘edge’ for you, get her to suck or rub you if you fancy it. Maybe take the chance to read this again if she needs more time. Then you might say something like

‘Do you want one last orgasm baby, one last cum before I start denying you for longer and longer?’

She might say ‘no, please deny me’ but the funny thing with denial sluts (yep, that’s what she is…) is they LOVE to beg to be allowed to cum, only for you to say ‘no’. This is one of the things you have to learn, when does she really mean it. Part of her always will, because it feels great, but mostly she hopes you say ‘no’.

Either way, tell her to get to the edge, and tell her to ask you for permission to cum.

Now it may be you want to watch her cum like this. In which case just say ‘Cum for me baby, keep your eyes open and look at me as you cum’.

However what she really wants is to hear you say ‘Stop now, you’re done’. Look at that amazing mix of frustration and joy on her face. Get used to it. She can’t believe it’s happening.

Now make her suck and pleasure you until you cum in her mouth, or fuck her if you prefer. Enjoy her and know how desperate she is for more but how much she loves not having it. And if you choose her mouth, make sure she swallows. That’s not optional any more, denial sluts always swallow.

Congratulations. You’ve just fulfilled her fantasy! Now the two of you have to see where you want to take it. So cuddle up, talk through how this was for you, and maybe browse through more of the blog if you’re in the mood.

Whatever happens, don’t let her cum today! Trust me, you wait till you see how she is in the morning…

Can I ask for your help?

I’d like to ask you a favour. If you’ve used this as a couple, as it was intended. PLEASE can you just drop me a message on Tumblr to let me know. I have no idea how much demand there might be for this kind of advice. Alternatively, if you wanted to use this, but for some reason couldn’t (circumstances or something I’ve included in it), can you also message me to help me improve them in the future.

If there’s demand I’ll write more specific advice for couples, if not, or in the meantime, there are so many ideas on this blog you can adapt and explore together.

Good luck as you explore this together. If you have any questions she’ll know how to send them to me via the Tumblr system!

‘Community service or 30 days detention?’ the magistrate had offered her.

Picking up litter versus a month fending off dykes she thought to herself, the choice was simple.

She’d had no idea Servicing the Community would be so literal.

As she tried to swallow the 18th load of her first morning’s service she realised she’d made quite the mistake. The vibe implant had a 720 hour program. She’d be on edge but unable to cum 20 hours every day, her arms bound so she couldn’t do anything about it. The effect was to transform her into a desperate slut who could only think how better to serve her community.

The other four hours were spent working out how to extend her sentence.

Once upon a time…





…there was a little girl. And when the little girl began to be a woman she discovered it felt very nice when she played between her legs. She would spend all day playing sometimes, because for some reason she never felt like she wanted to stop.

You see, this was a very special little girl, who had fallen under a wicked spell that would, for some unexplained reason, never let her climax. And so when she began to touch herself it became a quest, to find that thing that was lost, only, for the longest time, she didn’t know she was even looking!

Eventually the girl talked to others and realised she was different. All the other girls had a lovely feeling that finished their playtime! But poor her, no matter how hard she tried (and she tried very hard indeed!) she was always left wanting more.

Later she learnt that boys have a magic wand and she hoped and hoped that when she got hold of one of them it would let her find her treasure. Imagine her disappointment and frustration when all she got was messy!

One day she heard about a wizard who would impart this very trait upon women, to take away their climaxes, because they, and he, loved it. Surely he, an expert in this precious gift, might advise her on how to find her own?

Nervously she entered his castle and couldn’t stop wriggling in her seat with excitement as he assured her he knew just how to give her what she sought so desperately.

Her hope was kindled as he took her hand, and led her up to the highest tower, whispering promises of undiscovered pleasure when finally he’d give her what she was looking for.

But through the bars on the door he whispered with a smile, ‘But why would I ever do that, my wonderful princess? You’re perfect, just the way you are. Here you are, and here you’ll stay, until I’ve had my fill of you and your glorious gift. And then, just perhaps, I’ll give you what you seek’.

And as she heard the key turn in the lock she sank into the big bed, a tear in her eye, her fingers automatically sliding down between her legs to begin their endless quest. And yet this time, it was different. She was no longer just different, she was special.


Holy shit!

When someone asked me about a blog about anorgasmia and tease and denial, I didn’t know what they were talking about. I thought I must have forgotten something but, thanks to @supersecret-things, it’s become obvious that the asker hadn’t realized they’d asked the wrong blog!

@brand-new-in-box is a tumblr that’s run by an anorgasmic woman who loves tease and denial and @female-orgasm-denial.

Most welcome, and my pleasure.

Well thanks to you both @femsubdenial, hopefully you’ll find something that you like. Let’s make anorgasmia hot 😉

Welcome to the magic castle. Be careful what you wish for!

This was the story that I started the blog with. Little Miss Can’t Cum (she still hasn’t come up with a good sobriquet) is responsible for most of the wonderful recent content.

Guided masturbation – an orgasm denial task

Hello everyone, and especially all my new followers (which is basically all of you!).

On a recent post I mentioned  the idea of Guided Masturbation. Why would you need that? I hear some of you ask, you know how to masturbate you’ve been doing it since (fill in age here).

Look, this isn’t to say you’re doing it wrong, per se, just as with many things, you may well have got stuck in a rut (pun not intended).

Letting someone else tell you how to do it can not only inspire new ideas, but it’s also pretty hot to imagine someone else controlling you. This has turned out to be quite long so I’ll post it in parts.

Imagine your fingers are someone else’s or that you’re being controlled somehow, your fingers, agents of another’s will, teasing you, enjoying you, masturbating you.

Easy as it would be to rush through this, try and take your time if you have it, if I were whispering these words in your ear (one of my favourite pasttimes) I’d make you take about an hour to do the following task.

You can, or course, orgasm at the end of this if you so wish, but given this is a blog about female orgasm denial, that isn’t the happy ending you’ll be getting in this particular story. You love it.

A note on vibrators
This is going to assume you have some kind of vibe, if you don’t, you really should invest in one, just a cheap little bullet vibe or egg. Lovehoney is best if you can shop online, otherwise find an Ann Summers if you’re UK like me.  If you can’t risk that then electric toothbrushes are your friend or there’s even smartphone apps (I offer no warranty for water damage) … and otherwise, just use your fingers, it’s why God made arms the length they are!

Let’s begin

Get yourself somewhere comfortable, a bed, or sofa, somewhere you feel relaxed and comfortable. Start clothed – this is all about the tease and anything you wear can help us with that. You don’t really need a bra for this, if you have one on, lose it at an appropriate moment.  You should have a couple of layers covering your mound, so panties plus trousers (pants) or a skirt (preferable to a dress as you’ll see, but just adapt).

So first, the rules…

  1. No cumming without permission
  2. No touching anywhere you’re not told to

Centring yourself

So to start with I want you to take a moment to really become much more aware of your body. Lie there, with your hands on your tummy, and read through this part as you try it.

I want you think about your toes, become very concious of them, how they feel, wiggle them, let your thoughts move up your feet, your ankles, calves to your knees, bend them just a little, open your legs a bit, let your thoughts move up your thighs, to your mons, your pussy lips, become very aware of them, the fabric covering you, how it feels from your waist down, under, through your legs, to your back. As you part your legs a little more feel your lips touching each other, perhaps you can feel them open just a little.

Then move your thoughts up, the weight of your hands on your tummy, those fingers that soon will be doing just what they are instructed, but not yet…

And then your breasts, I don’t care what you think of them, your breasts are amazing; no matter what they are like, there are thousands, perhaps millions of men who would do anything just to see them, let alone touch them, and you get to play with them as much as you want. Lucky girl.

Become aware of them now, again the fabric cupping them, your nipples, moving every so slightly against it as you breath. Take a deep breath, feel it move more. A few more deep breaths, feel your whole body relax as you breathe out each time. 

Now you’ve done it with your eyes open, do it with your eyes shut.

Now we’re going to do it one more time, but this time your fingers are going to trace where your mind is thinking – to start bring your knees up and spread them a little, feet flat on the surface you’re lying on. Start with your knees, then trace down your thighs, when you get to your mound, lightly stroke it, and your breasts, cup and squeeze them gently. 

Good, you should feel relaxed and very aware of your body now.

If you’re wearing a bra now’s a good time to take it off, ideally you want one layer of clothes covering your breasts.

Breast play

Even if it’s quick, I’ll often start a woman masturbating by playing with her breasts. Not only does it act for many like a starter engine for your pussy, but it reminds you that masturbation and denial are not just about that little area between your thighs, but your whole body. 

You are sex. It’s why you exist; evolution, God, whatever you believe, there’s no denying you are made for sex. It’s where your life started. Fucking gave you life. Your whole body is designed to give, and receive pleasure, that beautiful, moistening pussy between your legs is designed to give and receive pleasure, so let’s practice now.

Slide your hands down to cup your breasts, through your top. Gently squeeze them and begin to run your fingers over them, spiral your fingers closer to your nipples and focus playing there until they are starting to get hard. Run your finger tips gently back and forth over them like you were filing your nails.

Go back to cupping them through your top and catch them between your finger and thumb, squeeze them gently for the first time, roll them between your fingers, feel them respond. But more importantly, feel the response between your legs. Your nipples are connnected there, every time you pull on them, squeeze them, rub them it’s making you want to touch your clit, finger your pussy, even more. 

But you can’t, not yet.

Focus on your nipples, is it frustrating to not touch them directly? Good. Pinch them through your top again and this time, start tugging on them. Pinch them harder now, as hard as feels good. And then pull, pull until your fingers slip off your nipples, ‘milking’ them through your top. Feel the fabric dragged over them, the desire to touch your skin and not have your top in the way… and the ache between your legs grow. 

Now bunch up your top at its base, and drag it up, right to your nipples, and pull that hem up and down over your breasts, over your nipples. Up and down, only the fabric pulling at them. Did you ever want to touch your breasts so much?

You can now. Slide your hands onto your bare skin for the first time and feel them, appreciate them, play with them. Run your fingertips lightly over your breasts, again, start to work towards your nipples, savour the fact you can touch them directly now, how good that feels. Begin to rub them, pinch them, pull them. Do it for as long as you can until the ache, the need between your legs grows too great.

Coming in part 2 – going down… http://goo.gl/SpmhYC