So my mantra is ‘cumming is good, but not cumming is better’. I love to deny […]
Tag: denial for couples
Hello James! Couples advice greatly appreciated. I finally got up the courage to ask my new husband to get into longer-term denial with me (after he was gone for a weekend and I edged myself crazy to show him how great it could be when he got home). He seems to be into it as well, but the thing with him is how to keep him invested over time. He gets excited in the moment, but its been about a week and I feel like he forgets that we’re doing this together. Any thoughts greatly appreciated. -I
Lots of thoughts! I always love answering question on denial for couples, so thanks for […]
Thank you!
Hello! I’ve been a huge fan of your blog for a couple years now I […]
Hi! So I absolutely love your blog, and so far I’ve managed a full week of denial. I’m pretty submissive and I’ve always been interested in bondage, but I’ve never had a partner who wasn’t weirded out by the idea (I usually casually bring it up a few months into new relationships just to test the waters). So I wanted to know if you’d be willing to make some posts about self-bondage? I can do quite a few things by myself when it comes to bondage but I would love to see what you can come up with.
How interesting. I get that partners often struggle to understand why not cumming is better, […]
Hiya James! I’m responding to the whole “anal only religious conviction” thing and the song. I don’t want to have sex out of wedlock but I also love my boyfriend and want him to have his fun. So I’ve been having only anal sex for quite awhile. At first it hurt a lot but if I include my clit I really enjoy it; every girl should try it at some point! I can’t cum from it normally so I don’t have many orgasms. I don’t actually think my bf knows this is denial but hey, good girls don’t cum, right?
And what a good girl you are! I don’t know why this makes me so […]
Hi James, I have an issue. My boyfriend and I are long distance and we’ve been doing denial since our relationship began, but I just don’t think I’m into it anymore. The thing is, him living over 3,000 miles away means that other than denial our sex life is basically non existent, and orgasms were like our special thing for when we were actually together, and I don’t want to take away the fun parts of our sex life, so I don’t know how to tell him. Do you have any advice?
Firstly, this is totally okay. It’s absolutely fine for what you’re into to change, and […]
What have you done to me? I’ve been denied for two months now, and last night my boyfriend was fucking me and told me I could orgasm if I want to and I said no! I like this feeling too much and I don’t want an orgasm to ruin that, I hate and love you for it
Now be a good girl and send him this if you haven’t: https://female-orgasm-denial.tumblr.com/post/160445894488/i-have-something-to-ask-you
Hello I love love your blog! Thank you for all your hard work. I’m not lying when I say orgasm denial has saved my marriage. Before I found your blog and started orgasm denial i was only having sex with my husband 3 times a year and i wasnt really into it. I would just masturbate and cum on my own and ignore him and he would get mad easily and we’d fight alot. But now im jumping him 24/7 and we never fight! Ty james! : ) -nicole
Dear Nicole, Thank you. It means so much to me to hear this. I know […]
what do you think about faking orgasms? a lot of men dont understand not wanting to cum
I think it’s perfectly valid if you’re really into denial, and they aren’t. But with […]
Hey, hey! I just want to tell you how much I appreciate you also sharing your participation in Locktober! I’m in permanent denial; that Daddy of mine *also* plays with denial and is participating in Locktober. One of the highlights of our date last week was my enjoying pleasuring him even while he was in his cage, culminating with my edging myself against the cage. *rub rub rub* I admit to enjoying the shared experience of denial more than I realized I would. GOOD STUFF.
I’m so glad it’s helpful. I think part of the reason I can write about […]