You are very welcome Ashlee, and congrats on the nipple piercing, it works SO well […]
Tag: denial for couples
Hi James. My BF & I are new to D/s. We switch & want to try orgasm denial for me. But I get really grumpy if I don’t get an orgasm at the end of teasing, we want to at least experience me going a week or two without orgasm, with a few teasing sessions in that time. But currently my grumpy reaction to denial makes it no fun. Do you have any tips for me, or him, to help mitigate my grumpiness or somehow start to shift my mindset more positively when it comes to denial? We really enjoy your blog!
Don’t try for a week, let alone two. Set yourself the achievable target of a […]
Hi James, I have been doing no-touch denial for a while now with my husband. I like denial a lot but I am noticing that no-touch doesn’t offer much in terms of excitement like edging does. I’ve asked him if we can try it and for a couple of days he makes an effort, then it tapers off. I kind of feel like he’s not invested in it. It’s been three months of no-touch and I feel really sad and not very sexy. How do I really get my point across that edging might help? Thanks.
Hello No Touch Anon, I’ve written just recently about this so search through and find […]
Hi James! You can see from my (new) blog that I’m fairly new to longer term denial, but my husband has been pushing me past my comfort zones more and more. We’ve done two nights twice, which I know sounds wussy, but it was agonising for me! My difficulty is real life. We have small children, I have a job, and when I’m denied I just want to be a needy sex toy 24/7 which isn’t compatible with either. Orgasms make it much easier for me to parent and not be fired. What’s the balance?
I can’t see your new blog because you sent this anonymously, Anon. But real life, […]
A denial confession – usual story of sex life with hubby gone flat after kids. My libidos been higher than his so got into tumblr and found your blog and have been denying myself on and off for a few months. LOVE IT, ty so much. My arousals sparked hubby’s, plus all the blowjobs I’ve offered him lol Even tried the pussy juice as perfume and defintely affected him! For Valentine’s I bought him a cock cage! We’ve both been edging and denying and our sex life is transformed in just a month (1/2?)
and thanks for the keephimcaged blog recommendation – inspired me, and him! Honestly we can’t […]
I’ve been looking at this blog for a few years and am now in a serious relationship. He’s pretty vanilla(so am I tbh) so I didn’t mention that I was into edging because I was worried he might get freaked out. But a couple days ago he mentioned that he likes to edge when we are having sex so he will last longer and so I bit the bullet &asked if he would do it to me!Now we’re trying edging/handcuffs/blindfolds and I wanted to share incase anyone else is feeling nervous about talking to their s/o.
This is great! Well done. And it’s so important to realise, this is one of […]
Gf really loves being teased but feels like I’m angry with her when I don’t let her cum. She wants to feel horny but gets really sad as if not letting her cum is out of spite, even though she knows why. How do you let a denied girl know their denial isn’t a punishment?
You tell her. Seriously, that’s the best plan. ‘You love teasing, so I think it […]
Casey here. I’ve faked an orgasm every single time I’ve ever had sex. My boyfriend WANTS to be considerate and generous and all, but I just can’t find any way to tell him that the way he licks my pussy, he might as well be licking my elbow. He usually just fingers me for a second then ploughs right in as if I can get off just from his dick inside me, and I moan and writhe but I’m nowhere near to cumming, and when he cums and slumps on top of me I clench around him and cry out so he can feel (1/)
like he’s done a great job but it’s just so frustrating. I don’t want to […]
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littlemisssubshine: Guys I did it… I took the offer. However, there was dialogue and discussion […]
I just read your last post about tutoring a couple. I have one question, where do I sign up?!!!!!! We’re not christian or engaged but were both into denial and the idea of being tutored by you is awesome! Would you be interested, please James, pretty please?!! K.
Hey K, Short answer, yes, I’m always interested in teaching couples. It’s something I’ve been […]