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Hello, James. I have a dilemma. My current partner is a submissive boy with slight aggressive tendencies. Most subbie boys enjoy pleasing their lady. It’s what gets them off. And I rather enjoy orgasm denial once in a while. I figure we’d deny each other. I just don’t know how to breech the topic to him?? Since his pleasure is the utmost importance to me. But I think this could be good for us. I’ve been a switch for awhile now but being the dominant partner is still new to me. -Hazel

Step 1 – Lock his cock up in one of these:

Step 2 – Profit

Okay but really, it’s okay to be dominant and still love edging and denial. I sure do. I think it’s why I can write about it so passionately. 

There are lots of dommes who contact me wanting to be denied.  I’ve got a couple of pro-domme friends who absolutely use it to get themselves in the zone for working with their clients.

Edging and denial tend to enhance your natural D/s tendencies. That’s not always the case, but at least at first, I think you’ll find him edging you will make you MORE dominant. So don’t overthink it too much. Just get him between your legs and tell him to edge you, to not let you cum. Watch the fireworks. I know you want to please him but you need to get more comfortable with the fact his greatest pleasure comes from pleasing you. That doesn’t necessarily mean getting you off.

Get him to edge your fucking brains out. If his tongue isn’t in your asshole by the end of it, pushing both you and him to new experiences, I’d be amazed. It isn’t just him who can be unleashed by edging and denial, if anything it works even better on women.

I said ‘at first’ above because if you’re switchy (and switchy is the best of both worlds, screw anyone who says otherwise) there’s a chance that prolonged and severe denial will push you into a more submissive headspace. So just be aware of it. That might be cool. I actually had one couple where exactly that happened. He got caged, she went deep down the denial rabbit hole, and they ended up messaging me ‘So umm, ever denied a couple?’ It’d rude to say no.

The other approach compared to the above simple one of just telling him to do it and watching the fireworks is make it a game, a competition. Dare each other to not cum for the month and to turn each other on as much as possible. You can’t go far wrong with that. Set up some hot rules, forfeits for any failures, and just have some fun.

It sounds like you’re doing a great job stepping up into the top role, Hazel. Keep going, and remember if you’re not laughing sometimes you’re doing it wrong.

I hope that helps,

James

PS A cock cage will do wonders for his slightly aggressive tendencies. Just sayin’

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I can’t tell who’s more frustrated. Me from not cumming for a month or you from how fucked Tumblr is acting.

Well I can double up on that. So there!

I stupidly (it’s actually been super hot), offered my wife that she could lock up my cock for as long as she likes as a gift (I know I’m so romantic but it was cheaper than flowers). But really, she loves how horny it gets me and I get super dom and mean (when I’m not crying myself to sleep).

So anyway, there I was thinking ‘ahh she’ll pick like a week, maybe a bit more if she’s really feeling switchy.’

‘How about until our anniversary?’ she suggests after a few days thinking about it.

Our anniversary is FUCKING AUGUST.

So yeah, that happened. And honestly, it was so hot she stepped out of her comfort zone that much, and well I like a challenge. 

I get out regularly for edging and sucking and fucking and actually a few ruins because who knew balls could ache THAT much. But damn fuck it, I am not going to lose this battle! 

So I was right in the trenches with you…

So yeah, I did JuNo too, therefore…

But I’m not listening to these guys again.

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Something I discovered tonight: wearing a chastity belt and rubbing in slow circles against the metal right where my clit is trapped beneath makes me so wet. My brain and body wants to feel the stimulation, but instead I just feel nothing.

Oh wow, it’s like ‘phantom clit syndrome’ I love that!

I had a couple recently where I’d got the guy in a cock cage, the plastic all enclosing type (CB6000S for those interested) and she gave him a blowjob, on the cage, so he felt nothing at all, just visual. And he came, just from that, well technically, and delightfully, it was a ruin.

The fact that it was the first blowjobs she’d EVER given him (I kid you not, she’s denied too, really opens you up to new things) probably helped. When they asked if it was a bad thing my reply was, ‘Of course not, it just means you never need to let him out now’, heh heh.

The brain, people, it’s your most important sex organ, by a LONG way.

Well, at least for the ladies…

hi James, i denied my boyfriend from coming this past sunday knowing full well i wasn’t going to see him until thanksgiving. since then we’ve decided (him not knowing about denial/edging/etc.) that neither of us is going to come until the wednesday before thanksgiving (the next time we’ll see each other) and having never denied myself, let alone someone else for this long is exciting to me. i’m also god awful at edging so chances are i will be avoiding touching myself all together…. ~elise

Hi Elise,

That’s awesome, dual denial is so much fun! If he hasn’t done it before, he’ll find it even harder, and probably fail, so just talk about being honest if that happens. We don’t want it causing any kind of barrier between you. If he keeps failing of course, a cock cage is the perfect solution 😉

The job now is to tease the living fuck out of each other – I highly recommend setting up a shared Tumblr that you can both post stuff to that’ll turn you both on. Add to that some sexting, phone/video sex and you’re both going to be going crazy. Fun huh!

Also, if you’re both loving it, maybe try agreeing you won’t cum when you first get back together, agree a time frame where you hold back, it’s so intense and good if you can resist the temptation for just a little longer and enjoying being together with all the built up arousal and anticipation.

So, have fun with it, keep communicating, and let us know how you get on!

James

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I started dating this girl recently, Im a guy. So she is into dom stuff and has kinda made a claim on me and I think its super cool that she wants to be the one in power. I want to impress her by wearing something that can put her in power in public or something like that, do you have any advice of things I can wear that she would really like, like that? Any advice would be good that lets me be more of hers, I want her to own me like the good little boy I am. Thank you in advance -P

Well, I was thinking a cute little bracelet or necklace or…

No, that’s a lie.

Get a COCK CAGE

Get it right now.

Lock it on, give her the key

Live happily ever after.

Oh and check out the legendary Locktober for lots of ideas:

http://www.keephimcaged.com/tagged/locktober-2018/chrono

Father’s Day Chastity Gift

keephimcaged:

This Father’s Day give your hubby a real thrill he won’t forget.

1. Get him worked up – tell him you have plans for him later, maybe accompanied by some fun tumblr posts

2. Once in bed, if you can, tie him up! Whether you use proper restraints or just some silk scarves or ties, it always makes it more intense

3. Play something sexy in the background – on a tablet or TV, getting some favourite porn going is a fun treat on Father’s Day, even if he just gets to listen to it

4. Start teasing – warn him that no matter what happens tonight, he’s going to end up locked back in his cage, and the amount of time depends on just what he gets as his Father’s Day gift

Get into it yourself too, grab a vibe and edge yourself as you play with him and tease him – don’t cum yet, it’ll help you be meaner! 

5. The rules of the game are as follows (you can change the numbers and options to suit your level of intensity but here’s what I’m doing)

Days locked up before your next orgasm:

  • Handjob – 2 days
  • Blowjob – 3 days
  • Sex – 4 days
  • Anal sex – 5 days
  • Being pegged – 7 days

You could just pick the highest he asks for… or… you could add them up (that’s what we’ll do! So a handjob, and blowjob, finished with sex, would be 9 days.

But that’s just for receiving those, there’s a multiplier!

If he has a ruined orgasm, the days are doubled

If he has a full orgasm, the days are tripled.

Or he could just be left, balls full and desperate, to only get the basic amount.

So best case scenario would be a father’s day handjob for just two days lock up, but without cumming

But a handjob, BJ, sex then anal sex where he cums, which would be 42 days!

While you’re doing all these, remind him how much time is getting added on, that’s so hot. If you want to fuck him, whisper that if he cums it’s going to cost him 15 days locked up! 

Once he’s cum, or you’ve stopped, try and lock up his cock before you release him, trust me, if you can it’s super hot!

Our rules, for whatever is the outcome, is that he’ll get regular edges when locked up, BUT if he cums before the time is up, he will be locked up without release for the rest of the time (this works REALLY well as a rule for us).

I hope that inspires some of you! Enjoy and Happy Father’s Day!

Jane xxx

For those of you who enjoy male denial too, this is a devilish game!
My wife just sent it to me with ‘wanna play’?
If I get much meaner for the rest of JuNO you’ll know why…

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Can a trans girl with a penis take part in JuNO?

Hell yes, lucky you. You get to choose between edging or my much preferred option of locking it up!

Lock it up, lock it up! (guess which I prefer)

Fuck, how hot is she…

Maybe if you’re a good girl I’d let you out for the occasional stroke.

Can guys also take part in juNO?

Well, you’re welcome to take inspiration from it however you fancy but guys have stuff like Locktober and NOvember already. So while there will be bits in here for couples exploring denial together, it’s really pretty focused on what the blog is about, female orgasm denial. 

That does of course include anyone who identifies as female, although as with life for anyone trans, that always comes with added complications that I’m sure they’ll cope with admirably. Some will have what I think is the huge bonus of being able to employ a cock cage. Best of both worlds.

Hmm, you know what, that does give me an idea. If any guys want to ‘participate’ they are more than welcome to become ‘locked observers’. A nice tight cock cage for the entire month. I’m sure our lovely JuNO participants would enjoy knowing you’re sharing in their suffering.

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As a transwoman who is probably years away from being able to have the operation but is very into edging based stuff. This is really difficult to do because stimulation is so much easier and anal stuff so much harder. Please do you have any advice? Orgasms just kind of depressed but in the moment I can’t stop myself even though I know that when the sexual energy vanishes, I’ll go back to the depression I spend 90% of my life in. Edging is good for my mental health but I just can’t do it properly

Put a lock on it! Absolutely seriously. It’s the one great denial advantage any of us born with penises has over those who weren’t. Female chastity belts are mostly uncomfortable and the good ones cost a fortune. Cock cages though, cheap, comfortable, and very effective.

My first recommendation is something like the CB6000S (unless you’re seriously endowed, small is better), as you have 25 different size options to experiment with. And then get something pink, or metal, or whatever you fancy once you’ve got used to it.

And then? Enforced self containment. Lock it on, put the key in jar of frozen water, or give it to a friend…and learn that anal stuff is so much harder, and all the better for it.

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