Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

Hi James.. I am 21 this year.. and have never came before. I found your blog a while ago and have been a big fan ever since. I would rub my clit or use my dildo on myself for hours, only ever getting close.. but never over the edge. In fact I think I am scared to go over the edge. Should I try to have an orgasm or just keep edging like I always have? T xx

Ohhhhh, dilemma!  You know my general advice would be to try and have an orgasm. […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

I have to agree with Sage and Rey… I don’t actually think I’ve ever cum? I’ve never had the luck of getting a guy to do anything to my body so I’ve never had anyone else make me cum – and I genuinely think I’ve just been ruining my orgasms, because straight afterwards I am able to continue touching, even though I’m extremely sensitive! James, should I just keep ruining my orgasms or finally give myself a real one? -Alice

Hey Alice (best name for a denial slut btw) I think and hope you’re right. […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

I have a sexual dysfunction disorder and I’ve never come. I’m not even sure I can come. Eventually I went to my doctor about it, got sent to a sex doctors (yes, an actual sex doctor, those exist now) and she told me to stop focusing on trying to orgasm. Just focus on pleasure. So I’m to send a week basically trying to edge every day. That’s how I found your blog yesterday! Maybe I’ll do the Advent Denial Calendar? Anyway, thanks James! – Samantha

Hey Samantha, So I don’t know how much you’ve been reading the blog but when […]

Blog Post, Female Orgasm Denial

I have a fear around orgasms, mostly due to high trauma, and I always hated it and thought I was going to be thought as broken by every guy I ever met. Thing is I have a high libido and I love to please my partner. I just wanted to say thanks because finding your blog made me stop thinking of myself as “broken” and helped a lot with my self-esteem. :D

That’s wonderful feedback, thank you for sharing!  You absolutely aren’t ‘broken’. We all have experiences, positive […]