So, I’ve tried several ways of edging over the years, but one way I’ve never been able to is by fingering myself. I’ve tried multiple times and I can’t seem to ever get any pleasure from it. Now when someone else does it, it’s great, don’t get me wrong. But when I do it myself it hurts and is a complete turnoff. Like, I’m not even the least bit wet anymore or not even horny or in the mood. Please help as this is very frustrating, and not in the good sense.

This is known as ‘God’s little joke’ (not really I made that up) and it’s very simply that you can’t get a comfortable angle or reach quite deep enough to finger yourself to orgasm. Your arms just aren’t long enough and neither are your fingers to do it at the right depth, or hard enough.

It’s this…

versus this:

See the difference…(source @thesecretroom )

The simple solution is a dildo! A nice bendy one designed hit your g-spot like I recommend in my toys page

An alternative though… is self-fisting. Seriously, If you can manage it, you can get the pressure from your whole hand that just your own fingers can’t.

You can do it from the front:

Or the back:

But you better be bendy and have small hands…