Sir, I was doing so well on no touch, only allowing myself to hump an ice pack (the numbing making it harder to come) but even so I had an accidental ruin. Is it normal to feel like you’ve literally “ruined” all your hard denial work when this happens? I’m the type of denial slut that doesn’t want to come, so even ruins feel like fuck-ups and kind of dampen my denial spirits. Any suggestions for ruins without the disappointment/guilt spiral? Or should I just skip them? Thank you, Sir! -B

Hey B,

Firstly bonus points for innovation! Humping an ice pack, genius! (If anyone copies her make sure the outside is starting to melt before you do, we don’t want frozen clits…)

I understand how you feel about the ruin, but we all fuck up in all kinds of ways and it’s so important we are able to separate our actions from our self-worth, especially in stuff like this. 

It’s only sex. 

No one died. No one got hurt. You didn’t even cum.

And the beauty is, a few edges and you’ll be back dripping like the little slut you are, as though it had never happened.

So skip the guilt, my orders. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be punished for going over… as punishment actually helps, a LOT, to make it better.

So if you ruin, you HAVE to ruin hard, three more times, before you are allowed to resume your normal denial. No cleaning up until all three are done. Even if that means you leave your cunt dripping and messy all day and night until you can manage your third.

You’re going to wish you were still allowed the indulgence of guilt.

You have three ruins to do. Make sure to let us know when you’re done.

Good girl.