Hi James, I absolutely love your tumblr! It’s what first introduced me and my boyfriend to denial and I can honestly say it’s changed my life. My boyfriend has really discovered his inner dominant and how much he loves to have control, and I’ve really realised how much I like to not have control, be teased and humiliated.

At the minute we’re 1 week into a 4 week holiday with his parents, but we’re all sharing a small hotel room together so we don’t have much privacy. It’s been super hot and been making me very drippy laying in bed with my boyfriend secretly teasing my clit and body while his parents are laid a few feet away. I usually can’t help being quite loud or making noise when I orgasm, so I don’t know how I’m going to last another three weeks of this.

My boyfriends a little sadistic and wants to makes this as hard as possible on me so we were wondering if you had any suggestions, ideas, little games we could play or any advice really for the next three weeks.

Lucie xxx

Hi Lucie, apologies for the slow reply, my inbox has an avalanche warning.

Thank you for the wonderful encouragement. It’s why I run this blog, denial can truly be the most transformative and wonderful kink!

Okay, so here’s some secret game ideas for couples into denial:

  • The Codewords – agree a few innocent phrases that he can say any time that actually mean you have to do something naughty. They could include
  1. ‘I feel a bit nippy’ Play with your nipples until they are hard
  2. ‘What time is it?’ – Go the bathroom and edge hard for three minutes
  3. ‘How are you feeling, baby?’ – rub my cock secretly under the table with a hand or foot
  4. ‘What’s up? – pull your panties right up into your slit and keep them there
  5. ‘Hi sexy pants’ – thigh masturbate yourself right now until I tell you to stop
  6. ‘How are you doin’?’ – your reply indicates how horny and wet you are e.g. ‘Not bad’ – kinda horny not very wet, through to, ‘So great’ – you are dripping and want to fuck his brains out
  7. and make up your own!
  • A day of intense edging – pick a day where you have to edge hard, every 30 minutes. Every time you go you text him and he’ll add instructions – do it naked, fucking only, do it on your knees, no cleaning up, shove your panties in your first and come back with them in, etc
  • Go without panties, every other day.
  • If it suits your body shape, lose your bra and be proud of your nipples being on show.
  • Sleep naked – once they’re asleep strip, and put them on again in the morning.
  • Try some secret pee play – you have to drink a certain amount of water every hour but can only go to the bathroom with his permission, let him add conditions to make it harder.
  • If it’s dark enough, give him a blowjob right there in bed secretly under the sheets and swallow his cum to keep it all secret.
  • Buy a marker pen and write degrading things over your body before dressing. Get him to tell you what to write and where.
  • Go and find some private spots, in the countryside or if in a town, in changing rooms perhaps, and have lots of fun together. If you dare, one time try letting him cum over your chest and walking around with it on you.

Most of all, just make sure you’re having fun with it. Keep talking to each other, tell him what you love him doing best, both of you try to come up with your own ideas, as you do your creativity will grow.

Let us know how you get on!!!


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