Aren’t they lovely, princess. Happy birthday! Each one is an orgasm you can have this year. A gift from me.Oh and baby, here’s my other gift. Yes, just a little pin.I want you to pop every orgasm you don’t want to have. But edge first, baby. I want you watch you thinking about how much
Hey James! So I have a really weird question. I’m really into the idea of denial and usually edge myself, but I want to try it with my boyfriend. The problem is I can’t orgasm. I can do it myself, but I’ve never been able to during activities with someone else. I’ve been faking it forever. So, my question is, is it even denial if I don’t/can’t orgasm anyway? Because, I feel like I could never have the full experience :/
Hi anon, You’ve got a few options here. If you can cum by yourself but just not with a partner then it’s usually a case of practising being more relaxed with them, communicating about where you’re at, and teaching them what works for you. Being more relaxed can be as simple as having a drink
hi James, quick question. do you think aiming for a month is too much for my first time edging? should i cut it down to a week? also, im edging myself, any tips on how to get myself to stop just on the edge? I’ve tried edging a few times but always mess up and allow mysterious an orgasm. thanks!
Yeah, it’s a bit overambitious. The trouble is you’re setting yourself up for failure whereas you want your first forays into the wonderful world of edging to be a success. A week is even a stretch. I’d normally suggest you build up by doing it overnight, as waking up super horny and edging again is
do you have any tips to help with self-control? i usually can’t edge more than 3 or 4 times before i accidentally push myself over and it ruins the whole experience because i just feel disappointed in myself
Stop at three. Seriously. Three edges and you’re done. No more touching for at least four hours. See if you can manage three days like that. Experience the denial high for real. Once you know what you’re missing out on by cumming, it’s easier to deny yourself.
I was meant to have a full orgasm but my mind made me have only a ruined one. I’m so desperate and now I have to go to school.
You are your mind, sweetie. Just own it. ‘Ruined orgasms are all I’m allowed, and I love it.’ ‘When I cum it’s a ruin, when I ruin it’s a cum’ That’s your new edging mantra.
Hi James, I was wondering if you accept anon photo submissions either here or on your BDSMLR acct? (Is that possible?) As part of my denial, I’ve been exploring clothing as a way of getting into the submissive mindset. I dress pretty modestly in public, but the thought of wearing something really revealing and having my body on display is a huge turn on for me. I took a pic the other night while wearing some of my newest outfit purchases and would love to share with you and your followers. -😇
Absolutely. As long as I’m convinced it’s genuine and from you, always happy to indulge exhibitionism. Probably more on BDSMLR than here now, although the post I just made with boobs in didn’t get flagged yet, which is interesting. I wonder if the new owners of Tumblr are letting things get a bit laxer. Anyway,
Hi James, Idk if you can answer this question but lately when I’m edging the only way for me to stop myself going over is to squirt a little bit (or sometimes a lot). It’s like I have to release the pressure somehow. I’m mostly fine with it but I am a little concerned that I have so little control over it. Do you or your followers have any tips on how to not squirt if you don’t want to? Thanks and have a great day!
That’s a new one on me but I can see the logic of it. There is a very definite pressure build up that increases pleasure for some women (just like some love edging with a full bladder) and so letting some of that out just takes you off the edge. If you don’t want to
Sending them proof of your mid-day edge.