James, I need advice. I’m a little, and ever since my Daddy dumped me I’ve been locked out of little space. We were together for six years and he left right when I thought he might propose. If I try and get into little space all the memories come back and I can’t do it. It’s my only escape and not having it is hard. Please help.

Oh darling, I’m so sorry. That’s horrible. 

I know it’s a platitude but this one is mostly going to take time to heal. You need to push back the little space for a while, be a big girl, and push on into that big bad world until you find someone who’s worthy of you. With time and their help what hurts so much now will become a distant memory.

There are other escapes though, you just need to find some others that work for you right now. Edging, reading, TV box sets, exercise, walks, gaming, cooking, vacations – they’re all good. And most of all time with friends, discovering life after daddy isn’t so bad after all.