Thanks for the question, it’s a really good one.
Let’s talk about vibrators, they come in a few major variations, from rabbits, which vibe inside and your on your clit, to eggs, which are egg shaped and usually on a lead, so you can hold them on your clit or slide them inside you, to a classic long, kind of cock shaped one. The one you want to start off though, is a smaller version of that is the bullet vibe, which is great for putting on your clit but also for using inside you, as it’s smaller than a standard vibe.
I highly recommend the Rocks Off range of vibes, which are very good value for their battery operated ones, and their RO-80mm USB chageable one is probably the best little vibe out there if you can stretch to afford it (25% off this week it appears)
So, then we get to how to use a bullet vibe. Firstly, it’s almost ALL on your clit. That’s where the action is, and a little vibe like this is designed to be gently rubbed and even pushed hard against your clit, either directly or through teh clit hood that usually covers it.
Sometimes your clit can be so sensitive that it hurts to put a vibe on high on your bare clit, but keep it low to start, and do it through your clit hood, and even panties, and you’ll be golden. Then build up as you learn what you can do. This is why a vibe, like the one I recommended, that has different speeds, is so useful.
For denial purposes having more patterns that will tease you is also great. This one has a 3 short one long pattern that is frankly infamous with the girls I deny…’ Oh god, not the 3:1!′ they beg. Love it. Not enough to make you cum, just enough to keep you edging.
But from the shape it’s also designed to go inside you, and that can feel great. This is probably what you’re more worried about hurting. And something this small, when lubed (always use lube if you’re new to this, just a simple durex lube is great until you learn if you are lubed enough from your own juices) is very unlikely to hurt, it’s not going to go deep, and the hymen, which you may still have as it sounds like you haven’t stuck anything up there yet, is NOT some barrier that will snap and hurt when you try any insertion. It’s usually a ring of membrane that will quite easily stretch. If you don’t know enough about it, read up on it and learn.
So no, a simple vibe won’t hurt on your clit, it will feel amazing and you’ll wish you bought it years ago. A bigger vibe might stretch you if you use it inside, but almost all vibe use is on the clit, not in pussy.
I think my message to anyone wondering this kind of thing is to encourage you to explore, find out about your body. Discover what feels good, what feels amazing. Yes, a few things might hurt a little when you first try but it’s nothing to worry about, and should things keep hurting, see a doctor, sex should be pain free and enjoyable (unless you’re a serious masochist, when it’s pain filled, and enjoyable).
So girls, if you don’t have a vibe, GET ONE! If you can’t get a vibe for some reason, try an electric toothbrush, that’ll show you how good it feels. And stop being scared of your vagina, you don’t lose your virginity by playing with it by yourself. If you don’t’ know how your body works and what feels good, you will struggle to tell a future partner. So get playing, you can even cum a few times at first, but then of course, stop that, and just enjoy being denied!
The best vibe – seriously, just buy it already, you’ll be so grateful!
