I was just wondering, what exactly is ruining? I only just started getting into denying myself orgasms and I see ruining coming up a lot on blogs, etc. But not a lot of posts explain what the full meaning of it is. I was hoping you could help shed some light on it for me, thanks. By the way, your blog was the one that got me into denying, I’ve not had an orgasm for 2 weeks and I’ve never felt better.