I messaged Lorelay to get a bit more info, and so I’ll post the chat below:
Hi Lorelay, thanks for the ask, quick clarification, how much are you edging?
It depends on how I feel. When I was cumming more often, I would edge two or three times every day before I could cum. Now, I just don’t want to, and, since I am not beholden to it, I’m not doing it as often. Maybe once a day? But, the less turned on I am, the more difficult it is to edge. Does that make sense?
Yes, a bit of a negative cycle by the sounds of it.
It seems to be. But I love the idea of denial so much! I really want to find a way to make it work for me.
Okay, well I think the first point to make is that the experience does vary, it might be that orgasms are key to you feeling horny, that’s true for some women.
But I think the key is probably two things, one is making a distinct effort to edge at least three times a day, even if it’s a short one.
And the second is to work out what makes you emotionally aroused. What is it he can say or make you do that makes it all feel much more exciting.
are there tasks to incorporate in your edging that will bring it to life
other kinks you have to throw into the mix
and how he can best encourage and arouse you in what he says
my wife and I use private messaging all the time for passing hot little comments and ideas to each other
Well the options to explore with regards to the second are endless…I enjoy a *lot* of different things! The first is linked to motivation, which, I expect, can be inspired by the second.
Good, to sum it up, you need to make it fun.
I have some ideas. Thank you so much for responding. I will let you know how it goes!
Thank you! Is it okay if I post this as a response to your post, I think others will find it useful