Hi James! I’m getting into edging a few times a day but I just get so so so sore. I’m just doing clit stimulation and it gets to the point where after a few hours between edges I’m so raw and sore that I just don’t feel good anymore. Before I started edging I could only touch maybe three times a week if they were far enough apart because otherwise I’d be in so much pain. I’m not sure if I’m just sensitive or I’m going to hard, but I want to keep edging! What do I do?

That’s definitely unusual, you shouldn’t need to rub that hard to make yourself so sore. Have a look at lots of masturbation gifs on Tumblr and try a few different techniques you see, but here’s some other ideas:

• try it in the bath or shower, letting the water lubricate things a bit
• try actual lube on your fingers and on your clit hood/labia
• use a vibe – this is likely to help loads – see my toy recommendations for the kind of thing you want
• mix it up with penetration – fingers or a dildo, learn what feels good inside
• masturbate your asshole – yep, seriously – it’s nearly as sensitive as your clit – try it in the shower, it feels so naughty too. Maybe you should HAVE to do it to your ass if your clit is too sore, that’s a good rule…
• if none of the above help ask a trusted doctor for advice, really, they’d much rather answer that question than most of the crap they put up with

Let us know how you get on

James