Hi Susie,
So if you struggle with going over then a good strategy is to ‘coast’ your edging. That is, start off with a vibe to get yourself close and up to speed but then, and this is the tricky bit, turn it off and go to fingers only, and use them to keep you close but avoid going over so easily.
It raises an important point about masturbation with toys in general though, which is it’s good to not ALWAYS use vibes. You can definitely get over reliant on them, and ‘people don’t buzz’.
So getting back to basics with some good old finger action is recommended. I personally recommend your first edge of the day, that sleepy one in bed while you’re waking up, is a perfect one to just do fingers only. Save the big guns for your longer evening edge