Hi! First time asking. You have good ideas, so maybe you can help? I often read about fun in denial and all D/s dynamics. I seems like sub girls realy enjoy this! But since i started play with my Dom i dont feel any of this good feelin that ppl describe :(i tried to talk bout this to my Dom but he explain its not about my needs but about his and i must learn to take happiness only from pleasuring him cus i dont deserve care and respect. Plz tell me what Im doing wrong? How to be better sub?

You aren’t doing anything wrong.

Your ‘dom’ is an asshole, that’s the problem. Incompetent, probably abusive, undoubtedly an asshole. He’s not a dom, apart from using it as a fake title to use you as a free whore, not a sub. 

You are absolutely deserving of care and respect. This guy isn’t.

Some subs do love to be used and abused and treated the way he’s suggesting you should be. But that’s a choice they have made because they know it turns them on. And underlying that should still be a level of care and respect, even if how he treats you in ‘scenes’ is anything but.

You are so right saying denial and D/s should be fun, and enjoyable. If it isn’t, if you don’t feel cared for or respected, then something is wrong.

You will never have that with him. Not if he says that bullshit. He’s only out to use you and abuse you.

Ditch the loser as fast as you can, and put this down as a major learning experience.

Good doms are hard to find, but so worth it.