Hey James. I’m a denial slut, and I’ve been building up more and more self control. I haven’t came in a week, which, for me, is a long time! I was wondering, though– is it okay to cum as much as you want if you ruin the orgasms?

Firstly, well done, a week’s really impressive, good girl!

You’ve got to be a bit careful with ruins, they can really mess with you and make you feel awful (sometimes) especially if you do multiple ruins. It’s effectively releasing a lot of pleasure neurochemicals into your system but never really ‘using them up’ and especially not continuing on to release the dopamine and oxytocin that helps you get the post orgasm feelgood factor. 

So try them out and figure how you respond to them first. But once you have, no, you can’t ruin as much as you like. You can ruin as a reward instead of an orgasm (yes it’s fucked up but also so hot – it only makes you hornier after 20 or so minutes, it makes it worse).

But most of the time denial sluts should ONLY edge, not go over at all, ruin or otherwise. Clear?

Good!

And for the real masochistic denial sluts you have your orgasms taken away completely, and are only ever allowed ruins. It’s even meaner to pretend that a ruin IS a full orgasm, to take away even the ability to describe a full orgasm because ‘orgasm’ = ‘ruin’ instead.

A nice little mantra for those who get wet at this idea:

When I cum it’s a ruin, when I ruin it’s a cum