Hello! I really love your blog. I’m a 20 year old virgin girl who is new to all this edging stuff. I tried to edge myself some weeks ago and ended up lasting two days, but then my sexual excitement kind of… disappeared :( There are days in which I edge all day (like, more than 10 times) and then, during the night, I’m simply not able to have a real orgasm, it doesn’t feel good. Can you give me some tasks which I can fulfill in one or two days, in a way that I stay in the mood? Thanks !!! xoxo

If you’re new to this then it may simply be you’re overdoing it and you need to build up a little more slowly and let your body and mind adjust to being in a state of denial. It’s a little like a circuit breaker in a house, you overloaded it and the switch flipped off.

So, here’s what I want you to do. You’ve posted anonymously so I can’t be sure but it usually means you have a cute Tumblr blog, that is full of pretty pictures and inspiring quotes and possibly the odd selfie… none of which gives the slightest indication that inside the good girl there’s a horny, kinky little bitch just craving to be let loose. 

So let her out. Start a secondary blog, make it private so you can post to it without worrying about anyone seeing it, and start to reblog, for yourself, all the kinky, hot, sexy stuff you find that gets you wet and makes you want to touch yourself. I want a minimum of 20 reposts to it a day, PLUS you are to begin a ‘denial journal’ entry which you will record every day how you are feeling and the things you are doing.

‘The unexamined life is not worth living’ as Socrates is reported to have said.

And now to your denial. You are only allowed a maximum of five edges a day. Two of those must be first and last thing in bed. The other edges have to be at least an hour apart. You are to focus on keeping ‘on the edge’ for longer, rather than doing lots of them.

The other times you want to play? You can’t, not yet. You are not allowed to play with your clit or pussy outside of your five edge times. You may play with your breasts at any time, and you can browse and add to your blog, or watch porn, or read erotica. 

You are to play in the shower or bath, but not edge, and it is to include rubbing and fingering your asshole along with clit, nipples and pussy.

You’re to do three days like this, starting with a morning edge and all the way through to the fifth edge of that last day, when you have permission to have one orgasm.

Report in with how that’s worked for you, and then, assuming that’s gone well, it’s a week of denial next!