There are so many situations in which “trust your gut” is appropriate. But the most important and unerring gut check that everyone, both subs and Doms, should always trust is:
“Does having this person in my life make me feel better or worse about myself? Does having this person in my life make me a better person or less of a person? Does having this person in my life make me feel more genuinely me, or like I’m trying to be something I’m not in order to please that person?”
This.