Hello everyone, and especially all my new followers (which is basically all of you!).
On a recent post I mentioned the idea of Guided Masturbation. Why would you need that? I hear some of you ask, you know how to masturbate you’ve been doing it since (fill in age here).
Look, this isn’t to say you’re doing it wrong, per se, just as with many things, you may well have got stuck in a rut (pun not intended).
Letting someone else tell you how to do it can not only inspire new ideas, but it’s also pretty hot to imagine someone else controlling you. This has turned out to be quite long so I’ll post it in parts.
Imagine your fingers are someone else’s or that you’re being controlled somehow, your fingers, agents of another’s will, teasing you, enjoying you, masturbating you.
Easy as it would be to rush through this, try and take your time if you have it, if I were whispering these words in your ear (one of my favourite pasttimes) I’d make you take about an hour to do the following task.
You can, or course, orgasm at the end of this if you so wish, but given this is a blog about female orgasm denial, that isn’t the happy ending you’ll be getting in this particular story. You love it.
A note on vibrators
This is going to assume you have some kind of vibe, if you don’t, you really should invest in one, just a cheap little bullet vibe or egg. Lovehoney is best if you can shop online, otherwise find an Ann Summers if you’re UK like me. If you can’t risk that then electric toothbrushes are your friend or there’s even smartphone apps (I offer no warranty for water damage) … and otherwise, just use your fingers, it’s why God made arms the length they are!
Let’s begin
Get yourself somewhere comfortable, a bed, or sofa, somewhere you feel relaxed and comfortable. Start clothed – this is all about the tease and anything you wear can help us with that. You don’t really need a bra for this, if you have one on, lose it at an appropriate moment. You should have a couple of layers covering your mound, so panties plus trousers (pants) or a skirt (preferable to a dress as you’ll see, but just adapt).
So first, the rules…
- No cumming without permission
- No touching anywhere you’re not told to
Centring yourself
So to start with I want you to take a moment to really become much more aware of your body. Lie there, with your hands on your tummy, and read through this part as you try it.
I want you think about your toes, become very concious of them, how they feel, wiggle them, let your thoughts move up your feet, your ankles, calves to your knees, bend them just a little, open your legs a bit, let your thoughts move up your thighs, to your mons, your pussy lips, become very aware of them, the fabric covering you, how it feels from your waist down, under, through your legs, to your back. As you part your legs a little more feel your lips touching each other, perhaps you can feel them open just a little.
Then move your thoughts up, the weight of your hands on your tummy, those fingers that soon will be doing just what they are instructed, but not yet…
And then your breasts, I don’t care what you think of them, your breasts are amazing; no matter what they are like, there are thousands, perhaps millions of men who would do anything just to see them, let alone touch them, and you get to play with them as much as you want. Lucky girl.
Become aware of them now, again the fabric cupping them, your nipples, moving every so slightly against it as you breath. Take a deep breath, feel it move more. A few more deep breaths, feel your whole body relax as you breathe out each time.
Now you’ve done it with your eyes open, do it with your eyes shut.
Now we’re going to do it one more time, but this time your fingers are going to trace where your mind is thinking – to start bring your knees up and spread them a little, feet flat on the surface you’re lying on. Start with your knees, then trace down your thighs, when you get to your mound, lightly stroke it, and your breasts, cup and squeeze them gently.
Good, you should feel relaxed and very aware of your body now.
If you’re wearing a bra now’s a good time to take it off, ideally you want one layer of clothes covering your breasts.
Breast play
Even if it’s quick, I’ll often start a woman masturbating by playing with her breasts. Not only does it act for many like a starter engine for your pussy, but it reminds you that masturbation and denial are not just about that little area between your thighs, but your whole body.
You are sex. It’s why you exist; evolution, God, whatever you believe, there’s no denying you are made for sex. It’s where your life started. Fucking gave you life. Your whole body is designed to give, and receive pleasure, that beautiful, moistening pussy between your legs is designed to give and receive pleasure, so let’s practice now.
Slide your hands down to cup your breasts, through your top. Gently squeeze them and begin to run your fingers over them, spiral your fingers closer to your nipples and focus playing there until they are starting to get hard. Run your finger tips gently back and forth over them like you were filing your nails.
Go back to cupping them through your top and catch them between your finger and thumb, squeeze them gently for the first time, roll them between your fingers, feel them respond. But more importantly, feel the response between your legs. Your nipples are connnected there, every time you pull on them, squeeze them, rub them it’s making you want to touch your clit, finger your pussy, even more.
But you can’t, not yet.
Focus on your nipples, is it frustrating to not touch them directly? Good. Pinch them through your top again and this time, start tugging on them. Pinch them harder now, as hard as feels good. And then pull, pull until your fingers slip off your nipples, ‘milking’ them through your top. Feel the fabric dragged over them, the desire to touch your skin and not have your top in the way… and the ache between your legs grow.
Now bunch up your top at its base, and drag it up, right to your nipples, and pull that hem up and down over your breasts, over your nipples. Up and down, only the fabric pulling at them. Did you ever want to touch your breasts so much?
You can now. Slide your hands onto your bare skin for the first time and feel them, appreciate them, play with them. Run your fingertips lightly over your breasts, again, start to work towards your nipples, savour the fact you can touch them directly now, how good that feels. Begin to rub them, pinch them, pull them. Do it for as long as you can until the ache, the need between your legs grows too great.
Coming in part 2 – going down… http://goo.gl/SpmhYC