Dear Sir, I have a spetated hymen. :( this makes it hard to impossible to use the fun ben-wa balls I bought. I know I have to get the surgery for it, but I’m terrified of going under. Sir how can I make this a positive? (For those unaware: A spetated Hymen is when your hymen had a piece that strtches across the middle. it doesn’t stretch as well and can prevent the easy removal of a tampon. You can break it during intercourse but it best to have a gyno surgery.)

Hi there. I’m sorry to hear that, I’m sure that’s very frustrating. I’m not medically qualified but I’d be amazed if a hymenectomy was done under anything but a local anaesthetic. It’s just an outpatient treatment in almost all circumstances.

In terms of how to make this a positive, a couple of suggestions. Firstly I suggest you reward yourself for talking to a doctor about it… by buying a dildo. Yep, as you wait for the treatment they’ll recommend buy yourself a cute dildo as something to look forward to. Imagine how good it’s going to feel to be able to slide it inside you, get all excited about that, rather than worrying about the treatment.

Secondly if you don’t feel ready to go to the doctors yet maybe you could play around with putting a different spin on it in the meantime. How about imagining your body wants to deny you, that it’s ‘locked up’ your pussy on purpose to tease you, to make you wait for the pleasure and to learn to edge and long for it. If you’re really into denial you could vow not to cum fully until you can fill yourself too… how’s that for motivation. 

Septate Hymen – putting your pussy behind bars!