False: Very happy to be switchy with my wife, but I’m still really in charge. I can stop things with a look or a word, not even a safeword. It’s fun to see her step out and try topping, but it’s still very much under my control, as that makes her feel safe.

But actual subbing, no thanks. Can’t even get my head in that space, it’s just not how I’m wired. 

Men being submissive is sometimes a turn off actually. Not a big one, but compared to a woman being submissive, which to me is just ineffably sublime, it’s a big contrast in how it affects me.

Any fantasies I have of it, which are rare, all require me being forced somehow. Which again is hot and interesting, but I’m just dominant, no getting away from that one.

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