A couple of days ago I had to ruin an orgasm after accidentily going over. There is nothing wrong with that but I always strive for perfection and because I had slipped and wobbled, I felt like i’d failed. I see now I didn’t fail.
This challenge is teaching me so many new things and bringing out a side of me I didn’t know existed. It’s hopefully paving the way for longer periods of denial and a better sex life. It’s teaching me self-control and that it’s okay to stumble and fall sometimes but you have to get back up and continue.
I didn’t do my third edge tonight (or final 50 pussy smacks) Its kid #1’s birthday tomorrow so I spent a chunk of time wrapping presents this evening. Then kid #3 decided that midnight was time to get up and threw the tantrum from hell when I said no. Its now 2.15am, i’m too tired and i’ve got a busy day tomorrow. Normally, i’d think of something as simple as not completing the minimum edges as a failure. But it’s not. It’s just family life getting in the way of sex life. I won’t feel like i’ve disappointed anyone.
I’ve read a couple of blog posts from fellow juNO sluts, it seems like there’s a few of us stumbling and falling. This challenge isn’t about winning, its about exploration. If you have to ruin an orgasm, that’s okay. Don’t feel like edging? Don’t.
We’re all horny, dripping, messes so we’re going right somewhere.
Girl, you were the one who told me ruins are better than going over, and now you’ve felt dissapointed because you had one? 😛 I know it’s a challenge, but we’re doing it for ourselves, not other people, so the only one who could get disappointed is you. However there’s no need to feel that way, as ruins are clearly allowed. And you’re still having fun, that’s the most important thing about this challenge. Same with not being able to edge three times a day – everyone has a life apart from here, and it’s understandable someone can have no time or not be in the mood. Even if you’ve failed the challenge – which is something you’re not even close to, because I read your updates and I can see how good you’re handling it – you can always start again.
Just a little bit of encouragement from me to all the JuNO girls 🙂
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill
“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.” – Johnny Cash
“It’s not how far you fall, but how high you bounce that counts.” – Zig Ziglar
“Failure is so important. We speak about success all the time. It is the ability to resist failure or use failure that often leads to greater success. I’ve met people who don’t want to try for fear of failing.” – J.K. Rowling
“When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.” – Eloise Ristad
“Better failure than regret” – Me