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Hi James, I have a question about ruins, and since you are my biggest source when it comes to these subjects, I’ll try to ask you. I can’t make ruins work. When I ruin an orgasm it’s just as bad as one can expect, the problem however is that I don’t seem to be able to go back to that horny state, at all. Sometimes it takes me a day or two to get back even the smallest feeling of lust, and thats quite shitty. Do I ruin to often? Or are ruins just not my thing? I can’t be the only one can I?

Okay, well it may be, as you say, ruins just aren’t your thing. It’s worth […]

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Hey James, so I’m a Daddy and my precious little girl is a very anxious sub. She’s the kind of person who panics and drowns if you mind fuck her, so it’s completely out of the question, which we both don’t appreciate. Deep down she likes it, but in previous times we’ve tried it it got to the point of a panic attack or locking up. She’s really scared of safe wording, she’ll sooner dissociate than use the safe word. I’m running out of characters, so I’ll have to make another ask, hold on.

Anyway, I’ve tried being as helpful as I can, reminded her to safe word, aftercare-ing […]