Archive for : February, 2016

Are you home alone, princess? Good.

This is my number, it’s a premium rate line, $3 a minute. You’re to go to the kitchen, lie down on the floor, and dial the number, yes, on the family phone.

I’ll give you very specific instructions, I’m going to make you touch yourself, edge, and soak your little panties for me. But you will not be allowed to orgasm, not for the first hour at least, if at all.

Because as you lie there, obeying my instructions, I want you to know the entire time that your repressed, restrictive, boring parents are paying for me to turn their daughter into my perfect little denial slut.

Good girl.

And make sure to thank your daddy when he finally sees the phone bill.

By then you’ll be mine. And you can tell him you finally found a man who teaches you the discipline you crave. 

He might even be impressed. 

But I doubt it.

The Denial Dare Wheel Game

This is a game to be played with a very close friend (I might make a group version if this proves popular).

You are going to end up having sex if you don’t lose the game, that’s how far this will go, so just be aware – only do this with someone you are prepared in theory to go that far with.

The ‘easy’ options are weighted so they are far more likely. However, each time an option is picked it is removed from the game, so the harder ones get more and more common. This means if you start playing with it, make sure to refresh the page to get all the options back before you play.

This is best played on a computer as sometimes the words don’t appear fully on a phone etc, but you can scroll down to read what it should have been from the list.

Read the rules below the picture and then click the link below to begin!

The Denial Dare Wheel Game

The rules

Get yourselves in the mood first. Alcohol will definitely help, but not too much. 

Remember, this is a game. And it’s a dare game. Some of the things will be really pushing you. It is completely okay to stop at any time if you’re not having fun. Tell each other you understand and agree that.

If you want to you can go through the list down the wheel page and delete or change any of the choices. But it’s more fun not to really know what’s coming up and be aware that screws up the different weighting a bit.

Each of you takes a turn spinning the wheel and you have to do what it says. Sometimes this is for just you, sometimes it’s a joint dare.

How to lose

You get ONE pass where you can skip the task you are given. If you refuse to do a second task you lose the game!

Also, if you have an orgasm you LOSE the game, sometimes this will be your fault, sometimes it is the other person making you. You still lose.

The winner’s prize

The default winner’s prize is for the loser to be her slave for an hour. You have to do anything she tells you, which will possibly include going down on her and making her cum a lot (hint hint). You are of course allowed to agree a different prize BEFORE the game begins – you might want to make it for the rest of the day, or extend it much longer, or do something completely different!

On top of that the loser is not allowed to cum without the winner’s permission for THREE DAYS, but they have to edge four times a day at least or an extra day will be added on for each failed day (where you fail to edge four times or accidentally cum).

WINNER DENIAL BONUS – If the winner also chooses to be denied in the same way, then the loser must stay denied for as long as the winner, up to one whole week, at the end of which the loser has to make the winner cum three times before the loser is finally allowed to. The winner must ask the loser ‘Do you want to cum, or be denied for another week’ and stick with their decision.

It’s not called the Denial Dare Game for nothing!

Enjoy and I’d welcome any feedback on this!

James at

So me and my girlfriend (we’re gay) are 20 and 21, and she’s never had an orgasm due to medical conditions. Now she can, but she wants me to deny her until she turns 22 (in December). Is there anything we can do to make it more fun then just edging?

Holy shit I love you two already!

Firstly make her read my caption The Coin as you edge her, it’s a total mindfuck (trust me I know, it’s based on a true story) that fits your situation.

That’ll give her something to think about the ENTIRE time till her birthday.

In terms of getting more interesting than edging, absolutely, there’s lots you can do.

If she’s asking that then there’s usually an implicit (if it’s not already explicit) desire to be submissive to you. And we want to use that to build up more of the colour in the denial.

So firstly, practically there are a few main things to be doing:

  • edging by you
  • edging herself
  • ruined orgasms
  • no touch

You want to get a mix of those things going, if you haven’t done ruined orgasms read up from this blog on them, there’s plenty of advice. But a mix of dildo and clit stimulation, deliberately built up and up and then wrenched away just as you take her over the edge, well, it’s brutal and so fucking hot, and she’s be as horny as ever within about 20 minutes.

ALL the girls I train learn to do that pretty early but scoff when I say that before long they’ll beg to even be allowed that. They always do, in fact here’s the point Snowflake got to that in her journal:

“I think that was the first time that I really and truly, with every fiber of my being, wanted to be ruined. I’ve craved ruins before, but not like that. If James had allowed me at least that, I would’ve burst into tears, and maybe even a small victory dance. Any kind of relief would have been magnificent…But, I didn’t get that.

Instead I was stuffed, and left to vibe my clit – something that nearly pushed me over the edge countless times. It was actually a bit scary, as it felt like I was going from a 5 to a 10 in a matter of seconds. I genuinely thought I would slip over. The last time that happened…My pussy was whipped. But now, sitting here, fully clothed, I’m wishing I had slipped over. A ruin would’ve been worth whatever punishment he decided to give out (but I know that no matter how much I say it, I won’t do it, as my orgasms, ruined or not, belong to him”


So yes, play and learn how to ruin her, to make them as bad as possible, and then… don’t let her have those either! Not until they crave it INSTEAD of the orgasm. This is important because you still want them to have something to beg for, and if she isn’t cumming until December you’ve lost that ‘carrot’. That we can make a ruined orgasm a carrot is so fucked up, I love it.

As for the others, making her edge herself is great, that can be when you’re together or apart. If someone has self control then they can take themselves closer to the edge than you can, so it’s a nice contrast. And if you don’t live together it’s good to make her do it every day.

Assuming she is somewhat submissive already (from her request) be aware this will intensify that. Just have fun with it together, talk about it, and ENJOY it, because that’s what she wants more than anything. The most obvious part of this is she should be down between your legs a lot of the time! There’s a sense of your orgasms making up for a lack of hers, truly, she will learn to take pleasure in making you cum in a new way, and you need to give that to her regularly, as well as obviously it feeling amazing. The two most intense ways you ‘share’ your orgasm is firstly her being down between your legs and making you cum with your mouth, and secondly very intensely kissing as she makes you cum with hand toy or strap on. Those create the biggest connection in my experience.

Once she’s got really horny, see how a day of no touch affects her, it’s very different but for some it’s even more intense than being made to edge. Don’t do it for too long, but see how she reacts and it adds nice variation.

Other things that naturally flow from you controlling her orgasm are things like underwear control. You decide what she wears and if she’s allowed at all. Also sending her little instructions of what to do with them, remove, stuff, pull up hard or wear around thighs, are just brilliant easy ways to reinforce her horniness and submission.

Another kink that springs from denial is exploring anal stimulation further. It’s not for everyone, but in some ways it can act as a kind of Denial+ – not even their pussy gets played with, just their ass.

From initially hesitant almost all the girls I train learn to love it, and spend a LOT of time with their asses plugged. Get a nice comfy one, I’ve just added some recommendations on my toy page, do NOT go for pretty, they hurt.

In terms of communication, there’s the tip I regularly give about you learning how to get her really close to the edge by giving you numbers of how near cumming she is. You’ll soon learn how far you can take her. Ruining allows you to take her even further as you ARE planning to go over, but make use of that as you can drive her completely crazy with that new closeness to the edge. And yes, changing your mind when she thinks she’s about to be ruined is brutal and so fucking hot. I hope you like the idea of making her cry with frustration.

Another big tip for any couples is to get a shared secret blog on tumblr which you both regularly post to and look at together. It’s a wonderful way for new kinks and desires to gently emerge for you to talk about and explore.

Lastly, how about you try some denial too. If you haven’t already, agree to try it together for a few days, it’ll bring you closer and you can understand more of what she gets out of it. 

I hope that helps, good luck both of you and just hit me with any other questions if you want to, on here or messaging.

Wheel of Denial – Punishment


You asked for it, a lot, and now it’s here.

The wheel of punishment!

Now, when you go over the edge or even cum when you’re supposed to be denied, you have somewhere to go.

You have to do one spin if you went over and ruined it, and if you cum like a little harlot with no self control and ENJOY it… well, that’s THREE punishments for you!

You’ll soon learn, denial is better.

Good girls

Well shit, nearly 300 of you horny little fuckers have spun this thing in less than a day. You are very, very naughty! Yes I’m watching you, let’s see what the stats say…

Now this comes as no surprise, it’s you perverted Americans who have the least self control. It’s all that repressed sexuality. You should all be denied until you’re 21, that sounds like a good plan (it works so well for alcohol).

Oh but look, look, this is interesting, iPhone users lead the list wanting punishment, isn’t that interesting! And I though it would be the Windows Phone users who would be the most masochistic. Or maybe just there aren’t any of them… I suppose it’s not that surprising that those compelled to buy the shiniest trendy gadgets also have the worst self control.

Yep, very, very naughty, and I love you all!

PS to the girl asking where to aim when you get the breast smack result… you know, I’ll leave that to you. Whatever feels right. You can handle these big decisions.

I’ve cum going through this blog without permission so many times , how are you going to punish me humm?

With the new WHEEL OF PUNISHMENT of course!

Spin spin spin the wheel! Bad girls who cum and don’t ruin it get THREE spins! Good girls who accidentally go over and ruin it like they should only have to do one.

Oh and heads up, there’s ANOTHER wheel appearing tonight at 8pm GMT… 

Wheel of Denial – Punishment

You asked for it, a lot, and now it’s here.

The wheel of punishment!

Now, when you go over the edge or even cum when you’re supposed to be denied, you have somewhere to go.

You have to do one spin if you went over and ruined it, and if you cum like a little harlot with no self control and ENJOY it… well, that’s THREE punishments for you!

You’ll soon learn, denial is better.

Good girls

Light switches of the world

Denial edition:

Well this one won’t be an incentive to save energy for readers of this blog

Starwars nerd edition:

Unfortunate Catholic edition:

Deeply inappropriate Catholic edition:

(yes, it does actually say ‘honor they mother and father’ above the Jesus gloryhole)

Disney skank edition:

(Yep, that’s a fucking tattoo, on a woman who was offended when she got thrown out of Legoland because she had it bared around young kids…)

Lady edition:

Fawlty Towers real lady edition:

OMG this is adorable! It’s begging for a caption!  It’ll be my first male denial caption for this blog but hey, I know some of you lot will love it!

‘I want to try something new tonight darling,’ Christina shared over dinner. From the look in his eyes he clearly hoped that might mean she’d let him out of the cock cage that evening, it was five days since his last edging session.

He was right. He ended up strapped to the spare bed, gagged and blindfolded but sure enough she unlocked the cage and brought out something new, a square wooden board with a hole in the centre.

Just as she slid him through the hole the doorbell rang. ‘Oh perfect timing!’ she declared and went to the door, leaving him there, helpless, exposed and unable to see.

His wife’s heels clicked up the hallway and he heard not one voice but two as she came back, a muffled giggle that wasn’t hers put his heart in his mouth.

‘Sweetie’ she said, ‘Suzy next door has got her first boyfriend and I promised to teach her some tricks to keep him well behaved.’

‘Oh my god!’ exclaimed the teenager, ‘look how much bigger he’s getting!’

‘Really, they come a lot bigger than this,’ Christina confided. ‘My first lover was nearly twice this size. But of course bigger isn’t always better,’ she added, before whispering sotto voce, ‘Or that’s what we tell them’.

Both of them laughed as she handed Suzy some long satin gloves.

‘Big or small, they still all think with them. Which means you can control them through it too. Here, put these on and you can play with it if you want.’ 

An hour’s torment and teasing and penis bondage later Suzy gave a man her first ruined orgasm and her happy ‘Yes!’ was met with Christina’s delighted applause.

‘I think you’re a natural!’ she declared. ‘Let’s get a drink and I’ll tell you how to talk him into a cage into the first place. Has your boyfriend gone down on you yet by the way?’

‘You mean they go down… on us?’ Suzy asked, surprised.

‘Oh sweetie, I have so much to teach you,’ replied Christina, taking her by the hand and leading her to the kitchen.

Source: apparently

Is it weird that I want to know how your hands look?

A little, yes. 

You should be more interested in how they’d feel. My fingertips sliding over your body, finding you wet already as I explore between your legs, holding you on that edge longer than you knew possible as I get rougher and rougher with your nipples, my fingers alternating between your swollen aching clit and dripping pussy.

That’s even more interesting.

I just want you to know You are very professional about this entire blog and I enjoy your positivity and complete acceptance of everyone. You honestly create the most enjoyable way to learn about an amazing kink on tumblr, and you are extremely mature and well versed. Good job and I love this blog so much!

*nearly everyone

But thank you, that’s most encouraging.

Be brave, and come and say hi on the tumblr messenger some time. I promise not to let you cum!