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It’s Cyber(ing) Monday, so here’s MY special offer – want to try denial? Message me.

So a recurring theme of asks on this blog has been my lovely followers asking about motivation and help to be denied. So for this ‘cyber week’ I’m making you an offer, use Tumblr’s new messaging system to ask for my assistance and advice with your particular denial needs and I will see how I can help.

So if you’re one of those girls who gets so turned on by everything you read here, but haven’t tried it, or even has, but has failed because you had no one to direct you, then here’s your chance. Stop fantasising about it, and experience the reality. (If your pussy has started clenching or getting wet reading this already, then this means you).

While I love anonymous questions that are helpful to everyone when I reply, if you want some simple motivation and help trying orgasm denial, there’s nothing quite like having someone with experience to advice you and be accountable to, directly.

A number of you have already cottoned onto this idea and having messaged me now sit happily with your wet little cunts denied, aching and under my control. Well I thought I’d extend that offer to all my wonderful followers and see what happens.

A few caveats though. I’m a busy guy and as far as I’m aware the messaging system has no indication of if someone’s around – so if i don’t answer straight away I’m not ignoring you, I’m just not here.

Secondly, be engaging. I already get a lot of messages, try hard to be the one that stands out by being responsive and telling me about yourself and not making me drag every single fact out of you with a question. Please don’t make me work too hard to get answers out of you or it’s really slow going. Try not to be nervous, but decide to be excited about it instead. (Edging yourself before you message will help, seriously and yeah, it’s super hot too, and yes, I’m going to make you tell me you just did, and yes I’ll probably make you touch yourself as we chat, and no, you wont’ be cumming).

Thirdly, don’t expect too much at first. I can’t promise more than some initial advice and giving you someone to be accountable to as you try denial, but as those who I take on as my full time denial slut subs will tell you, it all starts there. And even that interaction and accountability make a huge difference.

So, is this for you? Want to give it a go? If so, follow these steps:

  1. Slip your hand down between your legs and rub your clit and decide if you seriously want to give control of it to a (very hot) complete stranger, if yes..
  2. Edge for me. Rub that clit and fuck your pussy until every fibre of your being screams for an orgasm. Keep yourself there for at least two minutes, or as long as you can cope with, and then stop. No cumming. If you can do this, you have the self control to be denied. Next step…
  3. Spread your legs, and no more touching apart from playing with your nipples if you have to. I want your aching cunt throbbing while you write your introductory message to me.
  4. Write me a message using the new Tumblr messaging function (or use the submit function if you don’t have access, but it can’t be anonymous, I’m not going to reply to anons in the blog on this, sorry. You CAN make your messages anonymous by opening a secondary blog but I promise to keep anything you say completely confidential, forever, however you contact me.)
  5. Use that first message to tell me about yourself:
    Name (pseudonyms are perfectly acceptable), age, location, yes, but I want more, what do you do, what excites you, what makes you interesting, why do you love my blog, why do you want to be denied, what experience have you got, of denial, sex, submission (none of any of them is perfectly fine).
    The MORE I KNOW about you the more I can give you tasks and instructions that will be good for you, excite you and give you a great denial experience. So tell me what turns you on, tease me with a photo, or a story of how you got into this and finally why you want me to deny you. Any mix of these things will be fabulous. 
    Daunting? Yeah, probably, but it’ll be worth the effort.

Either way, I promise to respond to messages as soon as I can, and we’ll see just what comes (or in most cases, doesn’t cum) of this crazy idea!

And if you write, you’re not to touch yourself until you hear back from me. The next time you masturbate will be because I tell you to, only nipples and pussy grinding if you’re desperate till then, just to keep you horny.

Good girl.

I look forward to hearing from you.

James

PS With thousands of followers this potentially might get overwhelming, so I reserve the right to pull the plug on it at any time, in other words, you want this, get on to it fast or you might miss out.

How do you feel about humiliation mixed with denial? Like “aw look at you, on the edge and begging me to cum. That’s so pathetic, of course you can’t sweetie.”

For many they are a heady and exciting mix. That includes me. And this is very counter to my standard behaviour, the whole ‘gentleman dom’ thing is very much my modus operandi, but more and more I find myself enjoying it if I know she does too.

It’s a hell of a lot of fun when we’re both ‘in the zone’. Humiliation is one of the most complex and fascinating kinks, I don’t really pretend to understand it, but somehow me switching to a teasing, condescending, even patronising tone when you’re just so desperate and horny, reminding you it’s your own fault you’re like this and that I know you love it, despite your protests, just makes the whole thing even hotter. 

Maybe it’s the fact it’s smashing one of the new taboos we’ve created. Actually daring to say that feminism doesn’t have to mean you hold onto all your hard won rights , but actually it’s the freedom to say, ‘fuck that, it’s the freedom to do what I WANT with them and that includes being free to enjoy being turned into a horny, desperate little slut who can’t cum without a guy’s permission!’

Even the phrase ‘Good girl’ is so damn patronising but tell me it doesn’t make your horny little cunt clench when you hear it and know I mean it.

So yes, very hot, but still very optional, denial can happily happen without it, but for some reason it seems to be a natural accompaniment, and if both of us love it, fuck what anyone else things.

I’ve come to realize that I’m really turned on by the idea of being denied, but I have never had and don’t currently have a partner to try this with. I have several other kinks but I’ve never really engaged in any of them because I’m afraid that actively being into weird stuff will make me feel weird and insecure around people. I almost want to say it’s pointless to deny myself if nobody else is involved, but should I try doing this to myself?

Okay, let’s address your worry about ‘weird stuff making you feel weird and insecure around people’ first, because my experience tells me you’ll discover the complete opposite. When you begin to explore your unique kinks and more importantly, discover how amazing your body and mind can be, I find it gives you more confidence in yourself and around other people. Not that it’s something public, no in fact it’s enjoying the secret, sexy, fun side of you which they don’t know about that makes that difference.

In fact often with women who ask me to deny them, they’ll relate experiences after a few weeks where friends ask them ‘what’s changed about you’. A tricky one to answer as, ‘this guy is making me edge all day and the fucker won’t let me cum’ isn’t an entirely socially acceptable answer.

So in my experience you ‘knowing yourself’ better will actually make you more confident around others. So get engaging with your kinks, get advice from those who have more experience (which you’re doing), and stop wondering and start finding out for yourself!

So then, to denying yourself. What have you go to lose? You’re over thinking this. Just try it. Try having one masturbation session where you simply don’t cum. Like that? Good, try two. Then try staying longer on the edge. Can’t take any more? Fine, have an orgasm and start again. Then do a whole day, edging at least four times, without cumming, and enjoy a crazy horny night where you discover you’ve fallen in love with it, and then decide not to cum the next day either… and then, welcome to being a denial slut.

Finally, if you want some support and to feel you’re doing it for someone else, message me! I’m a busy guy but I’ll do my best to respond and help. (And if you want to do it anonymously set up a secondary blog and message from that, but either way I will treat anything you say in the strictest confidence).

tl:dr: Just try it already!

Source: http://lauraillustrates.tumblr.com/ (cute although I have no idea why it’s a bee…)

Ah I think you misunderstand, trans male means I’m biologically female but identify as male ^_^’

Sorry, should have known that! Okay, that IS a new one on me from a denial perspective (damn, was in the mood for a cock cage, they’re such fun…). As before, hit me up on messages sometime and we can discuss what might work for you.

1) what are your turn ons and turn offs?? 2) do you have a tag for your voice or do you not post audio cause lusty said it was hot lol

Well, unsurprisingly denying someone their orgasms is my biggest turn on. It’s not just the fact it keeps you horny and desperate, it also works so well with my other major kink, it’s like the ‘gateway drug’ – which is, to get inside your head, and explore your incredible mind, to take you on a journey of discovery through the fantasies and kinks you have, and to find and develop new ones together with you. So that’s a whole mix of training, teaching, analysis, creating scenarios, and then coaching you to turn some of them in reality.

The Anais Nin quote, “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” is one of my favourite because that’s what I want to see in someone I do this with, to water you, and watch you grow, and see you break out of your present reality and blossom as you discover just what your amazing mind and body are capable of.

So yeah, turn on… I guess, gardening!

What’s interesting about that as my turn on is it tends to encompass whatever kinks the person I’m training already has, so I end up adopting, and usually enjoying them, because I see you being so excited about them. And that includes some pretty very kinky shit.

A reasonably big part of that is being sadistic. I do take pleasure in finding creative and kinky ways to cause someone pain, when they like it of course. Although there’s a very common link between denial and masochism, in part because the more turned on and horny you are, the more pain becomes pleasurable. But even more than physical, I love the psychological torment of denial. Taking you to such heights of frustration and horniness that you cry as you edge, and are denied yet again, is wonderful, and makes my cock hard as I listen to you weeping as you keep on rubbing, not allowed to cum, not allowed to stop, loving and hating it at the same time. Beautiful.

So yes, what I really look for is someone who has a desire to learn, who is willing to be submissive in that process (although I love helping a woman learn to be dominant, just, not over me!) and is hugely curious and open to try what I suggest. Outside of that I’m really pretty flexible.

Turn offs are more simple: stupidity (I’m a big sapiosexual, although bimbofication of an intelligent woman is ridiculously hot), laziness, rudeness, being taken for granted, hoods (don’t even get me started on gas masks) and yeah, scat doesn’t do anything for me (although even with that I find it fascinating if it does for the person I’m training). But yes, it’s a pretty small list. If you find something a huge turn on, I’ll probably get excited by the fact you do.

As to your second question, no voice tag, because that’s just something I do with those who have asked me to deny them – whispering instructions in your ear as you beg to be allowed to have the climax I’ve made you crave so much. The answer is usually ‘no’.

I just spent like an hour on your blog because I was like “yo, hot stuff”, but then I realized that I’m actually really interested in you as a person and how you work with all this. I also wanted to know if you’d take on my rather tricky case – I’m a pre-op trans guy but a very sexual being and very into denial. I just happen to suck at it. Almost all anons on here were female but I wasn’t sure if that was your preference…? I’m on mobile so I didn’t find any FAQ or anything ahhh sorry

Well thank you, so nice to know the blog’s hot, most appreciated! I tend to not say too much about myself here as this side of things doesn’t mix too well with my professional life, but as I get to know someone who wants to submit their orgasms to me then naturally I share more in the privacy of that.

Very happy to discuss how I can help with your denial, my favourite solution in a situation like yours is to cage that little boi clit between your legs with a combination lock only I know the solution to, insta-denial. 

I promise to let you out by Christmas; probably this one.

Message me and we can talk it through. This could be you…

Since other anon was ungrateful I think I’m going to steal her helpful answer for myself. ^~^ Likely won’t reblog 20 things a day, that’s my only complaint. ;)

That is very sweet, and I’m very glad you can make use of it. 20 does sound a lot but once you get into it it’s pretty easy, but any number is fine, it’s the idea of making your own little private blog that’s most helpful.

Hi!! Thank you very much for answering and taking your time to create a task for me. However, I need to be honest with you – I’m a college student who is taking her finals now. I don’t have time to create a sideblog now. Maybe when I’m on vacations? Also, sorry but I’m not going to touch my asshole this way, it is a limit of mine… And please, don’t call me “bitch” :( Anyway, I will gladly edge myself five times per day during three days, starting today, then I’ll write to you again. Alright?

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Edited to clarify: I don’t object to you having limits, or other commitments. What I object to is that in response to my lengthy response to your anonymous question you come back with a list of complaints that I can’t possibly have been aware of, anonymously again. If you want some tailored advice, grow some metaphorical balls and message me directly!

Emily came without permission, so after 50 pussy spanks and three brutal edgings her dom sent her to the front door for some, ‘corner time’ to think about what she’d done’. Dressed in the outfit he’d chosen while he watched her abuse herself, she was not allowed to move until he sent her a message giving his permission.

Her throbbing cunt and the juices slowly leaking down her thighs made it very hard to concentrate, but it was the thought that her’s father’s s key might open the door at any moment which really made the punishment so very intense.

Hello! I really love your blog. I’m a 20 year old virgin girl who is new to all this edging stuff. I tried to edge myself some weeks ago and ended up lasting two days, but then my sexual excitement kind of… disappeared :( There are days in which I edge all day (like, more than 10 times) and then, during the night, I’m simply not able to have a real orgasm, it doesn’t feel good. Can you give me some tasks which I can fulfill in one or two days, in a way that I stay in the mood? Thanks !!! xoxo

If you’re new to this then it may simply be you’re overdoing it and you need to build up a little more slowly and let your body and mind adjust to being in a state of denial. It’s a little like a circuit breaker in a house, you overloaded it and the switch flipped off.

So, here’s what I want you to do. You’ve posted anonymously so I can’t be sure but it usually means you have a cute Tumblr blog, that is full of pretty pictures and inspiring quotes and possibly the odd selfie… none of which gives the slightest indication that inside the good girl there’s a horny, kinky little bitch just craving to be let loose. 

So let her out. Start a secondary blog, make it private so you can post to it without worrying about anyone seeing it, and start to reblog, for yourself, all the kinky, hot, sexy stuff you find that gets you wet and makes you want to touch yourself. I want a minimum of 20 reposts to it a day, PLUS you are to begin a ‘denial journal’ entry which you will record every day how you are feeling and the things you are doing.

‘The unexamined life is not worth living’ as Socrates is reported to have said.

And now to your denial. You are only allowed a maximum of five edges a day. Two of those must be first and last thing in bed. The other edges have to be at least an hour apart. You are to focus on keeping ‘on the edge’ for longer, rather than doing lots of them.

The other times you want to play? You can’t, not yet. You are not allowed to play with your clit or pussy outside of your five edge times. You may play with your breasts at any time, and you can browse and add to your blog, or watch porn, or read erotica. 

You are to play in the shower or bath, but not edge, and it is to include rubbing and fingering your asshole along with clit, nipples and pussy.

You’re to do three days like this, starting with a morning edge and all the way through to the fifth edge of that last day, when you have permission to have one orgasm.

Report in with how that’s worked for you, and then, assuming that’s gone well, it’s a week of denial next!

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